Parents view earning money correctly Wealth and happiness cannot be equated

Wealth is a big topic, and I don't think I have the ability to say it clearly, so today I will talk about how psychologists view wealth from a professional perspective.

First of all, I have made up a scenario: if the three representatives of the famous psychologists - Freud (psychoanalytic school), Beck (cognitive behavioral school), and Satya (family ** school) are still alive, what kind of dialogue will happen if they meet our Chinese God of Wealth? List of high-quality authors

1.Freud.

Sigmund Freud was an Austrian psychiatrist, psychologist and founder of the psychoanalytic school, who is known as one of the founders of modern psychology. Born in 1856 and died in 1939, Freud's major achievements included the creation of psychoanalytic theory, through which he conducted in-depth studies of the unconscious, sexuality, personality, and mental health. His theories have had a profound impact on later fields such as psychology, philosophy, literature, and cultural studies, and he is regarded as an important figure in the history of modern thought.

Fortuna: Uh... Thinking about where to go this year? Who are you looking for? And how to test him.

Eph: Why the test?

God of Wealth: People can't make money other than they know.

FF: Indeed, it is important to develop an attitude towards money from an early age.

God of Wealth: Three-year-olds look big, seven-year-olds look old.

Ephesian:In my opinion, if a child aged 0-1 years is not well fed, does not feed him well, and does not have oral activities that are not satisfied, he will overeat, smoke, drink too much in adulthood, etc. It's a very, very bad habit of spending money.

The oral phase, also known as the oral phase, is a stage from birth to about 1 year of age, and is the most primitive stage of an individual's psychological development. At this stage, the baby's primitive pleasure is concentrated in the mouth, and they obtain pleasure and satisfaction through oral activities such as sucking, chewing, swallowing, and biting.

Ephesian:From 1 to 3 years old, children will pay attention to their bowel movements, and even play with their own stool, at this time, we should be careful not to stop and criticize the child too harshly, otherwise the child is easy to be very anxious about earning money as an adult, and even stubborn, and become a miser like "Grande".

The anal phase is a stage of psychological development in young children, mainly referring to the period when children between the ages of 1 and 3 (or 1 to 2 years old) obtain pleasure by controlling the excretion and retention of stool. At this stage, young children begin to become interested in their bowel movements and try to experience self-control and self-satisfaction by controlling their bowel movements. If parents give proper attention and guidance at this stage, it can help young children get through this stage smoothly and develop their self-control and self-confidence.

FF: What? Do you have a situation during your anal desire period?

God of Wealth (touching the ass): How do you think I became the God of Wealth...

2.Baker.

Aaron TBeck) is one of the pioneers and main promoters of cognitive behavior, and is known as the "father of cognition". Baker believed that people's emotions and behaviors are driven by their way of thinking and beliefs. He believes that wrong ways of thinking or beliefs can lead to negative emotions and bad behaviors, so the goal should be to correct these false perceptions in order to improve mood and behavior.

Absolutism can lead to people expecting too much or too little about the future. They may set unrealistically high standards for themselves or others, or be overly pessimistic in anticipating how things will turn out. This absolutized expectation ignores the changes and uncertainties of the reality of the situation, resulting in people not being able to respond flexibly to life's challenges.

Beck: So how do you define wealth?

God of Wealth: It's money!

Baker: NowThis is another cognitive mistake called generalization, and wealth is definitely more than money

Generalization is a common cognitive bias in which people mistakenly perceive the characteristics of a part of a situation as a whole, or represent the entire group with the actions or characteristics of a few individuals. This bias leads people to ignore the truth and complexity of the whole when judging and evaluating, resulting in inaccurate conclusions.

Baker: And what about health? What about friendship? What about knowledge?

Wealth:.. Well, you're right.

Beck: Going back to the money itself, it's nice to have money, but ...

God of Wealth: No but, being rich is very happy!

Baker. Where there is money, there is happiness? This is called misattribution, and psychology has long found that the relationship between wealth and happiness is not linear. Some people, although they have great wealth, may not be happy; And some people, despite their limited wealth, live a life full of satisfaction and joy. Therefore, while pursuing wealth, you also need to pay attention to your inner needs and values in order to achieve true happiness.

God of Wealth: It makes sense, you have convinced me that my God of Wealth can bring wealth, but happiness must be managed by oneself.

3.Satya.

Virginia Satir is a well-known family teacher and is known as one of the founders of the family. She is committed to exploring the various problems between people and the nature of human beings, and has developed a unique theory and method of family**. Satya's approach emphasizes the importance of the family system, arguing that each member of the family influences each other, and that the problems of the individual are often closely related to the problems of the family system. She proposes techniques such as "family sculpture" to help family members better understand each other's relationships and communication patterns through role-play and interaction, thereby improving family functioning.

Fortuna: Yes, I am a family of four, the family is harmonious, I have both children, and the children are all adults.

Satya. Wealth is the emotional bond of the family, but it can also be family strife**.

God of Wealth: Is it so fast to increase the value this early in the morning???

Satya: Did you ever quarrel in your family because of you? Not beat around the bush.

God of Wealth: There are indeed a lot, sometimes it is to buy a large flat or a villa, and sometimes it is to invest in DD or B station. . .

Satya. At this time, you are not yourself, you are a symbol that reflects the relationship within the family, indicating that there are disagreements and conflicts within your family about the use of wealth.

Fortuna: I kind of regret talking to you.

Satya: Let's have a good chat, what happens to your home when you are sick and can't work?

Fortuna: Hey, don't say itSometimes I am sick, but my wife and children at home are surprisingly united in their hearts, cheering each other on, cheering each other on, and getting through difficulties together.

Satya: So what did you find?

God of Wealth: I am the God of Wealth and not the God of Wealth, and it may not be so important to family happiness...

Summary: The above three fictitious dialogues are for your pleasure only, but what I want to say is that there is nothing wrong with the pursuit of wealth and it is also worth advocating, but wealth cannot be equated with personal and family happiness. The various "variables" between wealth and happiness need to be found in your own life.