Maslow, a famous psychologist, said: When the mentality changes, the attitude changes; Attitudes change, habits change; Habits change, personality changes; When your personality changes, your life changes.
So, our mindset will affect our life, our destiny.
A good attitude is not innate, but is practiced in the practice of life.
How can we develop a good attitude? The right way to do this is to develop a few good habits:
It has been said that to be angry is to punish oneself for the mistakes of others.
I think so. Psychologist Adler has a concept of "subject separation", since it is someone else's fault, then excessive anger will not change the outcome of the matter, but will only hurt oneself.
But I don't think it's necessary to be completely angry.
If someone does something wrong and hurts you, and you don't get angry at all, it only increases the cost of someone else hurting you.
It is wise to tell the other person that you are angry, but we don't take it to heart.
The important thing is to find a way to stop the loss, or to make up for it, to save, and if all that doesn't help, then let it be. Lessons learned to prevent you from doing it again next time.
Proper comparison can help us find upward motivation and goals, but excessive comparison is the root of our troubles.
A lot of times, annoyances are over-compared:
The child's grades are acceptable, and when he sees that other people's children have better grades, he is immediately not calm;
The house I bought with my hard work was very happy at the beginning, but after a while, I felt that someone else's big house seemed to be better;
Someone else's good job, someone else's strong connections, someone else's scenery ......Excessive attention can make us lose ourselves.
Behind the excessive comparisons are endless annoyances.
How to get rid of it? Two days ago, I saw a sentence from a netizen that perfectly answered this question: learn from others and compare with yourself.
Only by learning from others can we find the direction and set the goal; Compare yourself with yourself to gain confidence and motivation.
Have you ever had such an experience? I like to complain and complain about things when I encounter them.
Don't worry, it's normal. None of us are saints, and complaining in moderation is also a way to decompress, so that negative emotions and troubles can be released so as not to accumulate in our hearts. Of course, this is the initial stage of mindset cultivation.
The advanced stage of mental cultivation is to no longer complain when encountering troubles, but to see the essence through phenomena and think of solutions.
If you can't change it, you will find a way to accept it and use your own cognition to adjust your mentality.
At the end of the day, complaining is basically a reaction to your own incompetence.
When awareness improves, the problem is solved.
Internal friction is an instinct of the brain. Our brains automatically cranky whenever we have time.
Brain friction shows that we care about it.
After capturing this information, what we need to do is not let our brains think wildly, but try to find a way to change it.
When our brains are busy, we don't think cranky, and our brains produce a kind of "flow".
This "flow" will give us a sense of satisfaction and accomplishment.
Therefore, if you want to develop a good attitude, you must let yourself have something to do and feelings to rely on.
A person who has an obsession is a person who is imprisoned in a cage by his mind.
The biggest cage is not the prison, but the obsession of the heart.
The obsession of not being able to ask for it will make us lose our inner balance and ignore the beauty and happiness around us.
And the best way to let go of obsession is to see through it.
There was a great master who once said something very profound: what you see, what disappears.
South Africa's ** Mandela has been in prison for 8 years, he studied hard in prison every day, never treated prison as a prison, and became ** as soon as he got out of prison.
Happiness doesn't have to be rich; No matter how high the position is, there is a time to come down; No matter how big your reputation is, when you see all this clearly, accept your ordinariness, accept your ordinariness, and your obsession will disappear.
Knowing how to be grateful is the source of happiness and a good recipe for peace of mind.
Gratitude is a kind of seeing, seeing the beauty around you, and seeing the happiness around you.
Gratitude is also a kind of satisfaction, satisfying the current standard of living and enjoying the current state of life.
Contentment leads to happiness; Excessive desire will inevitably bring disaster.
To develop the habit of knowing how to be grateful is to enrich your heart and make yourself rich.
A good attitude will not be developed in a day, we need to keep reminding ourselves and keep practicing in life.
If you get used to examining and cultivating your mindset every day, you will radiate tremendous positive energy from within you.
These positive energies and peaceful attitudes will inevitably make your life better and better.
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