My name is Huang Cuiting, and I am 61 years old. My husband and I used to work in the same company, and now we are both retired. The pension adds up to more than 10,000 yuan, and in the early years, we also bought a shop, which is currently renting out, and we live a comfortable life. I gave birth relatively late, only conceived a child at the age of 35, and later ushered in a healthy big fat boy.
At that time, I was considered to be an advanced childbearing, so I was particularly concerned about this son. From the moment he was born, our lives revolved around him, pouring all our love into him and never letting him suffer a little.
My son grew up, and when he became an adult, we bought a house in his name in the city center to prepare him for the future. I often joke and say, "This is the 'dowry' for you!" "It makes him laugh every time.
Today, my son is 27 years old. After graduating from university, he joined a local online company. Although the salary is not high, we don't have to pay rent, and my wife and I are responsible for food and clothing. My wife and I have our pensions and savings for our son's future, and we want him to be able to live a better life than we do.
On this year's National Day, my son suddenly told us to bring his girlfriend home to meet. I was a little incredulous because my son is usually more introverted, and I plan to help him find some girls at the end of the year to see if he can start a family sooner. However, the son brought back a girlfriend in one fell swoop.
Mom, this is my girlfriend Xiaolan. The son led a beautiful girl into the house. Xiaolan is two years younger than her son, tall, snow-white, and has a sweet and lovely smile. My first impression of her was very good, and the future daughter-in-law was so beautiful that naturally filled me with joy.
Hello aunts, uncles! Xiaolan smiled sweetly and greeted us politely.
Xiaolan and I work in the same company, and she is in the marketing department. We've been dating for a year, and I've already proposed to Xiaolan. The son said with a little blush.
I was so happy that I said, "Great! Xiaolan is not only beautiful but also capable, such a daughter-in-law ** finding! Hurry up and set a wedding date, your dad and I need to hurry up and prepare! ”
Xiaolan became even more shy when she heard this, and lowered her head and snickered. Because it was the National Day period, I asked Xiaolan to live at home temporarily, and let my son accompany her to walk around these days, buy the things she needs, and be sure not to treat this future daughter-in-law badly.
However, after a few days of getting along, I gradually discovered some things about Xiaolan that I was not very satisfied with. She didn't want to do any housework, her own clothes were washed by my son, and she didn't even bother to do her underwear and socks, so she pushed them all to my son. My son has not been good at housework since he was a child, and it hurts me to see such a situation.
One day, my wife and I went out to a banquet and didn't cook. When I got home, I found that the living room was full of takeaway boxes, and oil stains were spilled on the floor, which made me dissatisfied. I thought to myself, how come Xiaolan didn't even have the heart to pack up the takeout box, and she didn't even want to throw the garbage into the trash can in the kitchen, it was just a few steps away.
I am very unhappy with this situation. I pondered in my heart, if Xiaolan is so lazy and marries my son in the future, he will definitely be tired! I went into their room and saw that they were immersed in the fun of playing the game. I reminded, "When you get married in the future, how to distribute the housework, I don't think you are very good at housework." ”
Xiaolan replied proudly: "Auntie, don't worry about this, Nobita (son) said that he takes care of all the housework." I've been spoiled since I was a child, and if my parents knew I had to work, they would be distressed. Nobita is such a good boy that he promises that he will take care of the housework for the rest of his life. ”
Seeing this, my son scratched his head and smiled at me and said, "Mom, what's the big deal!" I don't mind doing the housework, just share it with two people! ”
Hearing my son defend Xiaolan like this, I had mixed feelings. I understand that since my son is so fond of Xiaolan, I have nothing to do as a mother. It's just that in the future, my wife and I may suffer a lot, because it is not easy for my son to do housework, and my wife and I may have to go over to help him clean up the mess every once in a while.
Looking back, I think that I have already retired, and I can help my son do more if my body can still move, so why bother so much.
Well, your little family, you can control it yourself, and the most important thing is to live a good life. I ended up grudgingly smiling.
My son hugged me happily and touched Xiaolan's head again: We are doing well, don't worry! ＂
I took a deep breath and tried to adjust my mindset. My son has the right to choose, and I have no right to interfere. A girl like Xiaolan has a cute appearance and a straightforward personality, but she is a little lazy, but as long as my son doesn't mind, I have nothing to say.
After the marriage was finalized, our family began to take action. Xiaolan's parents offered some higher bride price conditions and asked for 1660,000 yuan, but also need a new car and a wedding house, the total cost is expected to be about 500,000 yuan.
After discussing with my husband, I decided to meet the request of Xiaolan's parents. After all, this is a major event in my son's life, and our family's economy is quite rich, so we can still afford this money. As the wedding approached, I said to my son: "When you get married, your parents will be at ease, and your parents will support you in anything, but don't compromise after marriage." ”
My son patted his chest and reassured me, and I was very relieved. The wife also talked to her son about some problems that she might encounter in marriage, and told her son how to deal with them with the experience of those who came before.
