A person who can bring you happiness is more important than anything else, and this is the deep calling of every soul who seeks happiness. - A heartfelt word from Jo'er, a girl looking for true love.
What are we attracted to a person for? Is it his looks that move our hearts, his figure that perfectly meets the standards of our hearts, his charm that touches us, or is he the only one who accompanies us when we are alone and helpless? These can all be the reasons why we like someone.
There are many reasons to walk into a person's life and spend warm time with them, but there is really only one reason why this relationship lasts for a long time: happiness. Yes, the person who always makes you smile and brings you joy is more important than anything.
Nina recently had a new boyfriend, which surprised many people. The boy was neither tall nor handsome, let alone rich. Compared with the high-quality men around Nina who once chased after him, he is like the water of the Yellow River coming from the sky. But strangely, Nina seems to be deeply happy in this relationship.
At a friend's party, my curiosity drove me to ask her why. She looked down thoughtfully, then smiled and told me that she didn't know why, but she felt special joy when she was with that man.
He's not the kind of beautiful man who lingers, he's used to talking honey and is good at decorating relationships. But by his side, Nina could always feel a touch of sweetness. She couldn't even stop her joy, so her eyebrows and eyes were bent into the moon. She said that with him, she felt very satisfied, like a secret little happiness.
In her time with him, Nina felt no pressure and didn't have to deal with trivial worries. She doesn't need to worry about him getting bored all of a sudden, she just needs to be immersed in the feeling of loving and being loved. Their love is as cool as the last bottle of iced Coke in the summer commissary, bringing Nina full of joy.
It is often said that only money can sustain that simple happiness as we grow older, but I am different. As the years go by, you will find that the complex love story is not so difficult to understand, but everything becomes extremely simple - as long as you find someone who can make you feel happy at all times, as long as you think of him, you can't help but curl the corners of your mouth, that's enough.
Before I met him, I had met many boys, and I knew that they didn't really love me that much, but they always made me critical of me in the name of love and care. They want me to control my temper, they want me not to get angry easily, they want me to obey everything they do. However, for the boy I loved the most, all he wanted was for me to be happy.
A person who can bring you joy, he is more important than anything else.
There is a quote from Haruki Murakami that I have always kept in mind: "The best criterion for judging whether something is valuable is whether you feel happy when you look at it." ”
The same is true of the law of happiness in love, whether this person is worth spending a lifetime with you or not, the key is whether he can bring you lasting happiness.
You may have a deep affection for someone and a deep love for them, but you are immersed in stress every day, and your daily life is full of quarrels, cold wars, and hurts, and you cannot find peace in them. Frankly speaking, there is no need to torture each other in such a life.
You are not the heroine of a tragic drama, you must be painfully obsessed with the sorrow to the end, real life is not always like a fairy tale, the final result after waiting for pain may just be a haunt and a painful memory that you can't let go.
You may have countless reasons to defend him, and your heart may be full of hesitation, but none of these can be used as reasons for you to continue to endure painful feelings.
As Zhang Ailing said, the person who makes you cry may be the person you love the most; And the person who makes you laugh and get carried away is the one who loves you the most.
True love may make you cry, but eventually it will make you laugh. Perhaps compared to the smile on your face when you are single, that trace of crying in love is not a bad thing, because after crying, he will make you laugh again, and that happiness is extraordinarily sweet.
If you can, I would like you to choose the person you can live with who makes you happy, not the person you have to accommodate. Go and find that soulmate, you love each other deeply, no mustard, no deception, no pain, no tears, no bleak and pale nights.
The clash of personalities can be treated dialectically, and the clash of habits can be humbled and compromised, but the most important thing is that the relationship should bring you laughter, if it is positive, if it is what you yearn for. Life is like a white horse, and you need to be accompanied by the person who makes you smile like a flower. Those who truly love you will spend time with you when you are sad; Those who love you deeply will go out of their way to make you laugh.
We are about to enter a certain stage of our life, and we are constantly thinking about who we are going to spend this phase with, how we should spend it, and how long we will need to spend it. Some people use love as a starting point, some people take into account material needs, some value physical beauty, some value the future, and some people are driven by pressure. However, when you do start spending your life with the person you choose, you will find that it is enough wealth and a non-offensive appearance that really matters.
True happiness is simple without a special reason. As long as you have more smiles than tears, you can say you've got the right person.
People meet and know each other, like a mysterious magnetic field gravity, there will always be such a person, so that your heart beats out of control at the moment you meet him, and doing anything with him will make your heart full of endless joy. Maybe in the eyes of the public, you are not a match made in heaven, maybe there is some gap in economic class, or maybe you have very different tastes and hobbies, it doesn't really matter. Because, the most important thing is that your days together are full of great joy. He will listen to your words with full attention, and treasure them in his heart like treasures; He remembers every little thing you love, and then surprises you in a casual moment; He puts your emotions first and loves you with all his heart....
I know that most happy moments are a fleeting flash of light, twinkling like a star in life, and each one is worth chasing and cherishing with all our might. And all the pain and exhaustion of the past turn into wine in the moment of joy, making our life more flavorful. So, we don't need too many words, let's cherish and stay in the moment.
When happiness comes, you know that it is short-lived, and you know that it will eventually leave you, bringing endless gaps and sorrows. I am undoubtedly both looking forward and dreading about the future, but if I had to make a choice, I would rather try that momentary happiness than avoid the long-term sadness that comes with it. Share joy with those you love, no matter whether fate is a blessing or a curse. We learn to understand that no matter where we are, what feelings we have for a long time, the ultimate goal of life is always not feelings, but our own joy.
Our existence is so short, the only thing that ensures is that we only have one life. So we choose to be with the friends who make us happy, love the people who don't let us cry, move in the direction we desire, and pursue all our dreams, big and small.
If life can be laughing, why should it be gloomy?