My name is Li Xiaofang, I am 30 years old this year, and my husband's name is Zhang Li, who is two years older than me. We have been married for six years and have a four-year-old son named Zhang Chen. The other day, I suddenly found out that I was pregnant. When I held the pregnancy test stick and saw the red line on it, my heart was full of mixed feelings. We never dared to have a second child, mainly because we were worried that we would not be able to raise it. I'm not just worried about money. With my current physical condition, it's hard to say whether I will be able to survive pregnancy. 
But on second thought, the medical conditions are much better now, and maybe this time it will be much smoother. And our family is already in better condition than before, maybe we can handle it. I decided to keep it a secret and tell my husband after thinking about it. After all, he has been under a lot of pressure at work lately. Just when I was struggling with whether to stay here, my sister-in-law called a **. She said: "Xiaofang, I heard that Dad said that you are going to have a second child? If it's true, you should stay! You know that all of us want you to have one soon, so that the two children have a companion. 
Don't you say? ”。I was a little embarrassed and said, "I'm not sure about this, we're still thinking about it." The sister-in-law immediately said, "Xiaofang, you must stay!" Why don't we give you 10,000 yuan, as the child's share of the money, buy some clothes for the child in the winter, and buy some toys in the summer, do you think it will work? "When I heard my sister-in-law's words, I had mixed feelings in my heart... 
I understand my sister-in-law's kindness and my parents' expectations. They just want our family to have a lot of children and raise them for generations, and we will be reunited together. But this 10,000 yuan is also a lot of ** for us. We are already at the threshold, and this money can help us alleviate a lot of financial pressure. But I still politely declined my sister-in-law: "Thank you, sister-in-law, you have always been kind to us." Let me discuss it with Zhang Li again, and we can handle it ourselves. hung up **, I told Zhang Zhang about it. He was also very hesitant, thinking that having a second child would increase the burden on the family. 
Besides, we can't live up to our parents' wishes. I nodded, and I felt justified. We decided to give this suggestion a good consideration. A few days later, Zhang Zhang received another **, which was called by my brother-in-law. The uncle said, "Zhang Li, I heard that you are going to have a second child?" Think about this for yourselves, it's important for you to be able to afford the child, not to care about other people's face. 
But it's not good to be strong, it's up to you to make your own decisions. Whatever you choose, we'll support you. After hearing this, Zhang Zhang fell silent. I know he's deep in thought. That night, Zhang Li said to me: "We still have to be sensible, having a second child is indeed a heavy burden for our family." I nodded, thinking he had a point. We decided to wait until the living conditions were better before having a second child. 
I was a little embarrassed and insisted that we would not change our minds and have children because of money. My sister-in-law didn't seem to believe me, and said that she could add it to 20,000 and give it to me in the end. I knew they had good intentions, but I couldn't accept it. So I firmly said that we would not ask for this money, that the decision had been made and that it would not change. Hung up**, both me and Zhang Li breathed a sigh of relief. We know that standing on our own principles is right. We will have children when we have more money, rather than being swayed by short-term money**. Since then, we haven't talked about it again. After a few more months, I noticed that my belly was getting bigger. 
Now this little guy has been born safely, and she is a lovely little daughter. I named her Li Siyi. Although it is hard to raise her, looking at her innocent smiling face, we feel that everything is worth it. I believe that as long as we work together and stick to our choices, we will be able to give our two children a warm home. Li Siyi is now three years old, she is white and tender, her big eyes are smart and cute, and she often makes us laugh. She and her brother Zhang Chen have a good relationship, and they are tired of playing games together every day. Although Li Li and I are still living in poverty, we are both working hard for the sake of our children and trying to save as much as possible. 
Zhang Li worked overtime to earn extra money, and we also slowly accumulated a little savings in case we needed it. I've often wondered if we hadn't turned down our family's kindness in the first place, and life would have been easier now. We don't regret our choice, and we don't change our minds for money. However, I found that my parents and parents-in-law were not enthusiastic about Li Siyi. They will only give Siyi some gifts perfunctorily during the festival, and love Chenchen even more. 
