People should always uphold a core of compassion and kindness, manage their family business with the virtue of diligence and thrift, and adopt a humble and tolerant attitude when dealing with people. In the wisdom classic "Tao Te Ching", there is a saying: "It is precisely because it is indisputable, so no one in the world can compete with it." This is the supreme state of indifference and tolerance.
endure the calm for a while, take a step back and open the sky", this is a high degree of condensation of the wisdom of life. If you tolerate things a little, the waves of life will return to tranquility; Take a step back at the right time, and your mind will be as open as the sea.
Some trivial disputes in life, you might as well give it up magnanimously, in fact, it is not a big deal; Learn not to worry about it, and your heart will also get a rare comfort and peace because of this.
What's the point of making people three? This is not only a noble cultivation, but also a kind of detachment and sublimation of one's own life. Always being tolerant and forgiving others is actually paving a blessed life path for yourself.
Spending one's life is immeasurably blessed, and this is the far-reaching influence and precious gift brought by that compassionate, kind, humble and forbearant heart.
Let the villain be wise
Lao Tzu once said: "Good is like water, and water is good for all things without fighting." This means that the noblest qualities are like flowing water, silently nourishing all things in the world, but never competing with them.
The big trees stand majestically and do not compete with the overgrown weeds; The gentleman is outstanding, and he disdains to talk about the short and long with the young. In the face of those deliberately provocative villains, we should learn to avoid their edges, stay away from distractions, why bother with their general knowledge and fall into meaningless disputes.
In an ancient temple, there was a young Taoist priest who shouldered the heavy responsibility of going down the mountain to carry water, and on the way he met a messenger who was happy to cause trouble.
Seeing that the little Taoist priest was working hard to carry water, this person was joking, so he hurriedly stepped forward and said falsely: "Little master, I have traveled a long distance and am thirsty, can I beg for saliva to drink?" ”
When the little Taoist priest heard this, he immediately put down the bucket on his shoulder, and was about to take a spoon and scoop water as a gift, but unexpectedly, the passer-by directly put his dusty hand into the bucket, held the water and drank it, instantly defiling the entire bucket of clear water.
In desperation, the little Taoist priest had no choice but to dump the sewage and return to the well to draw water. However, the passer-by did not leave, and when the little Taoist priest returned again, he made a new request: "Little master, I am sweating from rushing around, can I borrow your water to wash my face?" ”
Without waiting for the little Taoist priest to respond, he used the water in the bucket as a face wash by himself. The clever little Taoist priest saw that this person did it on purpose, but he did not get angry, but chose to forbear and tolerate, and let the other party waste the precious water source.
In the end, the little Taoist priest calmly took up the freshly drawn water and set out on the way home again, and the passer-by who had repeatedly teased him was still waiting in place.
This time, passers-by couldn't help but show confusion and asked the little master: "Little master, I have accidentally polluted your water several times, but you are not angry about it, why is this?" ”
After hearing this, the little Taoist priest was filled with a faint smile on his face, and calmly responded: "I carry water to provide people with daily washing and drinking, so I have no complaints." But you, donor, if you delay your trip any longer, I am afraid that the letter in your hand will be delayed. ”
This remark made the passer-by suddenly remember that he still had important things to do, and suddenly felt that his time had been wasted, so he ran anxiously and whispered to this seemingly cunning but wise little Taoist priest.
There is a cloud in the Tao Te Ching: "The way of heaven is beneficial but not harmful; The way of the saint is indisputable. This sentence aptly reflects the situation at this time.
There are always some people in life who like to make a fuss about nothing, and in the face of such villains, timely concessions are not a sign of weakness, but a wise realization that it is not worth worrying about trivial matters with such people. Silence is often the most powerful response to distractions.
The so-called "let" is not too careful, smile indifferently, and do not need to cause conflicts on trivial matters. Don't debunk, don't break it, because there is justice between heaven and earth, and people's hearts have their own scales.
Therefore, in the journey of life, being able to retreat in time when encountering the provocation of the villain is also a kind of hidden wisdom of life.
