How to open the "first step"?
The answer is: build a good first impression + quality chat.
There is a concept in psychology called the first cause effect.
Meaning: The first impression you make with the person will directly determine the state of your relationship with each other.
It's like a blind date. The first impression is better, the chat is more comfortable, and the follow-up is more willing to contact the other party;
On the contrary, if the first impression left is bad, the blind date may end and delete each other's friends.
Making a good first impression is simple.
Dress neatly and neatly, and be generous;
Pay attention to your posture, appearance;
Pay attention to the tone of voice, attitude when speaking.
Keywords: self-confidence.
In addition, the most important tips for making the opposite sex feel good about you are:
Create high-quality chats.
How? 
The core ingredient of maintaining a relationship: listening
If you can be a good "good listener" with anyone, your relationship will not be bad.
At least in the eyes of the other party:
You are worthy of a relationship because you are willing to listen carefully to what he has to say.
Psychologically speaking, everyone's inner needs are longing to be heard.
Being seen and listened to can make people feel "emotionally sustenance".
For example: what is the purpose of the opposite sex chatting with you, sharing life, sharing preferences?
It is to guide you to share by expressing yourself.
He wants to be similar to you in certain things;
Judging by this, whether I want to continue the conversation with you.
Words are not speculative for more than half a sentence".
If you don't have a common topic, he won't share it with you.
If the similarity is high, then he is willing to talk to you more.
Provide "emotional value" appropriately
Emotional values, including:
Understand, listen, give advice, give comfort, and stand on the same front.
For example, if they complain to you about their relationship with a colleague, they have encountered a rather annoying thing.
What is the purpose of complaining?
I hope you will stand with him, share the same hatred, and say a few angry words.
Let him realize:
Well, this guy is really annoying, he knows my mind."
This kind of chat is effective communication.
He is very angry and annoyed, but you "reason" with him, this is ineffective communication.
Everyone understands the truth, what they really need is someone to stand with them.
It's preference, it's choice, it's firmness.
"This guy is really annoying, it's excessive," he said.
You should reply: "It's really annoying, and I can't hold back my anger when I hear what you describe." ”
It's as simple as that.
Never be too easy to reason with the other person.
Try to increase the "depth of the chat".
There is a concept in social psychology - "social osmosis theory".
To put it simply: the measure of how much a relationship is progressing is whether two people are willing to discuss "deeper" topics with the other person.
If your chat is just scratching the surface:
What to eat? What to drink? Busy? Slept? How's the mood?
This kind of "conversational, à la carte chat" can quickly become boring and boring.
What is a deep chat?
It's the information you get in the process of communicating with each other.
Either it is the collision of values and the integration of concepts;
Either some gossip, some interesting things;
Or it's some little secret, a topic that will enhance the relationship.
Talking nonsense is not suitable in the early stages of getting along, because once the relationship is established, you have a lot of time to talk nonsense.
The emotional rhythm of contemporary people is very fast.
You need to establish "quality communication" with the other person at the beginning of your relationship.
Be interesting, informative, and valuable.
It's like reading a book.
Whether it can attract you or not, it is often the first dozen chapters.
Increase the "Chat Frequency".
I have to mention another psychological concept - the *effect.
The more you chat with each other, the more opportunities you have to meet each other, and the more often you get along;
Then the higher the proportion you occupy in the other person's life.
In other words: frequent chatting is meant to make you a "habit" of the other person.
Talk frequently with someone of the opposite sex who has a good impression of you for a period of time, and you will fall in love.
Subconsciously, you have taken each other's existence as a habit;
It's like eating, drinking, sleeping.
Of course, there is a premise for high-frequency chats:
If you can do the first 3 steps, the other party will not dislike you and will be willing to talk to you.
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