Xiaowen learned of the death of the "eldest sister" from Xiaowu. Her real name is little known, and the title of "eldest sister" is only the title of Xiaowen's daughter-in-law in the Bai family. Back then, Bai Jiaxuan's family was in urgent need of manpower, so he hurriedly married his eldest sister, who was three years older than Xiaowen, and asked her to take care of the housework and pass on the lineage. When he was entangled with Tian Xiao'e in the cave, Xiaowen was shocked to learn the news of his eldest sister's death, but he did not feel more emotions. This diligent woman died suddenly.
When the eldest sister's family handled the funeral, only her youngest brother was sent to mourn. At that time, Bailu was in the year of disaster, and his younger brother devoured it at the funeral, completely ignoring the matter of redressing his sister's grievances. The poor eldest sister worked hard in the Bai family and gave birth to two sons, but she was never respected by the Bai family and cherished by Xiaowen. Eventually, she starved to death tragically.
I once thought that the death of the eldest sister was due to the fall of Bai Xiaowen, but after revisiting the original work of "White Deer Plain", I realized that the tragedy of the eldest sister had been foreshadowed during the period of her mother's family. The attitude of her mother's family determines her status in her in-law's family. Bai Jiaxuan's other two daughters-in-law are from famous and excellent families respectively, and in comparison, the eldest sister's mother's family seems to be weak. It is speculated that the eldest sister did not marry until she was 19 years old, perhaps because her mother's family was poor and could not provide a rich dowry to support her brother's marriage, or the family was sparse, and the eldest sister played an important role in the family.
There is very little description of the eldest sister's family in the original book, but it can be inferred from the details in the book that the eldest sister's family cannot provide her with any support, which is also the key factor for Bai Jiaxuan to easily control her. Therefore, the tragedy of the eldest sister not only stems from the ruthlessness of the Bai family and the neglect of Bai Xiaowen, but also closely related to the situation of her mother's family. In Bailu Plain, there is an eldest sister who has a strong body, infinite strength, and has never been sick. Her arms are muscular, strong and tough, and can rival even men. The muscles of the thighs and calves are also amazingly hard. These muscles are not only a testimony to her hard work, but also a sign of her mother's industrious spirit.
After the death of the eldest sister, Xiaowu thought that her family would come**. However, surprisingly, only one minor brother from the family came. When this younger brother saw his sister's corpse, he was not as excited as he was to see a bowl of noodles. This also reveals that the eldest sister's family is not wealthy, and may not even care too much about this daughter.
Although there was a famine in Bailu Plain, there was still food in the town, but it was higher. And this younger brother forgot to avenge his eldest sister for just a bowl of noodles. This move undoubtedly shows that the eldest sister's family is indeed not wealthy, and she may not have this daughter in her heart.
Compared with Mr. Leng's second daughter, Xiaowu's daughter-in-law, Bai Jiaxuan's attitude was more gentle. Not only did he rarely criticize Xiaowu's daughter-in-law, but he also praised her for the delicious noodles she made in front of his eldest sister and encouraged her to study hard. This also shows Mr. Leng's high prestige and status in the White Deer Plain, which makes people respect his daughter even more.
Lu Zilin is very aware of Mr. Leng's influence, and he understands that having a bad relationship with Mr. Leng is almost equivalent to offending half of Bailuyuan. Therefore, he would rather have a stiff relationship with his son than take a break from Leng Qiuyue. This also reflects the social perception of the time, where a woman's maiden background has a decisive impact on her position in her husband's family. There is a similar statement in "Know": After a daughter gets married, her status will be relatively reduced; And if the mother's family is rich and powerful, the daughter's waist will be stiffened. But unfortunately, the eldest sister's maiden family does not have these two conditions.
During the famine, a creepy story is cleverly interspersed. The story tells the story of a daughter-in-law who has just passed through the door and is unable to sleep at night because she is hungry, and she hears her parents-in-law and her husband discussing killing themselves to satisfy their hunger. The daughter-in-law was so frightened that she ran back to her parents' house overnight. Under the comfort of her own mother, she gradually fell asleep. However, in her sleep, she heard her parents say, "Instead of letting others kill and eat, let's kill and eat ourselves." From then on, the daughter-in-law's spirit collapsed.
