It is said that marriage is the grave of love, although this is somewhat negative, but it also reveals the complexity of marriage to a certain extent. Many people judge two people before and after marriage, resulting in the gradual estrangement of husband and wife. So, in the relationship between husband and wife, what are the taboo red lines that cannot be touched?
The first red line: don't try to change the other person
Xiaofang and her husband have been married for five years, and the relationship between the two has always been very good. However, Xiaofang always felt that her husband was not romantic enough, and every Valentine's Day and wedding anniversary was dull and lacked a sense of ceremony. So, she began to try to change her husband, hoping that he would know more about romance. She made a series of "romantic plans" for her husband, such as sending him a bouquet of flowers every day after work, or arranging a romantic date for a special holiday. At first, her husband still cooperated with acting, but gradually, he felt very depressed and even began to run away from Xiaofang.
Xiaofang's approach is a typical example of trying to change the other party. She hopes that her husband will live according to his imagination and complete the "romance" in his heart. However, everyone has their own personality and habits, and trying to change the other will only lead to contradictions and resentment. Love requires mutual respect and understanding, and not trying to change each other, which is the first red line that cannot be touched in the relationship between husband and wife.
The second red line: don't touch the other party's bottom line
Lili and her husband are both very ambitious people and are often busy for work. Once, my husband was criticized by his boss for making a mistake at work, and he was very depressed. Seeing this, Lili wants to deepen her relationship by comforting her husband. However, she inadvertently touched her husband's bottom line and said something that hurt his self-esteem. This made the husband feel very aggrieved and angry, and the relationship between the two caused a rift because of it.
Everyone has their own bottom line and dignity, and touching these bottom lines will only lead to quarrels and conflicts. When husband and wife get along, they must learn to respect each other's feelings and emotions, and do not easily touch each other's bottom line. If the other person needs comfort and encouragement, then your concern and support should be expressed in a gentle and understanding manner. Only in this way can harmony and stability between husband and wife be maintained.
The third red line: don't hide important information
Kobayashi and his wife have been married for ten years, and the relationship between the two has always been very good. However, once Kobayashi often worked overtime because of work and did not tell his wife the truth. Gradually, his wife found out about the clues and began to question whether Kobayashi had cheated. As Kobayashi is unable to explain his situation clearly, the trust between the couple begins to break down. Eventually, they decided to divorce.
Withholding important information is a big taboo in couples. Whatever the reason, concealment undermines the foundation of trust and honesty. Husbands and wives should be honest with each other, trust and support each other. If there is something that cannot be told to the other person, then it should be communicated in a timely manner and a solution should be sought. Concealment only makes the problem more complex and difficult to solve.
In short: these 3 red lines cannot be touched in the relationship between husband and wife: don't try to change each other, don't touch each other's bottom line, and don't hide important information. These taboos can not only affect the affection and trust between couples, but can also lead to the breakdown of marriages. Therefore, it is necessary to maintain a respectful, understanding and tolerant attitude at all times when husband and wife get along, and jointly maintain a harmonious and stable family relationship.
So let's look at a specific story:
Li Ming and his wife Xiaofang are a loving couple, and the two have been married for five years. However, as time passed, the contradictions between them gradually became apparent. Xiao Fang always felt that Li Ming was not considerate and cared about herself, while Li Ming felt that Xiao Fang relied too much on her own opinions and ideas. This contradiction gradually accumulated, causing more and more quarrels between them. Li Ming tries to understand Xiao Fang's needs and feelings, and Xiao Fang tries to accept Li Ming's thoughts and decisions. Gradually, they learned how to balance each other's needs and expectations, and their relationship became more harmonious and stable. In the process, they also realized that some taboo red lines in couples should not be touched: don't try to change each other, don't touch each other's bottom line, and don't hide important information. It is these principles that have taught them how to maintain harmony and stability between husband and wife.
**Wanfan Incentive Plan In short: Husbands and wives need to understand and tolerate each other, abide by some basic principles and taboos, and the red line cannot be touched: don't try to change each other, don't touch each other's bottom line, don't hide important information. Only in this way can we jointly maintain a harmonious and stable family relationship.
Here I also wish all couples, family happiness, and growing old together, or the sentence of a hundred years to cross the same boat, a thousand years to sleep together, cherish the people you cherish.