Soon after, the renovation of the new house was completed. The little couple chose a simple and warm European style, and I was very satisfied with it. While discussing the purchase of furniture, Xiaolan suggested that she wanted to reserve a large room with a separate bathroom for her parents to come and live in when they retire. Not only that, but she also wanted the furniture in this house to be in a Chinese style because her parents liked it.
I was a little surprised and said, "After all, they won't stay here for too long, is this arrangement a bit excessive, and the Chinese-style furniture in this room may not seem coordinated." ”
Xiaolan's face suddenly became ugly. She told me that her sister-in-law was very bad to her parents and often made trouble. Her parents are having a hard time, and she wants them to move in and be free from being bullied by her sister-in-law.
I tried to persuade her to do something, but when I saw my son looking at me with pleading eyes, I had to swallow the words in my heart. Anyway, the house is theirs, and it's good for them to be happy.
I chose to be silent, but my heart was full of contradictions. I understand that Xiaolan wants to take care of her parents as a daughter, but when she starts a small family again after getting married, run-in problems are inevitable. If the elders live together for a long time, there will be a lot of pressure on the young couple, and the responsibility for my son will be even heavier. In the current situation, he does not seem to have much status in the family.
I also learned that Xiaolan's parents do not have a pension. They used to run a small shop, but because Xiaolan's brother got married, they almost emptied the family money, and finally had to transfer the shop to someone else.
I couldn't help but sigh when I thought of this. Xiaolan's way of dealing with it also seems a little immature, with tough words, always taking herself as the starting point, which is difficult to accept. This time, for example, she could have consulted with us gently, but chose to announce her decision forcefully. I understand how she wants to take care of her parents, but I don't fully agree with her approach.
However, in the face of Xiaolan, I have no position to accuse her. She and her son are in love, and this is her son's choice. All I can do is try to be understanding, inclusive, and accepting.
However, as things unfolded, I became more and more disappointed. I didn't have a good impression of Xiaolan in the first place, and now I'm even more disappointed in her.
The son wants to take wedding photos locally, but Xiaolan insists on going to Hainan, which she longs for. The son had no choice but to spend a lot of money to order air tickets and hotels, and accompany her to Hainan to take wedding photos. After coming back, Xiaolan said confidently: "Women can't wronged themselves in this life, they can live as much as I like!" ”
I didn't say anything, just silently wrote it down in my heart. Soon after, the parents discussed the marriage, and I asked the woman if there were any other customs to follow, and the in-laws mentioned some drop-off fares and so on. I said, "The fare for getting off the bus here is just a symbol, three or five hundred yuan is fine, the important thing is the feelings." ”
Unexpectedly, Xiaolan immediately retorted: "What, three or five hundred yuan?" I'm going to ask for at least 8000! My cousin took 1 last year60,000! ”
My eyes widened and I said in disbelief: "Who has ever heard that there is a drop-off fee of 8,000 yuan to get married!" Our man has prepared the garage and bride price very carefully, and the off-boarding fee can be expressed slightly. ”
Then I simply won't get married! Anyway, he doesn't have to be! Xiaolan said angrily.
I was annoyed by her words and blurted out: "Then don't get married, save trouble!" ”
As soon as the words fell, Xiaolan grabbed her bag angrily and shouted loudly, "Break up!" Then he turned to leave. The son chased after her in a panic and begged her to stay. I can't wait to drag my son back and fill my chest with anger!
Watching my son rush out, I had mixed feelings. I was angry at Xiaolan's vexatiousness, and I was also angry at my son's forbearance of her. What makes me even more heartbroken is that my son has paid sincere feelings for Xiaolan, but he has to bear such pain.
How could the son be so stubborn and have to find such a woman to go home......With tears in my eyes, I complained to my wife.
The wife sighed and said in a sad tone, "Maybe this is fate." The path chosen by our son, we old people can't manage too much. Even if Xiaolan has a bad personality, since our son can tolerate her, we should respect his decision. ”
I heard what my wife meant, and she was persuading me not to worry about it anymore, just give me a little fare to get off the bus, and our family is not short of this money. I felt aggrieved, angry and sad. I'm really worried that my son's emotional path won't be too smooth and that he will end up with nothing.
After a while, the son brought back Xiaolan, who was crying. Xiaolan apologized to us in a low voice, saying that she was just a quick talker and didn't really want to break up. I was surprised to see her teary-eyed.
According to my observations of Xiaolan during this time, she has always been a person who is not easy to compromise. Today, she suddenly apologized to us, did her son do some magic to her?
