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watched "If Running Is My Life", everyone was shocked by the mistress in it, she is much uglier than the original partner, why is the male protagonist looking for this kind of mistress who is not as good as his wife everywhere? It can only be said that the TV series has entered reality, and not all the juniors are white-skinned, beautiful and long-legged, and some are even older, simple, and a little dull.
Men are creatures that are sometimes really unpredictable. Obviously, there is a virtuous, gentle, and considerate wife at home, but he wants to find the so-called "freshness" outside. Strangely, the women they find are often inferior to their wives in every way. Why is that? Is it really in response to the old saying: "A wife is not as good as a concubine, and a concubine is not as good as stealing"? In fact, there are deep-seated psychological reasons behind this.
1. Desire to be noticed and appreciated
In the long course of marriage, men tend to feel tired due to the trivialities of daily life and the pressure of work. They may feel that they are gradually being neglected in the family and that their wives' attention and appreciation for them has diminished over time. This feeling of neglect makes them feel empty and lonely inside.
Women outside of marriage, on the other hand, tend to cast a paying eye on them and show a strong interest in their words and deeds. They will praise men for their abilities and charisma, allowing them to regain their sense of being noticed and appreciated. This compliment and attention shines like sunshine into a man's heart, making them feel warm and satisfied.
However, this satisfaction is only temporary. Because true happiness and satisfaction should come from the love of family and wife. The praise and attention of a woman outside of marriage is only superficial and cannot replace the warmth and support that a wife gives to a man in her daily life.
2. Stimulation and satisfaction of the desire to protect
Men are naturally protective, and they want to protect their family and loved ones from harm. However, in marriage, this desire for protection can be worn out by everyday chores over time. Wives take on various roles in the family and become more and more independent and powerful, while men gradually lose the opportunity to protect them.
And women outside of marriage often bring a sense of freshness to men. They may show a weak, dependent side that stimulates a man's desire to protect. Men feel that they are needed in front of them, and they get a kind of satisfaction in their hearts.
However, this protective arousal is not true love. It is just a short-lived impulse that stems from a man's innermost needs. When they come to their senses from this urge, they may find that they have committed acts that hurt their family and their wives.
3. The pursuit of novelty and escapism
Men can feel tedious and monotonous in their marriage. They crave novelty and want to try different lifestyles and experiences. And women outside of marriage can often bring them this freshness. They may have different personalities, hobbies, and lifestyles that make men shine.
This pursuit of novelty is actually a manifestation of men's escapism. Rather than facing the problems and challenges in their marriage, they choose to escape reality by finding novelty. However, this evasion does not solve the problem, but only makes it worse.
In the pursuit of novelty, a man may lose the cherishing of his family and wife. They begin to ignore their wives' dedication and efforts and devote more time and energy to their relationships with women outside of marriage. This kind of behavior not only hurts his wife and family, but also puts himself in a moral quagmire.
Inner struggles and entanglements
In fact, when a man has an affair outside of marriage, his heart is full of struggle and entanglement. They knew that their actions were wrong, a betrayal of their family and their wives. However, they can't resist the satisfaction of being noticed, appreciated, and protected.
This inner struggle and entanglement puts the man in a painful situation. They want to pursue novelty and protect their family and wife; I want to satisfy my desires while maintaining my morals and conscience. However, they can't have it both ways, and they may end up making decisions that they regret.
Conclusion:
When a man has an affair outside of marriage, why is the woman he is looking for inferior to his wife everywhere? In fact, it is not because of how good a woman is outside of marriage or how bad a wife is; Rather, it is because men lose something in marriage: the need to be noticed, to be appreciated, and to be protectively satisfied; At the same time, they made the wrong choice because of the pursuit of novelty and escapism.
However, these things are not what an extramarital woman can really give; True happiness and satisfaction should come from the love of family and wife, as well as peace and contentment in one's own heart. Only when we cherish the person in front of us and manage our marriage with our hearts can we reap true happiness and beauty.