When I was young, I was always frustrated at every turn, and I felt that life was so difficult that I didn't know where the road ahead was.
Why does it take more time and willpower for others to grasp things easily?
After thinking about it for a few years, these questions that have been bothering me for a long time have gradually become clear.
Let's start with the conclusion, because at the beginning we stayed in the wrong environment and endured one-size-fits-all false teachings; It's like the story of The Ugly Duckling.
We imagine that if you are a duckling, you are born in a chicken pen by mistake, and all the chickens go to peck rice and catch bugs.
But you're a flat-mouthed person who can't eat with the chickens, can't dig holes and plop, and walk swaying from side to side.
In their eyes, you can't do anything.
Mother Chicken is sad to see you, although you can take care of this child now, what will you do when you grow up?
You don't know why you can't do it well, but in order not to disappoint your mother, you still try to adapt to the environment and do the painful but "right" thing.
Learn to peck at insects until your beak is worn out; Learn to plow the soil and flutter, and the clumsy movements will make you fall to the ground again and again.
These gregarious actions are not recognized, and in the eyes of the chickens, you are always an outlier, look at your appearance: webbed feet and no chicken sinkers.
The more you imitate, the more angry they become.
Chickens of the same age team up to bully you and fly up to peck at you, and you have to stagger and dodge, unable to figure out why.
You are obviously good at water, you like to play in the stream, and occasionally catch fish, and you happily carry the small fish back to the chicken pen, wanting to prove yourself.
But this behavior only came in exchange for criticism, because none of the chickens in the chicken pen like water, and asking you to stop doing these useless behaviors is a waste of time and not doing your job!
What should you do? I didn't do anything wrong, I was just born in the wrong environment.
Other chicks don't need to put in any effort to get basic skills you'll never learn, easily getting the respect you crave because you're playing their game.
That's why you feel that life is difficult, and you have to work harder to learn everything.
You let them go into the water and try it? Unfortunately, you don't think much about it at this time.
It wasn't until much later that you realized that you didn't belong here, and you stepped out of the chicken pen and prepared to face the unknown world alone.
Reality is not a fairy tale, the ugly duckling does not become a swan, and the tadpole cannot find its mother.
If a group of tadpoles swim across the street and recognize the ducks as their mothers, they will only be eaten one by one.
If a duckling listens to the story of the ugly duckling from a young age and tries desperately to imitate the swan's every move, will it become a swan when it grows up? No, it will turn into Donald Duck....
Just kidding, in fact, it turned into roast duck. The roast goose is 68 yuan a catty, and the roast duck is only 18 yuan a catty.
Don't forget that the ugly duckling is a swan in its own right, so it can become a swan.
I'm not sure if I'm a swan, and I'm not even sure if I'm a duck.
In order to survive, he tries to pretend to be a duck, can water, fly, and walk, but he is not proficient, just to eat a bite of food.
Who am I?" and "The meaning of life" are questions that no one else can answer for you. You need to see heaven and earth, and see all living beings, before you can see yourself.
It means that you need to meet enough people to know what kind of person you are not and what kind of person you don't want to be, so as to slowly determine your position.
After going through enough things, I know what I hate and what I am good at, so that I can find my mission in this life.
To get out of the original circle, the first step requires you to realize that what you are doing now is wrong, the circle is wrong, and it is wrong from the root!
In reality, many people can't take this step.
Because the sunk cost is too great, you need to give up and deny the past, so what have you been doing for more than ten years? It's all useless?
I left home at the age of fourteen and struggled long enough at the bottom to see enough cruelty.
It's so stupid until I'm 21....I think people generally have the opportunity to change at the age of 21.
There is not much basis for it, it is just summarized by observing the people around you. I found that my friends at this age began to have elders in their families who died of natural aging.
also began to experience some emotional setbacks; Most of the problems that can be encountered in society have been experienced on a small scale, that is, they are not led by themselves, but they really feel the whole process.
So I started thinking about it, and I felt that something was wrong and that I should make some changes.
Looking back at before I was 21 years old, I still have images in my memory, and I still feel uneasy and regurgitate often.
1.During the fire drill, he did not dare to add fuel to the fire, for fear that the tongue of fire would come up and detonate the plastic bottle in his hand. The instructor urged me again and again, but I still couldn't overcome my fear. In the face of my embarrassment, the people around me snickered.
2.The leader inspected, and as a newcomer at the time of the assembly, I was intentionally or unintentionally arranged to the head of the team, and the result can be imagined, the route was crooked, and I was out of the foreign appearance. Afterwards, I was named and punished for practicing my pace alone.
3.was speechless and embarrassed during the first live broadcast, and there were constant ridicules in the comment area: If you don't speak, start a live broadcast, get out.
And so on and so forth....Remember, you're the one who does things, and they don't do anything. Don't be afraid to make mistakes, don't be afraid of being ridiculed. If you don't do it, you won't go wrong.
Later, I was also successfully promoted to become the elite of the management elite, and the people who watched the excitement still stayed in place.
If you want to find your true self, you must shatter the surface from every setback, failure, and rejection until the shell falls off and reveals the truth.
Why do I advise you to do things you never thought possible? 》
It's normal for you to experience negative in the process. Don't resent them, they're just stupid, but not malicious.
You shouldn't even care about it, because they are definitely not as high as you are flying behind, so don't let this hatred become a burden to you.
If you think it's someone else's duty to be nice, you may be right, but that correctness doesn't do you any good.
Don't try to change others, all you can change is yourself.
Everyone is a victim of Prussian education - I don't care if you are a fish, a bear, a horse, a monkey, today we will take the test to climb trees, will you die or not?
I hope that you will strive to discover yourself, be yourself, and then create your own games and set your own rules.