You must have heard a little story about a boy who drove a nail into a wooden board every time he lost his temper, and one day he pulled out all the nails, only to be surprised to find that the board was full of holes.
In other words, in redemption, every act of death you make is like putting a nail in the other person's already fragile heart. It's like a painful nail that you keep nailing, longing for you to get short-term feedback through this behavior, to get the other party's attention, but at the same time as you get feedback, the hurt is also brought to the other party.
So this state is undoubtedly a vicious circle.
Quantitative change leads to qualitative change, analogous to your previous experience of falling in love, it is also the accumulation of too many small emotions, this small emotion has accumulated with your contradictions again and again, sometimes you will choose to avoid, sometimes you will choose to endure it for a while, but the habit of causing small emotions has not changed.
So that's why I say that a lot of breakups, a lot of emotional breakdowns, are a lot of hard work.
The feelings of accumulated illness are like three feet of ice, neither a day's cold, how can you be in a hurry.
Don't rush forward, attitude improvement is just a sign.
Just because the castle on the gravel has just been built, it doesn't mean you can just stand on it, it will collapse.
Many people ride to each other's heads, impatiently write confession letters, send gifts, hit **, and even chase directly to the door.
It's good for you, make a big fuss like a heavenly palace, and the other party who is on the sidelines begins to be disappointed, alas, I thought you had changed, it's all fake, make a show for me, and the result is, okay, I don't want to toss with you anymore, this time, break it completely.
The more times he trusts you, the less you need to redeem it with a better state, and so on, and the vicious circle accumulates your sunk costs at the same time.
At this time, the people around him also stood up and said: Give up, you have worked so hard and paid so hard, but he still doesn't give him a chance.
I think your mood must be complicated and confused at this time.
Yes, it has been so long, it seems that he has been catching up with him very specially, but what about his ex, he has a cold posture on his head, as if the other party's dictionary has never been "understanding" and "gratitude", and he ignores your input.
In fact, at this time, what you have to reflect on is not whether she doesn't love you anymore.
Instead, I should think about whether I haven't done enough, whether my emotions are not in place, whether my efforts are effective, and whether my state is always up and down, and my emotions have fluctuated greatly during this period of redemption.
Is it because of my emotional unwillingness, or because I really love you, is what I'm doing now because I desperately want to ask you for emotional value, or am I really ready to face the person I love the most with a better self.
In many cases, it is not that there is hope to work hard, but that there is hope when there is hard work.
Do this with a calm heart, really put your heart at ease, put away the impetuous side, you know, there is also great energy to stick to many inconspicuous little things.
Sometimes the other person's denial is not a denial of your inner qualities, but a resistance to your actions.
You have to believe that what he loved at the beginning must be a calm you, not an aggressive you who is full of negative energy.
Deadly serial calls
Why the death? Long-form **-style emotional venting.
Why do you want to be lean and lean?
Knock on the blackboard, reading pressure is also pressure, children, don't give pressure in the early stage, the other party will avoid you if you feel uncomfortable, it is human nature to seek advantages and avoid disadvantages, and it is the same for him.
The road is long and resistant, the line is coming, the line is not quitting, and the future can be expected.