When I was in my early 20s, I didn't feel much pressure. Because I wasn't married at that time, I didn't have any children. At that time, my parents were healthy, everything was in good shape, and I was still very happy.
But after 30+, I feel that I am under a lot of pressure, from the workplace, family, and interpersonal relationships, like a big mountain pressing on me. The trivialities of the family, you in the workplace, and me, I am very anxious and painful every day.
In the moment of pain, I chose to read myself, and then I happened to see a passage from a professor at Peking University: "In the eyes of many people, to endure hardship is to work hard, to endure hardship is to stay up late, and to endure hardship is not afraid of tiredness, in fact, this concept is one-sided." The real hardship is not necessarily the physical exertion of the muscles and the starvation of the body, but the super self-discipline and the ability to think independently, as well as the courage to discard all the things that make you comfortable and happy for a short time, and focus your time and energy on what you want to do.
This passage touched me so much. Low-level desires can be obtained by indulgence, high-level desires can be obtained by suffering, and top-level desires require a high degree of self-discipline. Because I don't want to be eliminated, I want to shine. When others are chasing dramas, watching **, shopping, partying, and chatting.
I chose to block everything. Uninstalled a certain sound, and the circle of friends was automatically blocked. Because these things don't make any real difference to me, they only cost me precious time. I'm pretty disciplined every day now.
There is a good saying: the world is yours and mine.
After all, it belongs to those who are in good health. So I didn't want to be left behind in terms of health, so I started to pay attention to eating high-sugar and oily foods, and I didn't touch them. Every day, I read books, read good articles written by others, and write down good sentences. Every day after eating, I take it out and read it to accumulate writing materials.
Over time, one day, you will be able to reach a level of brilliance that others can't reach. In 2024, start from the "heart" and continue to surpass yourself.