The story reveals the harsh realities of society at the time, people's existential dilemmas and moral dilemmas in the midst of famine. This daughter-in-law alludes to the eldest sister, because the eldest sister experienced many difficulties and challenges in that era. Although it is not enough to eat people, it is often difficult in the in-law's family. The days when I go back to my parents' house may not be comparable to my mother-in-law's house, not to mention that the eldest sister's family has already taken care of itself. Therefore, even if it was not easy for her in-laws, she never thought of going back to her parents' house to ask for help and support.
The eldest sister's filial piety and diligence are also highly praised. She is well aware of her responsibilities and obligations and strives to maintain the family's livelihood and take care of her in-laws and other family members. However, her efforts were not rewarded as they should be. Due to her husband's ignorance and the indifference of the white family, the eldest sister has endured too much pressure and unfair treatment.
In the process, the eldest sister gradually lost confidence in marriage and family. She began to wonder if she really fit into the family, and even considered leaving. However, in the end, she chose to stay and silently bear everything.
Despite this, the eldest sister still maintains a positive attitude and love for life. She believes that as long as you work and live hard, there will always be a good day. She proved it with her actions.
The story of the eldest sister teaches us not to give up or run away easily when we encounter difficulties and setbacks in life. Be brave enough to face and overcome difficulties, maintain a positive attitude and love for life. Only in this way can you create a better future of your own. Bai Xiaowen never got involved in the games that the villagers often played, and in every aspect, he showed the potential to be the head of the clan.
However, he is also a normal person, who has been controlled by others for a long time, and the desire to escape has become stronger and stronger. Just like a spring that is depressed, the higher the height. The pent-up desires in Hyowen's heart will be released wildly once they find an exit. The eldest sister unfortunately became his outlet. The intimacy with his eldest sister became the only thing he could do to escape from his father and make his own decisions. He used this madness to release the depression in his heart.
Faced with Xiaowen's predicament, Bai Jiaxuan did not deeply reflect on his own education problems, but instead put the responsibility on the eldest sister, thinking that it was the eldest sister's seduction that made Xiaowen unable to extricate himself. Grandma Xiaowen scolded the eldest sister even more unbearably, and even threatened to sew her ** with a needle and thread. This made the eldest sister, who had just been married, feel ashamed and afraid.
After Bai Jiaxuan found out, he blamed Grandma Xiaowen for speaking too directly, but he came forward in person to calm down the farce. He was very relieved to see Xiaowen's face gradually recovering, but he never considered the feelings of the eldest sister, let alone compensated her.
Xiaowen sold his property and lived in Xiao'e's cave. During the famine, the two children went to the backyard to eat under the care of Xiancao, and the family was destitute, and the eldest sister lay on the kang weakly, and later did not even have the strength to sit up. Bai Jiaxuan's family knew that the eldest sister had nothing to do, but they never thought of providing any help.
The eldest sister lay down from morning till night, as if forgotten. Bai Jiaxuan's family's unfair treatment of the eldest sister is distressing. As a daughter-in-law, the eldest sister is hardworking and capable, serving her in-laws wholeheartedly, but she was snubbed by the Bai family because of a mistake. On her deathbed, the eldest sister struggled to see Bai Jiaxuan, just to prove her worth and the meaning of existence.
Bai Jiaxuan's indifference made the eldest sister disheartened, and finally passed away desolately. The Bai family seems to have punished Xiaowen, but they never really cared about the eldest sister's hardships, but resented her for bringing her son badly. This apathy and ignorance are staggering. In those times, women had a low status and life and death were seen as inconsequential matters. Bai Xiaowen's three slaps made the eldest sister's life even worse, and brought her to the end of her life. This indifference and injustice towards women is deeply deplorable.
