"What is Happy Planet? "What is Happy Planet?
In the minds of many people, "Happy Planet" undoubtedly represents "childhood memories".
Not long ago, Zhang Zhaoyi, the actor of "Ice Lemon", officially announced the good news of his second child on Weibo.
At first, she was unwell, the pain was getting worse, and then she had an emotional breakdown.
But fortunately, her husband Brother Bao is always by her side, which undoubtedly gives Zhang Zhaoyi the greatest sense of security.
In addition to worry, she is more expectant and reassuring.
After seeing the news, many netizens expressed disbelief: A second child so soon?
However, more netizens have sent their blessings.
Of course, there is no lack of empathy from mothers in the comment area, lamenting that it is not easy to have a child.
It is said that women are weak, but mothers are strong.
Pregnancy in October contains too many difficulties and sadness.
It was a long wait, and it was a gamble of life.
Miriam Yang had a check-up when she was pregnant and found that she had uterine fibroids, which was not suitable for having children.
As the child grows up, the uterine fibroids are also getting bigger, which is undoubtedly a "bomb", and I don't know when it will explode.
After being entangled, Miriam Yang still left the child.
On the day of delivery, the delivery process was extremely critical, and the doctor could only pick up the fibroids and use forceps to remove the child, but fortunately, the mother and child were safe in the end.
Speaking of the experience of leaving the ghost gate, in addition to Miriam Yang, Huo Siyan herself also had palpitations.
Huo Siyan's experience of being born can be described as nine deaths.
Because of physical reasons, she chose to have a caesarean section, and everything went smoothly.
But on the night of the 4th day after giving birth, Huo Siyan suddenly bleed heavily and almost died.
The doctor issued a critical illness notice on the spot, and more than 30 pieces of gauze alone were used to stop bleeding, covering the floor of the operating room.
After a thrilling rescue, Huo Siyan was finally rescued.
Still, she was still in her heart: "That was the closest I was to death. ”
When Da S gave birth to her second child, due to physical exhaustion and waist colic, she was allergic to painkillers, which led to seizures and an instantaneous hypoxic coma.
After two first aids and one night of ICU observation, it was possible to survive the danger safely.
When Mei Ting gave birth, she unfortunately had amniotic fluid embolism and amniotic fluid reflux, and the low pressure of blood on ......the monitor was gone, and the high pressure was only more than 60, and she was almost not rescued
There is such a sentence in "Shengmen":
"Production is a door, outside the door is the joy of waiting for a new life, but inside the door is the thrill of fighting with death. ”For moms, childbirth is the biggest adventure of a lifetime.
Along the way, there are dangers everywhere.
There is only a fraction of a millimeter between life and death, and it is a complete race against time.
Every life is a miracle, and every child is a mother's friend of life and death.
Those so-called maternal halos are just the result of their hard work and risking their lives.
In any link, without that little bit of luck, the ending is unimaginable.
There was a very popular topic on Weibo: "After giving birth, do you regret it?" ”
There was a mother's message in the comment area, which received a very high approval:
"I never regret it, but I also know very well that life has left me no free time for myself. ”After becoming a mother, of course, there are many happy moments, but at the same time it also means that a new battlefield begins.
In the show, Cai Shaofen once confided in the hardships of raising 3 children.
She confessed that after having a child, she hadn't slept for almost ten years.
The youngest son often wakes up at 4 o'clock in the morning, crying and shouting for **, even if she sleeps late, she has to endure sleepiness to get up to feed the child.
At 5 a.m., it's time to start making breakfast and braiding for the daughters.
After the two daughters went to school, it was the turn of the younger son.
Cai Shaofen not only has to cook and feed him, but also has to accompany him to go out to play.
From day to night, from night to day, there is no idle moment.
However, it is not only this that makes mothers miserable.
Busyness is just their standard, and what is even more torturous is all kinds of unspeakable sequelae of childbirth.