It makes me sad, but I also understand that the minds of the older generation are not easy to change. I can only take Siyi to their house more often, so that they can gradually accept this little life through intimate contact. Recently, my mom's attitude seems to have softened. Last week, our family went to celebrate her birthday, and my mother obviously looked at Siyi's eyes with warmth and affection. I felt like she had finally fully embraced our choices and repositioned her role, no longer expecting too much, but learning to adapt to the realities of our lives. Life inevitably encounters choices, but as long as we maintain self-confidence and trust our inner voice, we can get through it and get a new lease of life. 
Okay, I'm going to keep writing: Yesterday, I suddenly received a ** that shocked me. The one who called** was the sister-in-law who repeatedly persuaded us to have a second child a few years ago. She said in an excited tone that she was ready for a divorce because she couldn't stand her parents-in-law anymore. It turned out that the sister-in-law had been urged by her in-laws to have another child over the years. At first, my sister-in-law was able to cope with it, but then she had physical problems and was no longer suitable for pregnancy and childbirth.
The sister-in-law said that she couldn't bear it anymore and could no longer live in such an environment, so she decided to divorce her husband. I was very sad to hear this. On the one hand, I felt unworthy of what happened to my sister-in-law, and on the other hand, I sighed for my in-laws' stubbornness and incomprehension. When people reach old age, they tend to become stubborn, and the pressure will also be passed on to their daughters-in-law. Our generation should be tolerant and understanding of the elderly, not against them. So I said to my sister-in-law that maybe I could give myself some time to calm down first, and don't rush to divorce. I said that I could go with her to communicate with her in-laws and see if we could find a way that was acceptable to both parties.
My sister-in-law was finally moved by me and promised to wait and see for a few months. After discussing with my husband, I decided to go back to my hometown and talk to my parents. In the end, the parents finally nodded and said that they would reduce their love for their sister-in-law and leave her room to make her own decisions. I saw the relieved smiles in my parents' eyes, and knew that they were actually just a kind of parental care and expectation, not deliberately embarrassing my sister-in-law. Life is full of choices, but as long as you are considerate, tolerant and understanding of each other, you will definitely find a way that is acceptable to everyone. Okay, I'll keep writing:
After this communication, I found that my parents' attitudes towards our family also seemed to have changed. Last weekend, we went to help my parents with housework, and I found that their attitude towards Li Siyi was obviously much more affectionate. At dinner, I heard my father say to others, "My granddaughter is lovely and very pleasing to people, and my heart warms when I look at her." This time, my parents' sincere love for Li Siyi made me feel extremely gratified. It seems that they really opened their hearts and accepted Siyi's existence.
Then I happened to learn from my mother's small talk that my parents had discussed our situation after our last visit. Parents encourage each other, and as a result, they all spontaneously decide to change their degrees, giving us more family autonomy. It's never too late to change yourself. It is important to have the courage to identify the problem and then take action to correct it. Seeing the transformation of my parents, I also rethought my own approach to education.
I want to set an open-minded and inclusive environment for my children to grow up, rather than imposing their own expectations. When they make their own life decisions, I understand and support, not disagree. Each new life brings unique possibilities to this world. As parents, it is our responsibility to discover our children's talents and interests and help them grow up healthy and happy. The path of life is full of choices. We should keep an open and understanding heart in the face of each branch. Okay, I'll keep writing:
Yesterday, I received a surprise **, which was called by my sister-in-law. She excitedly told me that she was pregnant! It turned out that after I talked to my parents, the atmosphere at home did ease up a lot. The parents-in-law no longer forced the sister-in-law to have a second child, but took the initiative to care about her physical condition, often taking supplements for her to create a soothing environment. In the absence of pressure, the sister-in-law's health gradually improved. Recently she found out that she was pregnant, and it should have been two months since calculations. I am happy for my sister-in-law, and I am also happy for my in-laws' transformation. This proves to me that as long as we maintain a tolerant, understanding, and encouraging mindset, many difficulties in life can be slowly resolved.
