Communication between people is a daily necessity, but many parents express great distress when communicating with their children. Some parents feel that communicating with their children is actually very simple, and they feel that there are no skills that need to be understood.
There are also some young parents who talk to their children and feel that there is no topic to discuss with their children, just ask their children what to eat and what they do on campus, and the rest is some small talk, but the children seem to dislike communication very much.
Why not guarantee the communication between them, why not guarantee the following aspects.
1.Take your time to listen.
To see if a person communicates sincerely, we must consider it from the child's point of view and express it reasonably. We must understand the child's situation and his state of mind. At the same time, we should strive to maintain our children's self-esteem, improve their self-confidence, and let them speak their true experiences.
Then, as a parent, be sure to listen carefully to what your child is saying, recognize each other, and be especially focused. Don't make superfluous gestures and don't show a nonchalant attitude. Don't interrupt children when they're talking.
Listen more to the child's thoughts, in order to understand the meaning of his words, in order to feel the child's careful thoughts, and respond as much as possible, so that the communication between two people will be more reasonable.
2.When communicating with your child, it is important to take the best opportunity to avoid hurting your child's self-esteem
When is the best time for parent-child communication? The low point of physical activity is between 5 and 7 p.m., and the child is in urgent need of rejuvenation. Therefore, it makes no sense for parents to talk to a child about serious topics such as learning and behavior as soon as he comes home from school. At this moment, both children and parents are very tired, not only unable to concentrate, but also not good at regulating emotions. After dinner, everyone's mood is slowly optimistic, and it is a better opportunity to talk. At this time, parents can find their child's focus or excitement and thus express their opinion. Of course, conflicts in parent-child relationships are also unavoidable. At this time, parents should adhere to a principle so as not to hurt their children's self-esteem. When a child makes a mistake, parents can blame the child, but not or hurt the child.
3. Sincere praise.
In fact, when people get along with others, they like to criticize others unconsciously and don't like to be blamed. In fact, it is the same with children, they want to be praised and supported by their parents.
When facing a child, you must pay attention to the eyes that must be close so that the child does not feel particularly cold.
When a child achieves results, be sure to praise them sincerely from the heart, which will bring happiness to the child and also improve the child's interest in learning.
4. Rely on communication to release the work pressure in children's hearts.The experience of growing up is joyful, but there are also boring moments. There are developmental problems to face at every age, and there is pressure on the child's heart, maybe it is the test scores, maybe it is between students, education is not a trivial matter, the child is older than a day, parents should really listen to the child, let the child easily say deep work pressure.
Culturally educated children, such as raising flowers, can succeed through careful watering, fertilization, and love. However, in fact, not everyone can raise flowers well. If you don't understand, you need to consult others, learn and train the accumulated experience and art of growing flowers.
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