There is a saying that says:
Marriage is for happiness, and divorce is also for happiness.
However, most people mention remarriage after divorce, and they have mixed tastes.
For those men who remarry, there is often a big difference between a first-married wife and a remarried wife.
And behind all the differences, it's all human nature.
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Halfway husband and wife are thieves.
After remarrying, Lao Zhou was deeply touched by this sentence.
divorced his ex-wife, a large part of the reason is the disagreement of the three views. Lao Zhou's ex-wife is a mother's daughter, and all the contradictions and conflicts in the small family, the ex-wife has to tell the parents of both parties, especially the parents-in-law, and then the small things become bigger, the big things expand, the contradictions and conflicts continue to escalate, and the friction and entanglement between family members are more and more.
The management of marriage is originally a matter for the husband and wife, but once other people outside the small family are involved, all the problems will not only not be solved, but also new problems will arise.
Maintaining a sense of boundary with the family of origin is one of the basic principles of marriage management.
It's a pity that Lao Zhou's ex-wife didn't learn from beginning to end, and in the end, in all kinds of trivial contradictions, the marriage of the two dissolved.
At the time of the divorce, Lao Zhou was very manly, which was basically equivalent to leaving the house, and his daughter's alimony was also more. Lao Zhou felt that although he couldn't be a husband and wife, he was still the child's parents, and he still had to give him the dignity he deserved. And it is better to work by yourself, it is easier to work hard in society, and to pay a little more financially, which is also the last thank you to your ex-wife for seven years.
But what Lao Zhou didn't expect was that his generosity and generosity became itII. II. IIA thorn in the heart of a married wife that cannot be removed.
After remarrying, the second wife was always suspicious of Lao Zhou in terms of money, and always thought that he was quietly subsidizing his ex-wife and daughter in private.
Lao Zhou was so annoyed that he directly took out the agreement signed with his ex-wife, but the second wife didn't believe it at all, and said sourly:
You gave her so much when you divorced, it seems that you feel very sorry for her.
Because of this suspicion, the second wife often subsidizes her biological daughter. Lao Zhou knew it, but he just opened his eyes and closed his eyes and sighed.
If it is a juvenile couple, the first wife, this kind of problem will never occur.
Lao Zhou's biggest wish now is to have a child with his second wife as soon as possible, so that the small family will have a common construction goal, and the second wife's mind will not be so much on the ex-wife's child.
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Weighing the pros and cons and avoiding comparisons is a typical mentality for many remarried men.
For Lao Wang, the second wife is the best, the most important thing, the children shared by the two people are the tip of his heart, and the others are outsiders.
Among them, including the ex-wife and the daughter born to the ex-wife.
Lao Wang would never compare his ex-wife with his second wife, and in his heart, this is an escape.
Lao Wang divorced his ex-wife because of cheating and betrayal. And the object is the second wife.
At the time of the divorce, the ex-wife insisted on leaving the daughter, and Lao Wang felt guilty and took the initiative to give the house and car under his name to the ex-wife's mother and daughter, and agreed to give the daughter 2,000 yuan per month for living expenses.
Lao Wang's dedication to his ex-wife, mother and daughter is all. After marrying his second wife, Lao Wang basically cut off the contact with his ex-wife's mother and daughter, and transferred living expenses to his daughter every month, also directly through Alipay. Don't meet, don't fight, don't send.
After ten years of divorce, Lao Wang only met his daughter once when she was taking the college entrance examination.
After marrying his second wife, Lao Wang's mind was on the newly built small family. The son grew up with him personally, and he also took good care of his second wife.
One of the most obvious moves is to completely cut off any contact with his ex-wife after the divorce.
Just because, the second wife minds this very much.
Does the second wife have all kinds of problems and problems? Of course. Whether it is love or passion, once it enters marriage and enters the real life of firewood, rice, oil and salt, it will reveal its unbearable side.
That's why there is that joke: Whoever marries will regret it, and whoever marries will cheat.
But Lao Wang no longer wants to worry about all kinds of good and bad, halfway through his life, life has been tossed once, and he can't stand the second toss, he just wants to live a good moment peacefully.
For him, maintaining a good relationship with his second wife and son is the focus of his life.
Because of these two people, there is a high probability that they will be relied on in the second half of his life.
February** Dynamic Incentive Program
Psychology says:The essence of marriage is the exchange of values.
All relationships are built and torn apart, and are the result of weighing the pros and cons.
The good or bad of the first wife and the second wife is not in people's hearts, but in human nature.