"The sun doesn't set all at once. ”
This is a phrase I was told to me by a friend of my time. At that time, he was facing a breakup request from his girlfriend for "inappropriate personality". His mood seemed to be tormented by countless breakdowns, disappointments, and tears. And I, as a bystander, was able to see more.
1. Introspection and change
His girlfriend mentioned a series of problems: control, possessiveness, lack of motivation, half-assertive ......Although he was really kind to her, this love had turned into a kind of pressure. She felt tired and couldn't take it anymore. So, she said she broke up.
This reminds me of a saying: "The cheapest thing for a man is the gentleness that accomplishes nothing." "If you love her, you have to give her a better life. So, I advised him to introspect and work hard to improve himself. He agreed, giving himself half a year to make himself better.
2. Reconnect
During this time, he no longer reached out to her, but focused on his own life. He participated in fitness, reading, and social activities, enriching his social circle. He no longer revolves around her, but lets her see his change.
3. Chance encounters and displays
Two weeks later, he ran into her. He dressed up carefully, casually said hello and left. This made her curious and began to care about his current situation. His change made her re-examine him.
4. Start over
They get along like friends and rebuild their relationship. He no longer revolves around her, but has a life of his own. His girlfriend also began to take the initiative to chat with him, and eventually, they got back together.
This experience tells us that love needs to encourage each other to make progress together, and not to revolve around each other. Give each other a little space, trust each other, and think about the future. If you really love her, make a change and let her see your efforts.
Love is a climb that requires constant effort and perseverance. Perhaps, the inappropriate personality is only temporary, as long as you are willing to change and start over, maybe your love will be even better.