Wang Fu, a philosopher of the Eastern Han Dynasty, once said: "Virtue is not worthy of its duties, and its disasters will be cool; If it can not be worthy of its position, its harm will be great. ”
If virtue and position are not commensurate, the calamity must be cruel; If the talent is not commensurate with the position, the disaster must be great.
Life is a reincarnation, blessings and misfortunes have their own cause and effect, everything is arranged by God, you just have to be kind, stick to your heart, and do your best.
Life in the world, good character is the bottom line of being a person, if people are kind, they will be blessed, and they will not suffer at all.
Those who are good are also good
There is a saying in Lao Tzu's Tao Te Ching: "Heaven has no relatives, and he is always with good people." ”
The Heavenly Way treats all beings equally and impartially, but the Divine often favors and blesses those who treat others well.
People often say: Be a man and leave a line, and see each other in the future.
In this life, people will inevitably encounter difficulties and ups and downs, and learn to be kind to others; Be kind, give to others, and benefit yourself.
In the Spring and Autumn Period, Zhao Xuanzi saw a person lying under a mulberry tree, unable to stand up because of hunger.
So he gave him some food, and the man thanked him and accepted it, but he did not eat it.
Zhao Xuanzi was very strange and asked him why he didn't eat it?
The man replied that he would leave it for his mother.
Zhao Xuanzi appreciated this man's filial piety and gave him a large piece of beef and some money.
Two years later, Jin Linggong sent a group of assassins to hunt down Zhao Xuanzi.
An assassin caught up with Zhao Xuanzi, looked at his face, and exclaimed: "It's you, please let me die for you." ”
Zhao Xuanzi asked, "Who is the righteous man?" ”
The Assassin said, "I am the hungry man you saved. ”
After saying that, he turned around and fought to his death with the pursuing assassin, and Zhao Xuanzi was able to escape.
Mencius once said, "A gentleman is great at being kind to others." ”
Back then, whether it was Zhao Xuanzi or Sangxia's hungry people, they would never think of the rescue in the future.
If you have good thoughts, you will naturally be blessed, and if you are kind to others, you will naturally be treated well by others.
As a man, you can give up everything, but you can't lose kindness, all kindness to others is in the end to fulfill yourself.
On the road of life, to be kind to others is to be kind to yourself.
Learn to be kind to others and accumulate blessings for yourself, so that life can go further.
Those who respect others will always respect them
The Analects says: "A gentleman is respectful and respectful, and courteous to others." ”
Work seriously and make no mistakes; Be respectful and courteous.
People should respect each other and treat each other sincerely; Respect the opinions and actions of others, and do not judge and criticize easily.
This so-called, respect people with courtesy, then people respect courtesy.
During Lincoln's campaign speech, a congressman humiliated him and said
Mr. Lincoln, before you begin your speech, I want you to remember that you are the son of a shoemaker. ”
Lincoln replied, "I must take your advice to heart, and I know that I can't do as well as my father did as a shoemaker." ”
The Senate fell silent.
Lincoln said to the arrogant congressman
As far as I know, my father used to make shoes for your family as well, and if your shoes don't fit, I can help you fix them. Although I am not a great shoemaker, I learned the art of making shoes from my father at a young age. ”
Then he said to all the senators:
If your shoes are made by my father and they need to be repaired or improved, I will help as much as I can. ”
At this moment, all the ridicule turned into sincere applause.
Really good people will not be quick to speak, and they will not use their position of power to threaten and suppress others.
People who know how to respect others, do things with consideration for others' feelings, treat others sincerely, have an open-minded attitude, and will be respected.
In interpersonal communication, please respect everyone, don't belittle and look down on anyone, respect for others is respect for yourself.
There is also a story like this:
A waiter accidentally spilled soup when serving food, and the guest did not give up, scolding the restaurant for not doing a good job in training.
No matter how the waiter apologized, the guest did not accept it and scolded for half an hour.
The manager and the store manager couldn't apologize, and in the end, the customer didn't eat well, which also affected the mood.
All people are created equal, and there is no high or low profession, and waiters do make mistakes in their work, but they are not so wrong.
The arrogance of the guests did not elevate his status, nor did he gain the inner respect of others.
Understanding others is a kind of self-cultivation, and respecting others is a quality.
Being kind to others, understanding and respecting others is the only way to gain trust and respect and build good people
international relations.
He who forgives others, he forgives himself
Xue Xuan, a famous writer in the Ming Dynasty, said: "Only wide can accommodate people, and only thick can carry things." ”
Only with a broad mind can people tolerate the mistakes of others, and only with high moral character can they bear heavy responsibilities.
Conduct oneself in the world, be generous to others, know how to be tolerant, do not care, and will eventually achieve what you want.
After Liu Bei's death, the southern chief Meng Shu launched a rebellion, and Zhuge Liang decided to personally lead troops to quell the rebellion.
Someone proposed: "The prime minister does not have to risk his life, it is enough to send a strong general to the south." ”
But Zhuge Liang wanted to subdue Meng Shu and ordered his subordinates not to harm Meng Shu and to capture him alive.
After capturing Meng Shu for the first time, Zhuge Liang personally served him wine and accompanied him to visit the Shu army camp.
Meng Shu said: "I didn't know your truth before, so I was defeated, now let me go back, I will definitely be able to defeat you." ”
So, Zhuge Liang released Meng Huo, and then he led the troops to challenge and was captured alive, but Zhuge Liang still refused to admit defeat and released him again.
The seventh time, Meng Huo was caught in the Shu army camp, and Zhuge Liang gave an order: "Let Meng Huo go back, let him organize his men and horses and fight again." ”
Meng Yu thought for a long time and said: "Seven captures and seven verticals, Cheng is so tolerant of me, although I don't have much culture, but I know the truth of being a man." ”
After speaking, Meng Shu knelt on the ground and cried: "Prime Minister Tianwei, we will never rebel again!" ”
Since then, Meng has returned to Shu with all his heart, clearing the way for Shu Han to send troops to the Central Plains.
There is a saying in "Yanshan Night Talk": A gentleman can't bear what people can't bear, and he can't tolerate what people can't.
Forgiving others can dissolve the anger in their hearts, win respect, and become a better person.
It is difficult for a narrow-minded person to gain the respect of others, and it is difficult for him to achieve success in life.
A person whose heart is as wide as the sea, who can tolerate and accept the mistakes of others, will surely make great achievements in the vast world.
Socializing with others, being more tolerant, can liberate oneself, cultivate oneself, and stay away from resentment, and be more open-minded.
Confucius said: "If a son wants to do something, he must first be holy." ”
Be a person in advance, be upright, and have a good character, so that you can achieve great things.
Character determines the fate of a person to a large extent, and a good character will add to life.
People with good character are destined to have good luck; People with poor character are destined not to go far.
Light up [watching], walk in the world, may everyone be able to cultivate good conduct, have good thoughts, do more good deeds, be favored by God, and have endless blessings!