First of all, what you have to face is that your body is out of shape, and Xi Mengyao, who regards her body as life, once revealed:
"After I gave birth, my whole body became thicker. I used to wear jeans with a waist of 24, but now I can't wear them. ”What's more intuitive is that netizens posted their postpartum belly, and the tight and flat lower abdomen is gone, replaced by shocking stretch marks.
Ella once revealed the embarrassment and helplessness of postpartum incontinence.
Because of the prolapse of the uterus and bladder caused by childbirth, I have been deeply troubled for 3 years.
"My sneezing, jumping on the spot, running and other movements can cause incontinence and my pants get wet......”is as strong as Zhang Ziyi, in the most torturous moment of childbirth, she just didn't snort.
But he still failed in the "physiological engorgement".
Mastitis, anterior pelvic tilt, pubic separation, ......Such unspeakable hidden, mothers have endured too much.
Either one, it's enough to break people.
The matter of childbirth is simple to say, but it is sad behind it.
It's like a marathon, it's hard and long.
It can be said that a woman who has experienced childbirth has experienced a catastrophe in her body, and it is a scar that is difficult to erase with all her might.
For women, childbirth is not only a "quantitative change" of the body, but also a physical and mental purgatory.
Many times, it's not the pain and stress that really crush them.
It is the neglect and indifference of those around you when you are most helpless.
I once watched a set of interviews in which several mothers told about their experiences of postpartum depression.
Listening to the wives confess their painful experiences of postpartum depression, the men were unimpressed.
In their eyes, they are all trivial things that are not worth mentioning, and they are too trivial to make a fuss.
But for women, postpartum depression is not fragile, not hypocritical, but more like a cry for help.
"I had an illness and no one in my family knew I was sick, but I was very sick......”It's sad, but also countless helplessness.
Childbirth is a torture for women's bodies and a baptism for their souls.
Therefore, the pain should not be hidden, it should be exposed to the sun to attract more people's attention.
Alyssa Jia gave birth to a daughter at an advanced age in her second marriage, and her postpartum mood was also very unstable, but fortunately, Xiu Jiekai was always by her side.
Every time she broke down and cried, Xiu Jiekai would comfort her on the side: "Don't be afraid, I'm here." ”
When the child was born, Xiu Jiekai was in the rising period of his career.
But Xiu Jiekai still spends a lot of time raising children with his wife.
He can understand his wife's hard work, so he always spares no effort to help his wife.
Changing the child's diaper, dressing the child, telling stories, he has it all at his fingertips.
In their family, when the child has something, he does not blindly look for his mother, but often looks for his father.
In the process of raising children, he never made Alyssa feel that she was alone.
This is what a responsible husband should look like.
Childbirth has never been taken for granted, they are betting on their lives, and the bet on the world is worth it.
When Xie Na was pregnant, Zhang Jie gave up almost all his work and stayed by Xie Na's side wholeheartedly, giving her a sense of security.
not only cooks and cooks food by himself, but also accompanies Xie Na to go out to breathe when she has insomnia in the middle of the night.
Zhang Xinyi faced the pressure of breastfeeding and returning to the workplace, and Yuan Hong gave the strongest support.
He has a job in his eyes, and he will share the pressure of parenting, but he still stands firm and supports her to do what she wants to do.
In life, many people often talk about "motherhood is rigid", requiring mothers to be strong, forbearing, and omnipotent.
But what they don't know is that the previous sentence of this sentence is "women are weak".
Moms are also ordinary people of flesh and blood, they will also be tired, they will be painful, they will be sad, they will be anxious, and they will despair.
The more vulnerable they are, the more they need support from their husbands.
With a husband present, the wife has enough space to release her pressure and grievances.
Zhan Qingyun once said such a sentence in "Wonderful Sayings":
"Why am I afraid of marriage and childbearing?Childbirth is never easy, and every step of the process requires a great deal of time, energy, and even health.Because everyone around me has already shown me that the standard of women as a superman has been set up there. ”
No mother is born a god.
Their situation needs to be truly seen.
What's more, raising children is never an easy task, and it depends on two people to support it together.
Only in this way will they have the strength to persevere and feel the joy of new life.
There is still a long way to go.