The Spring Festival is here, have you also begun to think about the route map of your relatives, thinking about how to get the most red envelopes in the shortest time? Don't worry, today let's talk about visiting relatives during the Spring Festival. As the old saying goes, "If the three relatives don't leave, the two gifts don't return", it sounds like the advice of the older generation, but if you really dig it, the truth in it is big. It's not just a trick on how to avoid losing face in front of your relatives, it's an art about how to handle relationships gracefully.
Let's talk about the "three relatives don't leave" first. The first to bear the brunt are those snobbish relatives. Each of us knows in our hearts, this kind of relative is like an advertisement at the Spring Festival Gala, which is both annoying and unavoidable. When they see the wind and rudder, they will stick it up when they see that your family is good, and once you have a little wind and grass at home, they will immediately run faster than anyone else. I remember that year, not long after I lost my job, this kind of relative suddenly disappeared from **, as if I had disappeared from their world from then on. Therefore, when we meet this kind of person, it is better for us to stay away, and don't let our Spring Festival be disturbed by these boring relationships.
Now we have to mention the ungrateful relatives. This kind of person is even more of a headache, you are good to them, they don't appreciate it; When you need help, they turn a blind eye. I have a distant relative who used to lend a helping hand when the family was in trouble. But when it was our turn to have trouble in our family, people seemed to have changed people, and they didn't even have a comforting **. With such relatives, we don't have to invest too much emotionally, and avoid visiting during the New Year, which can be regarded as giving ourselves a relaxing holiday.
There are also those relatives who tell right and wrong, this kind of person can especially play at family gatherings, and can accidentally stir up the atmosphere into a miasma. They like to sow discord and rejoice when others don't get along. At the time of this kind of reunion during the Spring Festival, we must stay away from this negative energy, after all, no one wants to fall into family disputes at the beginning of the new year, right?
After talking about "three relatives don't leave", let's talk about "two gifts don't return". The first are those that are expired or of poor quality. During the Spring Festival, it is the norm to exchange gifts, but you also have to see what people give. Some relatives may give some expired things, or gifts of poor quality, at this time, you are welcome, just "don't return". Like last year, a relative gave me a box of chocolates, opened it and looked at it, it was almost half a year old! This kind of gift, just smile, what kind of gift to return, we are not a garbage station.
Then there are the gifts that are provocative or insulting. For example, some relatives know that you are allergic and still give you something like that, or deliberately send something very cheap to test your reaction. At this time, you have to show your generosity, and you don't have to go back, so as not to fall into unnecessary embarrassment and disputes.
Well, after talking so much, visiting relatives during the Spring Festival focuses on the mind rather than the form. The ones that really deserve our time and energy are the family and friends who bring us positive energy and make us feel warm and happy. As for those snobbish, ungrateful, and gossip relatives, as well as those undesirable gifts, we don't have to pay too much attention to them. After all, the Spring Festival is a new beginning, a time for family reunions and family fun, so let's devote more time and energy to those people and things that are truly worthwhile, and make this Spring Festival a warm, happy and loving festival. I wish you all a happy Chinese New Year and all the best!