We often encounter children who are as fragile as glass inside, who are always overly concerned about what others say about them, and even a small mistake or flaw can defeat them. However, this situation is not impossible to change. As parents, we have a responsibility to guide our children to be strong through appropriate words, help them relieve their inner stress, and face life's challenges positively. Here are three things I think I can say to my child:
We should start by telling our children that while they may not be doing what they want at this stage, it doesn't mean they haven't put in enough effort. They're already working on it, and they've shown resilience, which is commendable. We should tell them that failure is not the end, it is just a stage of challenge, something that must be faced on the road to growth. Moreover, failure does not represent a person's ability, nor does it determine a person's worth. The most important thing is how we should look at failure, rather than focusing on failure itself. We should show them that every failure has value and can be an opportunity for them to learn and grow.
We should encourage them to face their failures positively and learn from them so that they can go more smoothly in the future. We should tell them that they can only have the joy of success if they have experienced the pain of failure. This is just like the saying goes: "If you eat hard, you will become a superior person". As long as they can hold their breath and keep their composure, future success will surely await them right in front of their eyes. We should tell them that success is not achieved overnight, but requires step-by-step accumulation and hard work. We should encourage them to keep trying, persevere, and believe in their abilities and potential. Only in this way can they truly succeed and truly realize their dreams.
Then, in the process of teaching children to grow up, we must not only guide them to understand that there is no guarantee of the affection of others at any time, but also understand that the first thing we need to do is to respect the views and preferences of others, but also stick to our own principles and bottom lines, and not sacrifice our authenticity and independence because of catering to others. This is the quality that we must adhere to in the long journey of life, and only by being authentic and independent can we truly attract and retain true friends. As children grow up, we need to guide them to understand that what really touches people's hearts is their firm beliefs and charisma, which are truly convincing and respectable qualities, not just their outward performance and achievements. In this way, children can really understand that it is a very important thing to become a real person, a true self.
The last and most important point is to remind children to deal with their emotions properly. We all know that being tolerant and supportive of others, whether in a family environment or in school life, is not only a good quality, but also an important aspect of self-growth. However, in this process, we also need to learn to control our emotions and avoid letting negative emotions affect the people around us. When we encounter a conflict or contradiction, we should take a calm and rational approach to solve the problem, rather than just putting pressure on others or venting our emotions through anger and resentment, as those who tend to be emotional.
All in all, through the above three points, we hope to help children strengthen their mental resilience and improve their ability to cope with stress, so that they can better meet the many challenges in the future. Of course, achieving this goal requires our continued patience and careful comfort, and only by grasping this perseverance and love can we truly help those children who are sensitive and fragile at heart.