There is a cloud in the "Three Character Classic": If the son does not teach, the father is at fault. It means that it is the fault of the parents to give birth to the child and only raise it, and not to educate it. However, if we dig deeper into this sentence, it is not difficult to find that wrong education is better than no education. Therefore, wrong education is also the fault of parents. In fact, the role of parents should be a responsibility, a responsibility and an obligation for children. We all know that rights and obligations are mutually reinforcing, and that the enjoyment of rights requires the fulfilment of obligations. But in reality, many parents only see the rights of the role of parents, but ignore the obligations of this role. In this way, to face children with a high profile, resulting in the attributes of education from the essence to the extreme.
It is the sin of being born and not being raised, and the root of the evil is not being raised. It is a crime for parents to give birth to a child without raising it, which is tantamount to murder. Parents who do not educate their children are invisibly equivalent to planting hidden dangers and banes for their children, for themselves, and for their families. But if parents give their children the wrong guidance and improper education, it is tantamount to killing the child's life, devouring the child's health, and burying the child's future. This kind of case of not killing Beren, but Beren died because of me, abounds in ignorant family education. The worst thing is the child, success is also Xiao He, defeat is also Xiao He; Parents are born and parents are dead. Therefore, if anyone suffers a blow due to the original family and leads to depression, the parents have sins that cannot escape.
A child, at an age when he should be happy and carefree, is busy day and night. Is it a mistake of the times, or is it the wrong tutor? A child, at an age when he should be innocent, lives a life step by step. Is it the environmental problem, or is it the responsibility of the tutor? Children are the flowers of the motherland, the future of the nation, the hope of the family, and the inheritance of life. In the end, it is the vanity of parents that is wantonly eating away at the physical and mental health of their children; Or is it driven by the interests of capital and blatantly poisoning the happy time of children?
There is no easy word in the adult world, and who would have thought that the world of children is not as good as it. We need to work, and they need to learn; We need to make money, and they also have exams; We, Alexander, don't they carry the weight forward? It's unfair that we have so many ways and outlets to vent, but children have to bear it alone. We can quit our jobs when we are depressed, but they can't drop out of school when they are depressed in their studies. We can yell and lose our temper at them when we have an emotional breakdown, but they can't be disrespectful to us when we have an emotional breakdown. We can forgive ourselves for our emotional outbursts because we know that life is not easy; But they can't tolerate children's emotional out-of-control, thinking that they have no worries except for studying. We adults all need to be understood, and we need the comfort and companionship of our lovers; As a child, if you don't get the understanding of your parents, who else can give comfort and companionship? Who is harder than whom? Who is more difficult to live than whom?
In the vast majority of cases of depressed children, it is because they do not have the respect of their parents, let alone talk about understanding. The child said that he had back pain, and you said that the child ** has a waist? The child said that he was so tired, what do you say the child sighs? The child feels that he is depressed, and you say that the child is hypocritical. The child wants to give you advice, what do you say the child understands? But when your child's grades are not good, you want him to take all the responsibilities alone, reprimand him for being ignorant, disobedient, unserious, unconscious, and even accusing the child of being stupid and stupid. When a child makes a mistake, all the responsibility lies with the child; When your child needs you, you feel that your child is too pretentious and not conducive to independence. How many parents want their children to have independence under Western education, but also want to have authority under their own local education? Who is in a quandary for whom?
If we switch roles between our generation of parents and our generation of children, please believe that we may not necessarily do better than our children, and may even collapse and become depressed. So try to understand your child and respect their personality from the bottom of your heart. Whenever our emotions are about to explode, we should try to ask ourselves, if I were him, would I do better than him? If we had parents and an educational background like ourselves, would we have fallen ourselves? It is the sacred duty of parents to let children have a sound psychology; It is the greatest obligation of parents to keep their children away from depression; On the contrary, it is the unqualified and incompetent parents, so the parents of depressed children should have a sense of original sin.