Tolstoy said in "Anna Karenina" that happy families are all alike; Unfortunate families have their own misfortunes.
Every woman enters marriage with great expectations for the future, however, after experiencing the baptism of reality, many women begin to realize that marriage is not a safe haven, and they cannot simply think that marriage can bring happiness.
After realizing that they can't change the status quo, many women choose to play dumb, believing that it will bring long-lasting happiness.
However, happiness that is deliberately hidden and disguised is only temporary. To get a man's love, there are three things you can't do, especially the third thing, and that is a woman's eyes.
Most unhappy women have these 3 characteristics on their bodies that are obvious, and if they don't change, they will only hurt themselves.
1. Palm up: a full-time wife with no income.
There is a saying that the most dangerous job in the world is that of a housewife.
In the TV series "Good Things Come in Pairs", Lin Shuangshuang gave up her career after marriage and became a full-time wife, and has been relying on her husband Wei Ming to support her family. Just when she thought she would be happy forever, she found out that her husband had a lover outside. When she decided to divorce, she was scorned by her husband: "You eat my food, use my food, have you ever earned a penny for this family?"
After marriage, if the woman chooses to be a stay-at-home wife, then the entire household expenses will be borne by the man. Whether a man is caring and generous or not, a woman may feel dependent on him after reaching out frequently for money.
The so-called: eat people with a soft mouth and short hands. Economic status determines social status and family status.
Because housewives are too financially dependent on men, it is easy to contribute to machismo, and over time, happiness will gradually disappear.
2.Do everything yourself.
Zhang Ailing said in "Love in the Fallen City": "If I can't give you everything you want, at least I want you to get my love."
In the TV series "My Home is **", Han Rusu is a hardworking wife and mother. Not only does she have a stable and decent job, but she also takes care of her husband, the elderly, and her children. She sees her family as the most important thing and never knows how to relax herself. But the husband changed his mind. Some people also said: "Han Suru is good everywhere, but he is too good, but he is not as interesting as others."
Women are too diligent and worry that everything at home will be over, and men will naturally become lazier and lazier, and gradually become hands-off shopkeepers.
In short, if a woman works too hard, over time a man may take these things for granted, neither appreciating nor cherishing your efforts. can't get the love of a man, and even makes him fearless.
3.Losing Yourself: Taking Marriage Too Seriously.
Goethe said: "He who plays with life can achieve nothing; Those who cannot dominate themselves are always slaves.
In the TV series "The First Half of My Life", Luo Zijun is a woman who lost herself in marriage. Because her husband Chen Junsheng said to her: I will support you for a lifetime. She quit her job and was willing to be a full-time wife at home, focusing on petting, fire, stealing, and anti-junior, and gave up the pursuit of self. However, what she didn't expect was that her husband fell in love with this mediocre-looking female colleague.
It is a waste for a woman to lose herself; A woman will not be happy if she cannot live for herself.
Marriage is not the whole of life, and when a woman bets her life on marriage and love, she will only lose badly.
Conclusion: We often say that love is directly proportional to giving, and if you want to receive love, you must first learn to give. But many times we often forget that it's not that the more you give, the more you get, on the contrary, some efforts not only don't pay off, but also backfire.
Although marriage not only requires both husband and wife to be honest with each other, they also need to have their own principles and bottom lines. In marriage, a woman loves very much, and she must leave three points to love herself.
Happiness or misfortune doesn't depend solely on luck. When a woman can truly be herself and love herself, even in the face of a less ideal man, she can still rely on her own strength to obtain a man's love and happiness.