In the emotional entanglement between Bai Xiaowen and Tian Xiao'e, Bai Xiaowen gradually fell into a situation where he could not extricate himself. Although his father strictly disciplined him and forbade him to have intimate relations with Tian Xiao'e, he couldn't help but go to Tian Xiao'e's cave often. He even brazenly compared his wife with Tian Xiao'e, thinking that his own women were like tasteless tofu scum compared to Tian Xiao'e.
Initially, Bai Xiaowen did not have a deep affection for Tian Xiao'e, he just saw her as a tool to escape the pressure and constraints of his family. Under the control of his family, he was depressed like a volcano about to erupt. As time passed, Bai Xiaowen became addicted to opium, and the family's land and property were gradually sold for tobacco. The eldest sister felt sorry for her younger brother and wanted to know that the silver yuan that sold the land had gone, but Bai Xiaowen replied to her indifferently: "You are fierce, you are taking care of me?" ”。Faced with the eldest sister's bitter pleading, hoping that he would buy some food, he said indifferently: "If you don't buy it, if you want to die, you will die quickly." ”
Bai Xiaowen indulged in opium and adulteration with Tian Xiao'e, and did not care about the plight of his family. The eldest sister suffered endless ridicule and ridicule in the village, and she almost starved to death without financial **. And Bai Xiaowen turned a blind eye to this, but was alienated and indifferent to the eldest sister. One night, the eldest sister angrily blocked Bai Xiaowen and Tian Xiao'e in the cave and scolded her. Xiaowen on Xing's head immediately gave the eldest sister a slap in the face, and when she tried to hit Tian Xiao'e, she gave her two more mouths to protect Xiao'e. The big ** lay on the ground bitterly, and was dragged home like a pig that was dragged to death.
Even so, the eldest sister still thinks of the kindness between husband and wife. She chose to go to Bai Xiaowen at night, hoping to leave a glimmer of hope for his change of heart. She didn't want to be seen by the villagers in her frustrated and embarrassing situation. Sadly, Baek Hyo-moon's actions dashed all her hopes. However, the eldest sister didn't know that Xiaowen had already abandoned her face. He completely ignored the face of his eldest sister, and he didn't care about the emotions between them. He recklessly punched and kicked the eldest sister, and then dragged the dying eldest sister home from the door of the cave as if no one was around.
Good things don't go out, but bad things spread thousands of miles. Although it was night, the tragic situation of the eldest sister may have already become a hot topic of conversation when people chatted. People love face, and trees have bark. The indifference of the Bai family, the eldest sister can barely bear it, but Xiaowen's slap not only hit her, but also tore off her face in front of the whole village. This made the people of the village point fingers at her.
If Bai Jiaxuan's indifference made the eldest sister disheartened, then Xiaowen's three slaps were the last straw that completely crushed the eldest sister. In that era when a woman obeyed her father, married her husband, and died from her son, the eldest sister had no maiden family to rely on, her in-laws could not understand her, and the two sons were still too young; Her husband even went so far as to protect other women that he would be cruel to her.
The eldest sister is like an isolated island, adrift in the vast sea of people, tormented by loneliness, and gradually loses hope in life. As the saying goes, there is nothing saddest than a dead heart. The eldest sister lay in a dilapidated house, with scars on her face and body, and now she no longer felt hunger or pain, only endless despair. She couldn't figure out how she had ended up like this with her lifelong hard work and adherence to women's morals.
The eldest sister is a typical woman from a good family, hardworking and hardworking. However, having these virtues does not necessarily lead to a happy marriage. Ever since she stepped into the door of the Bai family, tragedy has begun. What's even more tragic is that in that feudal era, she couldn't choose to leave, and in the end she could only end up with death.
Zhang Xiaoxian once said: "A man's harm to a woman is not necessarily that he falls in love with someone else, but that he disappoints her when she has expectations, and does not support her when she is vulnerable." Hyo-wen not only fell in love with someone else, but also hurt her even more when her eldest sister needed him the most. This kind of injury pierced the depths of the soul and became the root of the eldest sister's death.
In those days, there were countless women like the eldest sister. They suffer and suffer in their marriages, but in the end they can only die in silence. Their stories are little known, but they are an indelible mark of the cruelty of that era.