In recent days, "there are more divorces on the first day of the new year than marriages"** swipe.
Today, two authoritative pieces of news came: it was untrue.
First, there is an interview with the local Civil Affairs Bureau. Huainan Civil Affairs Bureau of Anhui Province responded: The actual situation is not as exaggerated as ** said, and the proportion of marriage and divorce on that day is at a normal level. There is also no such thing as "you have to wait 5 days to make an appointment for divorce", and "people who work in this place have to work in three shifts".
According to ** report, the public security organs have intervened in the investigation, and the photographer Wang confessed to the illegal acts and was administratively detained.
According to the investigation, on February 18, 2024, Wang went to the Shou County Government Affairs Service Center to register his marriage, and filmed a video of a crowd queuing up in the copying room where materials were copied and photographed, and fabricated rumors to publish them on the short** platform, causing a bad social impact.
According to ** reports, this rumor is actually not "new", and similar rumors appeared after the Spring Festival a year ago, and many places have refuted the rumors.
The question is, why does a rumor come on and forth and so many people can believe it?
1) There are two characteristics of rumors, one is false, and the other is false and true, that is, they seem to be true. Otherwise, it will not be possible to attract a large number of believers and cause "social impact".
To be able to be true, there must be a certain foundation of authenticity.
If it is repeated and many people believe it, the basis for its authenticity is even stronger.
As far as the rumor of "divorce is more than marriage" is concerned, there are two truths: one is people's personal feelings, and the other is authoritative statistics.
From these two points, the rising divorce rate is a real problem, not a rumor.
2) Judging from people's feelings, looking around, there are no divorces around them. It's just that some of them are public, and some of them are secret, and they don't want to be outsiders.
When I returned home for the Chinese New Year, I also heard how many young people in the village were divorced, and young people could also learn from their parents how many children in their parents' circle were divorced, and so on.
And even in the state of marriage, how many are on the verge of disintegration, but they are barely able to survive for various reasons. For example, for the growth of children, for the sake of parents' face, and even for the sake of life ......
But even so, the increase in divorces is a fact that is visible to the naked eye.
Therefore, in the comments of the aforementioned rumor news, we will see many comments that agree with it. For example: "Instead of suffering, it is better to separate one and two wide"; "There are many trivial matters during the New Year, and if you don't agree, you will get divorced" ......
American scholar Roland Miller, in his book "Intimate Relationships", talked about the rising divorce rate in the United States
Why is the divorce rate rising? Compared to the age of our ancestors, the possible reasons are:
We desire more from our marriage and have higher expectations for it.
Working women are more financially free, have more opportunities to be close to attractive alternative partners, and face increasing conflicts between work and family;
Rising individualism and social mobility have left us less connected to, and less influenced by, the community norms that discourage divorce;
New laws have made divorce more acceptable and the divorce process simpler;
Casual cohabitation weakens the commitment to marriage;
Children from divorced families are more likely to get divorced when they grow up.
All of the above can be applied to our country's economic and social development and cultural changes.
3) The increase in the divorce rate is not only due to feelings, but also to data support.
Scholar Yang Juhua et al. mentioned in "Analysis of the Trend of Divorce Rate Changes and Characteristics of Divorce Populations in China" that in the more than 40 years from 1978 to 2019, except for slight fluctuations in some years, the divorce rate has generally increased rapidly, from 018 to 3 in 201936, an increase of 17 times. In 2002, the divorce rate had risen at a slower rate, with an average annual increase of 003, and the average annual growth rate since then has exceeded 015, the growth rate increased by 0 on average11 thousandths.
Compared with the countries that are also in the Confucian cultural circle, China also exceeds the 21 and 13. Become one of the countries with a high divorce rate.
Talking about the reasons, Yang Juhua and others believe that they are closely related to the revision and improvement of the "Marriage Law of the People's Republic of China", the process of industrialization, urbanization and modernization since the reform and opening up, and the changes in the cultural system of marriage and family. Divorce procedures are becoming more and more simplified, and emotional breakdown has gradually become the only legal ground for divorce, and the cost of divorce has been greatly reduced. People are more tolerant of divorce, and the negative labels that used to be attached to (women) as "divorcees" are gradually diluting. As society becomes more pluralistic and diverse, the attractiveness of marriage decreases and the substitution of marriage increases; On the other hand, marriage has transformed from an irreplaceable identity attribute to a more distinctive contractual feature, with more emphasis on the spirit of autonomy, freedom and equality in the marital relationship, and the stability of marriage (family) has also been shaken.
Translated into the vernacular, divorce is getting simpler and simpler, unlike the original article **, "too lazy to divorce", because divorce is not easy. And the weakening of the economic function of marriage has led to the fact that no one can do without anyone. With the enhancement of individual consciousness, children, parents, etc., may not become a strong bond to maintain marriage.
4) Writer Xu Kun was moved by the changes in the marital status of society and wrote a book called "Sacred Marriage".
The reason why the holy marriage is shouted out is because the "sacred" has been challenged.
In February, the Dynamic Incentive Plan told about several marital relationships, one of which was Cheng Tiantian and Sun Ziyang, who were returning from studying abroad and preparing to get married, who decided to buy a house in Beijing because Sun Ziyang was admitted to an accounting firm in Beijing; The second is Sun Ziyang's parents Yu Fengxian and Sun Yaodi, in order to buy a house for Sun Ziyang, they obtained the qualification to buy a house by going through a "fake divorce", but they never thought that something would happen, and Sun Yaodi married someone else after the divorce; The third is lawyers Gu Weiwei and Sa Zhishan, Gu Weiwei's strength made Sa Zhishan very depressed, so he went to the grassroots level to take up a temporary post, and finally the marriage dissolved and started a new work and life.
Xu Kun said, "Women may not know for a long time that they will always carry emotional garbage on the road and cannot give up, but after the collapse, they will redeem themselves, find their own value in a broader space, and move forward, and life should move forward like this, not looking backwards." ”
As a bond in society, the function of the family is indispensable, and the value of marriage to the individual and society cannot be underestimated. Therefore, marriage is still sacred.
However, you can't kidnap a person just because it's "sacred", just like Xu Kun said, "carrying garbage on the road". As the critic said, ""Holy Marriage" hopes that young people will practice life and love, life is indeed unsatisfactory, and marriage sighs, but there must be faith and the light of hope in your heart, it is not a big deal."
In the face of marriage, how individuals should choose must be opinions. The country, society, and family also have their own value orientations, and a new balance will eventually be formed in the multi-choice game.