"If you do this again, I won't want you."
What are you doing? ”
Did you hear me speak, why don't you go quickly".
Sound familiar? In fact, the baby is also listening to these hurtful words every day.
It is not easy for parents and children to communicate well, and it is really difficult to understand each other.
Especially for the growing baby, after a few words of preaching and reminders, the baby still does its own thing, and the parents' emotions will naturally come up, and they will unconsciously bring out a lot of tough tone and content.
In fact, if this is not good, it is easy to cause harm to children, and parents are also easy to lose patience, giving the baby a feeling that the parents are very emotionally unstable, which in turn leads to the child's insecurity, fear, and refusal to communicate.
Children need an environment where they can relax and grow up happily, and family is the only psychological support they can rely on when they are young.
And adults are not, after all, after a tiring day at work, when you come home from work, you have to face a baby who is good at pretending and can dismantle the house, and all kinds of emotions are very easy to explode all at once.
What to do?
Before grinding the child's heart, as parents and parents, they must first control their temper and emotions, so that when the baby is out of control, they can still be stable, not impatient, and then communicate with the baby.
Easier said than done, parents are not the first role models for their children, if you want to change the baby, you must first change yourself.
Speak well, don't communicate violently, and empathize with children from their point of view, why is they like this?
Is it because you don't understand? Or is it because it can't be done? Or is there some other reason.
If you think about it carefully, there are many bad problems in the baby, and the parents will more or less exist in them, or find a shadow.
Parents who like violent communication may raise yelling babies.
Introverted parents may bring out children who are not very good at communication and expression.
Therefore, before hoping that your child will correct the bad things, you should first get rid of the bad things in your own body.
Otherwise, standing at the high point of the parents, blaming the baby, but not changing it, isn't it a naked double standard?
Children's hearts are very fragile, and adults are not, at this age where no matter how you beat and scold them, they will love you, and you need to learn to cherish not much time together.
They will grow up, they will be sad, they will be bitter, they will be troubled by all kinds of things."
Parents are the harbor of children's hearts, and they are not only the continuation of life, but also the companion of life.
So, be patient, give them more time, they will understand, it's better to be late than to be biased, right?
Finally, I hope that every parent can become the guardian of their children's hearts, and accompany them to grow up healthy and happy with love and patience.