Let friends be a win-win situation
A popular song of forbearance and humiliation once sang: "Take a step back, the world is wide, the amount of blessings is deep, and the troubles dissipate by themselves." "In interpersonal communication, especially between friends, knowing how to give in and tolerate each other is not only a virtue, but also the foundation for common career success.
In a prestigious Taoist temple, the elder brother won the respect of everyone for his outstanding humility.
Once, **led** the ladies to return late at night, and everyone scrambled for a place to rest, and even grabbed the bed that originally belonged to the elder brother. However, he did not join the competition because of this, and chose to sit alone outside the house under the big tree to spend the cold night.
In the early morning of the next day, when the other ** found that the senior brother had sat quietly in the cold wind all night, their hearts were full of guilt and reflection. Since then, the people no longer compete for a place, but begin to be courteous to each other, this harmonious atmosphere makes the reputation of the Taoist temple more far-reaching.
Lao Tzu's wisdom in his book "Tao Te Ching" is still in my ears: "When the Great Dao is implemented, do not be harsh on others." "The same is true for friends to get along with each other, you should put yourself in the other person's shoes, and if you want to achieve your own merits, you should first help your friends succeed. True friends are like building a stage, fulfilling each other and sharing glory.
It is difficult to take advantage of the momentary benefits, and only those who share the blessings and woes and the weal and the woe can be called true friends. Strong friendships are not a godsend, but are built through constant giving and humility; A good relationship does not come out of nowhere, it needs to be exchanged and maintained with a sincere heart.
Between friends, you should be honest with each other, treat each other with all sincerity, go hand in hand on the road of career, and respect and understand each other in the bits and pieces of life, so as to achieve real mutual benefit and win-win results, so that the tree of friendship is evergreen.
Let the family be affectionate
As the saying goes: "Relatives should be tolerant of each other, and even if they are reasonable, they should concede three points." "Society is the arena of truth, and family is a haven of emotion. When family conflicts breed, regardless of whether it is right or wrong, both parties take a step back to show their deep affection and family nature.
A middle-aged couple quarrels over trivial matters, and the husband is so troubled by this that he asks a wise man for advice on how to make his wife stop complaining endlessly.
The man confided: "I come back from a hard day away from a long day's work, and I just want a moment of peace and rest at home. However, my wife always argues with me over trivial matters such as housework. Or blame me for going home and just knowing how to lie on the couch and do nothing, or let me run around for her little things like buying salt and soy sauce. ”
The wise man patiently replied: "Maybe you can try to listen to her chatter and take the initiative to share some household chores." ”
The man said, "I am tired from the burden of providing for my family, so can't my wife be considerate enough to prepare a hot meal for me?" Such a quarrel is really helpless. ”
The wise man wisely replied: "In the small world of the family, the competition is not who gives less, but who can give more to themselves." You might as well start with yourself, take a little more and give a little more. The best way to stop your wife from nagging is to make her feel embarrassed to be critical of you again. ”
The middle-aged man took the wise man's advice and began to treat his wife well, and sure enough, the relationship between the husband and wife became more harmonious and happy.
As the old saying goes: "Forbearance is not a loss, but infinite joy." This is especially true in family life. Can it be considered a loss to be more tolerant of family members and let them occasionally take advantage of some "advantages"? Apparently not. When you see that your loved ones complain less and smile more, your heart will be filled with joy and joy.
It is often said that "suffering is a blessing". For the sake of the beloved family, no matter how much you give or how much you bear, you are willing. Because, if you are not good to your family, who should you be good to?
The ancients said: "The benevolent are not responsible, and the good are not judged." "Let us be arrogant, humble and do good deeds, and cross others as well as ourselves.
Today's losses are tomorrow's blessings; The fatigue of today makes the burden of tomorrow lighter; Above today, the world will be brighter in the future.
Finally, I would like to give you a message: endure and swallow your breath, and you must not lose your righteousness in your heart.
Matters of principle, not an inch; Trivial, why not back down? Be tolerant, have a conscience, and not be shaken by vulgarity.