I have written a lot of emotional articles, and there is a question that everyone will fight over every time I talk about it.
Is there really pure friendship between men and women?
Some people say yes, and then take their friends as examples.
Some people say no, thinking that pure friendship between the opposite sex is all about one party being restrained.
To be honest, there must be pure friendships of the opposite sex, but,This kind of pure friendship is the same as the freshness of the love period, and it will deteriorate over time.
Either one of them is tempted first, or the two people are gradually estranged.
Just like when I was a student, if my classmates didn't have much intersection, they could probably be called ordinary friends.
But if the frequency of contact increases, the two people will gradually become closer, and the relationship will naturally change.
So,Between men and women, what is an ordinary friend?
Actually, this matter is not complicated, generally speaking, men and women get along, if there are no these 3 feelings, even if they are ordinary friends.
1.Won't be shy.
If it's just an ordinary friend, men and women will be relatively generous when getting along, and they won't feel shy or inhibited.
Because you care, it will make people timid, and you will become timid when communicating with each other.
In front of the people you like, everyone always wants to show their best side, and they will be afraid that they will not say anything to provoke the other party's disgust.
On the contrary, the communication pressure between ordinary friends will be much less, even if you say the wrong thing and anger the other party, just apologize, and you won't take it too seriously.
Therefore, when men and women get along, if they are just ordinary friends, the atmosphere is relaxed, not shy, not timid, and not ambiguous.
2.Won't be jealous.
Love is exclusive, even if it is just a one-sided liking, it will breed possessiveness.
Because I like it, I want to be exclusive, and I want the other party to belong only to me.
Therefore, between the opposite sex, if the two are just ordinary friends, they will not be jealous because the other party is close to other members of the opposite sex, will not be irritated by this, and will not feel that they are left out.
When friends get along with each other, they will respect each other's social freedom, because everyone has their own social circles, and there are all kinds of friends in these circles, and all kinds of exchanges between friends are very free.
3.I won't miss it.
When you like someone, you can't help but miss each other when you can't see each other.
This kind of longing, with a little anxiety, a little uneasiness.
This kind of longing is always concerned, all kinds of thinking about each other, and sometimes, even cranky.
And between ordinary friends, even if they don't see each other for a long time, they won't have a strong sense of longing.
They may occasionally think of each other and reminisce about the good times they spent together.
However, this kind of longing between ordinary friends will not be as strong as the longing in love, and it will not make people unable to hold themselves.
Actually,Whether it is pure friendship between men and women is really easy to judge.
Sometimes, the reason why everyone can't figure it out is mainly because one party has already moved, and the other party still hasn't moved.
In this case, if it is well disguised, then this pure friendship can be maintained for a while.
If it's more impulsive, then this pure friendship is basically over.
As for whether it will be upgraded to a lover or reduced to a stranger, it is difficult to say.
Finally, I want to say that,Love doesn't disappear for no reason
However, love may appear ...... inexplicably