Around us, there are many people who are striving for perfection in life, career or children's education, pursuing the extreme, painstakingly, meticulously, hoping that everything is perfect, not leaving the slightest defect, but the final outcome is often not satisfactory.
Let's talk about love first, handsome and upright men often marry a woman with a mediocre appearance; A beautiful woman often marries an ordinary man, so there are sayings that "a good man has no good wife, Lai Han marries a flower branch" and "a good cabbage is called a pig arch" and "a flower is inserted in cow dung". The so-called golden boy and girl only exist in fairy tales, so don't be melancholy, don't be indignant, this is God is finding a balance for people in the dark. You were originally good-looking, and if you marry a better one, how can others live?
Speaking of family, a family is orderly and orderly, treats each other sincerely, has no contradictions and entanglements, and lives a peaceful and stable life, but it is often not rich and rich; A family with a lot of money and a prominent reputation is often intrigued, with ups and downs, and constant troubles, and is not as happy as people think. A husband loves his wife, respects the elderly, is humble, works tirelessly, and never messes with flowers, but he often can't make a lot of money, mediocre and ordinary. A man can fight and fight, is smart and scheming, has a successful career, and is wealthy, but he often has to look at Shu, have three wives and four concubines, and sometimes he doesn't even go home, and he can't see his face, which makes his wife heartbroken.
I just watched a movie "Solid as a Rock", in which Deputy Mayor Zheng and entrepreneur Li Zhitian, one is a ** Houlu, and the other is worth tens of billions, but they live in the bloody wind and rain every day, trembling, and finally have no good death. When a person occupies the sky, it is impossible to occupy the land again, and there is no one to discord.
Let's talk about children, a child has been smart since he was a child, a top student, a green light all the way to his studies, and finally succeeds in his studies and settles overseas, which is the pride of his parents, but his parents are old and sick in bed, and they can't even serve a bowl of water; But ordinary children with mediocre studies and average qualifications are often the ones whose parents are filial piety before bed and send their parents to the end of their lives.
Heaven is full of jealousy, humanity is jealous, and it is not necessarily a good thing for a person to occupy the right time and place, there must be a certain bump in the road waiting in front. When the moon is round, it will be missing, the water tank will overflow when it is full, everyone wants to go to a high place, but it must be downhill to the highest point, so imperfection is the way of heaven, lack is the best state, and perfection is just people's yearning.
Therefore, if we encounter something unsatisfactory in our life, don't be annoyed, you have to think, it must be God who sees me too good in other aspects, find a balance for me, and don't be too proud when you encounter things that are proud of the spring breeze, you must know that there is a word called happiness and sadness, no matter what kind of things you encounter, it is the most important thing to keep a calm mind and maintain concentration.
In the end, it comes down to the couplet of Lingyin Temple in Hangzhou: How can life be all as you want, and everything is only half satisfied.