The second aunt in my hometown is over 60 years old this year, and like most people in the countryside, she is an empty nester.
The second aunt has two children, the daughter fell in love freely and married in Yunnan when she was working in the factory, and the son's family settled in Guangdong, which was a long way away, and only came back during the Spring Festival, and did not return during the Spring Festival in some years. Usually the second aunt is alone at home and outside the house.
A few years ago, the grandson was small, and the second aunt went to Guangdong to live for a few years to see her grandson, and then the grandson grew up and went to school, she and her daughter-in-law couldn't get along, and she was bored alone, so she went back to her hometown. Living alone in my hometown.
There are still a few acres of land at home, the second aunt loves beauty, loves to raise flowers, usually rushes to the market to set up a stall to sell a pocket money, and there is a pension of more than 100 yuan a month after the age of 60.
Every year during the Spring Festival, the son will take the whole family home for the New Year, the usually deserted courtyard has more laughter, the daughter is in Yunnan, the road is far away, not every Spring Festival is back, occasionally I will visit my mother during the Spring Festival, a rare family reunion, is the happiest time of the year for the second aunt.
This year's Chinese New Year, my son's family came back, my daughter didn't come back, and the road fare from Yunnan to Henan for the New Year was several thousand yuan, which was indeed too expensive, and it was not easy for the children to make money, and the second aunt could understand. Even so, the second aunt was satisfied, and she was really happy to see her grandson and aunt who thought about it day and night, and took her grandson to the market to buy toys and delicious food, and never left.
On the morning of the second day of the Lunar New Year, if the daughter does not return to the second aunt's house, there will be no guests, the son and daughter-in-law go out, the second aunt and grandson eat snacks and watch TV in the living room, and the second aunt teases the grandson to play.
The grandson had no intention of saying that the father said that when you are old, let you go to the nursing home, the second aunt felt sour when she heard this, and her tears almost fell, the grandson was not sensible, she knew that this was her son and daughter-in-law who spoke The grandson heard it, and the child was unscrupulous, and he told it, and the son had already placed himself, and the nursing home was his final destination.
Most rural people can not accept nursing homes, they have a strong traditional cultural complex, hoping to be in their own home, in their son's home to be sent to the end, raising children to prevent old age is the wish of every rural elderly, but the society has developed to the present, most of the old people's wish is difficult to realize.
This world looks like laughter, strong human feelings, everyone has contacts and contacts, in fact, it is very realistic, especially cruel, and under the gorgeous appearance is the cruel reality, that is, everyone needs your value, when you have no value, that is, when you are abandoned by this world, this world also includes your children.
People are the first to be abandoned by society, abandoned by the workplace, after the age of 35, energy, brain, physical and heart gradually exhausted, at this time they are facing unemployment, helpless, many people begin to experience the initial feeling of abandonment.
At the age of forty or fifty, in the unit to take a back seat, no one cares, usually no banquet, no ** no WeChat, being forgotten is an embarrassing situation for many middle-aged people, after retirement, at first can take the grandson to cook, etc., it is still valuable, the son needs, and I think it is very good, and when the grandson grows up, it will completely lose its value, and it is time to be abandoned by the children. Most of the elderly have become empty nesters and die alone.
We have the tradition of respecting the elderly, during the festival to the old people New Year's gifts, ask for warmth, young people go home to visit the elderly, in fact, they are all forms, the old people want to give New Year's money, to serve their children, or silently bear all, nominally respect the old in fact, the old, are all empty things.
When you are worthless to others is when you are abandoned by others, this other person also includes your own children, not expecting others is the homework that every middle-aged person has to do, this other person includes everyone, your children, you can't think about it can only make yourself more troubled. **10,000 Fans Incentive Plan