The people around me are so good, I feel like I m socializing with everyone

Mondo Psychological Updated on 2024-02-18

First of all, if you are studying in college, then you can be in the same university as these classmates around you, you are already in a certain dimension, at the same level as them, at least you can successfully ensure that when you graduate, when you graduate and find a job, you will get the same double certificate as your classmates.

Secondly, college is not a place where you have to distinguish between winners and losers in certain dimensions, as you said, even if you study very hard, you will not end up with the best of some talented people. They usually don't study much, and in the end, they take the test casually, but their grades are far better than themselves.

In other ways, it's the same way, there will always be people in every field who are talented in this field, and people who are not as talented as you, but who like this field and have put enough effort into this field, and both types of people will eventually crush you in this field.

But isn't that a normal situation? Isn't it normal that one is talented, the other is much harder than you, and they both end up getting better grades than you?

Therefore, the most urgent situation for you now is not to feel inferior here, feel that you can't do anything, but to quickly find at least one direction, since you admit that you have no talent for anything, then put your limited energy on one thing, take the route of hard work, you pay more energy than others, you can always be better than those who do not put in so much effort, and the talent is the same as you.

When I was in college, I was always inspired by the motto of the female secretary of state of the United States, she was Condoleezza Rice, she was growing up, her father was the principal of the school, but her father kept telling her, you are black, and you are still a woman, so you have to be twice as good as others to be equal to others, you have to be three times better than others to surpass them.

Therefore, when you think that you are inferior to others in all aspects and have no special skills, the most important thing you need to do is not to be busy with inferiority, let alone to find the so-called upward social skills to lick others, but to find the direction of your own efforts and concentrate your limited energy, and the second is to pour all your energy until you see results in this direction.

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