I nodded slightly, thinking that when the turmoil subsided, I had to find a time to talk to my son, and I couldn't let him go astray. It's just not time to ...... yet
In the days that followed, Xiaolan seemed to have changed as a person, and I always felt that something was wrong. One day, I was alone on the balcony in a daze, thinking that my son would spend his life with such a woman, and this family would definitely be restless. At that moment, my son came over and sat down beside me.
Mom, are you disgusted with Xiaolan? My son looked at me with worry in his eyes.
I sighed deeply: "I'm not against you being together, but you can also see that Xiaolan is too self-oriented, and your personalities may not be very compatible." I'm afraid you're going to have a lot of hard work ...... future”
The son lowered his head: "I know she has a lot of shortcomings, but I just like her......."Surely I will be able to find a solution, I have been with her for more than a year. ”
I smiled wryly. The son has already made a decision, and it is useless to say anything more. Perhaps this is the path he has chosen, and even if it is full of ups and downs, he has to move forward bravely.
At this time, Xiaolan's sweet voice came from the house: "Auntie, Nobita came over to eat fruit, I bought some grapes!" ”
My son stood up and pulled me into the house, and my wife was also sitting there, "Mom, Xiaolan and I have some things I want to discuss with you." I frowned, feeling that this might not be a good thing.
Sure enough, the son said solemnly: "I think that the house in the center of our city should be added to Xiaolan's name." She's about to marry into our family, after all, it's a family. ”
I looked at my son's hesitant expression, and I already had a premonition in my heart, this could not be my son's own opinion, it must have been Xiaolan who instigated him. It turned out that the matter of getting off the bus was discussed that day, why Xiaolan apologized, and now it seems that there is obviously a plan.
I stared at my son coldly and motioned for him to continue, while Xiaolan gave him a look.
The son said: "Xiaolan is a foreigner, and she is unfamiliar when she marries us, so she has no sense of security. In the future, she will have to raise children and take care of her in-laws, and the responsibility and burden are not small, so it is natural for her name to be added to the house. In the future, my salary card will also be handed over to her on a monthly basis. ”
My wife and I were dumbfounded and incredulous. I said angrily: "Stop daydreaming, it's no different from robbing, this house is for my son, you have no right to dispose of it!" ”
Xiaolan did not flinch: "Then there is no need to get married, I don't believe that I can't find a good man who is willing to pay for me!" ”
I looked at my son, his face was so ugly, he held Xiaolan's hand tightly, and comforted her softly. I couldn't hold back any longer, pulled my son by, tears welling up in my eyes......
Son, calm down! I held my son's hand, my voice trembling, "Like and marriage are two different things, she has been squeezing you, can't you see it?" ”
My son looked at me with pain in his eyes, but he still said firmly: "Mom, I understand your concerns, but I love her, and I am willing to pay and compromise for her." ”
But ......I tried to persuade my son again, but Xiaolan interrupted me impatiently.
Auntie, am my conditions excessive? My cousin and cousin are all living in villas, don't I have this request? In the future, I will help your family inherit the family lineage and serve you for the elderly, and you are embarrassed to settle this account with me! Xiaolan was furious.
I was so angry that I couldn't bear it anymore, and I slapped Xiaolan in the face, shouting: "You get out of here, this marriage doesn't have to be concluded." ”
Xiaolan ran out crying, and I desperately grabbed my son to prevent him from chasing him.
As soon as Xiaolan left, I was immediately reprimanded by my wife. He said helplessly: "How can you be like this, no matter how angry you are, you can't do it?" I have something to say. ”
I retorted: "She has repeatedly challenged my bottom line, how can I bear it?" My son's marriage to her will definitely be ruined in her hands, so I might as well be this wicked person. ”
The wife shook her head and sighed: "Alas, let's appease our son!" ”
The son stood by as if he had lost his soul. He asked me why I had to get rid of Xiaolan and beat her, and the two of them had no room to maneuver.
I said unabashedly: "She's too much, how could I possibly agree to her terms?" Anyway, I just don't like her! ”
You! The son pounded the table excitedly and said, "What does it matter to you that I marry her?" Don't I even have the right to choose marriage? ”
I stared at him angrily, anger burning in my heart. What kind of magic did this Xiaolan do to my son to make him so persistent!
Seeing that I didn't respond, my son snorted heavily, then turned around and slammed the door slammed.
I slapped it on the table angrily, feeling sorry for my son and deeply angry at Xiaolan. My wife comforted me on the side: "Don't be too angry, let's take a step and see one step at a time." ”
I nodded with red eyes and asked my wife to put the real estate certificate in the bank for safekeeping. My son is so emotional, anything can happen, and it must be prevented.
For the next few days, my son kept talking to me coldly, and I tried to take the initiative to communicate with him, but he just snorted coldly. Later, I heard from my wife that my son and Xiaolan really broke up, and Xiaolan had also left the company and her whereabouts were unknown. List of high-quality authors