I also reflected on whether I was too strict with my in-laws to change their minds, ignoring that as elders, they also need time to adapt to the changes in society. This also made me see that many contradictions in life stem from the collision of tradition and modernity. The role of our generation is to connect yesterday with tomorrow and to allow change to take place in harmony. I decided to look at my in-laws in a more positive way, and I would also spend time with them and listen to their inner feelings. Seeing the good news of my sister-in-law's pregnancy, I also began to think about whether to have another child. The thought made me nervous, but also looking forward to it.
Regardless of whether there are new family members in the future, I will try my best to create a warm, open-minded and respectful environment for my children to grow up. When there is understanding and encouragement among family members, life will be full of sunshine. I believe that as long as we have love and gratitude, we can overcome all difficulties and move towards a better tomorrow together. Okay, I'm going to keep writing: Yesterday, I struggled with the question of whether to have another child, and I finally got an answer.
I found out I was pregnant again! I was thrilled that a third life was about to come. I immediately told my husband the good news. At first, he was a little apprehensive, but soon he was infected with joy, happily shook my hand and said that this time we will be ready to welcome this new family member. After discussing it, we decided to keep it a secret for the time being, and we should be fully prepared before telling our parents. I distinctly remember their reaction to the last pregnancy, so this time I wanted to handle the process in a more orderly manner. I suggested that we could plan financially, such as saving some money for emergencies; There are also life arrangements in advance, such as contacting the kindergarten in advance to reserve places, etc. Two months later, my belly gradually became pregnant, and we decided to take the boat to the bridge and go straight naturally. So one weekend, we returned home with our two children to tell our parents the news in person. At first, both parents were a little surprised to hear that I was pregnant, but it quickly turned into joy. They said happily that they would give us their full support this time, and they would actively prepare for the arrival of this new life. I saw the joy of my parents from the bottom of my heart and knew that it was not easy to come by. It's the power of understanding and encouragement that touches a family. In the days that followed, I felt a lot of care and care from my parents. They no longer make any suggestions or requests, but are genuinely thinking about me as a pregnant woman.
When I was not in good health during pregnancy, my parents would come and take care of me and the baby. They will also be accompanied by a car during the inspection. All this made me feel the sincere love of my parents. When people reach old age, they will continue to learn and grow. I am relieved to see my parents open their minds to life. With their changes, they infected the whole family. It also gives me the strength to love my baby. I look forward to his safe arrival as a happy new member of this loving family. Ok, I'll keep writing:
With the care of my parents and in-laws, I survived a smooth pregnancy and finally gave birth to a pink boy in the hospital. We named Li Hao, which means full of vigor and expecting him to grow up happily in warm love. When Chenchen and Siyi saw their younger brother for the first time, they were very excited, vying to hug him, and said that they would definitely protect their younger brother. When I got home, I found that my parents had already cleaned the room and prepared a lot of supplies for the newborn.
Once Li Hao cried in the middle of the night, my husband and I were very tired, and our parents took the initiative to let us rest and take care of the children by ourselves. And my in-laws often call over to care, and they also told us that they are considering moving over to live with us and help take care of the children. Watching my family reunited, I felt like I was back in my childhood, and the images in my memory were full of laughter and warmth. In my memory, the family will sit together, tell their stories, listen to the radio, and spend a simple but happy time.
It was a feeling of slow life, a pure family connection between people. We are not rich, but we are content. What I want to do now is to let my children feel the same warmth and contentment. With my understanding and tolerance, I can dissolve the hustle and bustle of the outside world and retain the true emotions of life. Watching Hao Hao sleep in the crib and play with the cranes, I knew that my hard work had paid off. This peaceful happiness is what I want to protect, the feeling of home.