In 1981, Zhu Mingying negotiated a divorce with her husband, Wang Mingqi I married a daughter in law

Mondo Social Updated on 2024-02-06

At the 1984 ** TV Spring Festival Gala, a lively and lovely "little daughter-in-law" appeared. The song "Back to My Mother's Home" made her famous. She wrote, directed and acted in "Asia, Africa and Latin America", which caused a sensation all over the country and was known as "China's Abeti". At the age of 30, she learned to sing again and eventually became a well-known singer.

It's just that behind her glamorous appearance, there is a failed marriage. And this may also be one of the reasons why Zhu Mingying went overseas when she was popular......

Zhu Mingying was admitted to the Beijing Chinese Dance School at the age of 13, specializing in oriental dance art. At the age of 14, Zhu Mingying met her future husband Wang Mingqi. After graduation, Zhu Mingying was assigned to work in the Oriental Song and Dance Troupe. At the age of 22, Zhu Mingying and Wang Mingqi tied the knot and gave birth to a boy. Because they both have the word "Wang" in their names, they named their son "Wang Jue", nicknamed Huanhuan.

However, just when Zhu Mingying's career was booming, she had to be forced to perform a bleak divorce tragedy with tears in her eyes.

On this day, Zhu Mingying was suddenly beaten and scolded by her husband.

Her heart trembled violently, and then she held back her tears, and a terrible but sure thought flashed through her mind: divorce. She finally made up her mind to divorce the childhood sweetheart man in front of her.

Because the song and dance troupe was about to perform in other places, Zhu Mingying went to the Drum Tower to visit her son Huanhuan before leaving, and walked into the hut, her husband, Huanhuan, and mother-in-law were all taking a nap. The sound of opening the door woke Wang Mingqi up, and as soon as he saw his wife holding the bun that he often combed during the performance and her outfit on her head, he was angry, and he couldn't control his hand for a while, and hit Zhu Mingying's body.

Zhu Mingying angrily returned to the dormitory of the song and dance troupe, and as soon as he walked into the room, Wang Mingqi followed from behind, he grabbed his wife who had just been beaten, stroked her hair, and said comfortingly: "It's all my fault, did it hurt you?" But Zhu Mingying said coldly: "Divorce!" When I come back from the show, we'll get a divorce. ”

By the time the show returned, the storm of anger had passed. It was the late autumn and early winter of 1981, Zhu Mingying and Wang Mingqi negotiated for several rounds, the atmosphere was quiet, and the two did not quarrel once. Wang Mingqi said to Zhu Mingying: "You are a good woman, but not a good wife. I'm marrying a daughter-in-law, not your 'fame'. ”

Wang Mingqi is not wrong about this, Zhu Mingying is indeed like this, she actually wants to be a good wife and mother, but she is always like an "imbecile" in this regard, her mind is full of musical notes and foreign words.

Zhu Mingying is frank and serious: "I don't love you anymore." It's true! Sometimes a thought pops up in my mind, what kind of husband do I need to find? I know that legally, I can no longer have the pursuit of love, but emotionally I can't suppress it because I have no love in my life, it's been a long time. ”

The artist's feelings are rich, and Zhu Mingying can't live without love. When she sings love songs, she has an image in her heart. The husband also admitted that his hard temper and body did not feel her delicate and rich tenderness at all. He says she's a "good woman" and she thinks he's a good man, but sadly a good guy doesn't mean a lover.

Wang Mingqi was shocked, he took a big gulp of cigarette, and his usual hot temper suppressed his feelings: "This is not unexpected by me, I think what you said is sincere." ”

Zhu Mingying further said decisively: "I don't want anything at home, I leave it to you, I only need the old tape recorder, because I want to rely on it to practice singing and learn pronunciation." ”

On the day of the divorce procedures, Zhu Mingying was like the heroine in the movie "Mr. and Mrs. Kramer". No! It's like it, it's not like it. The heroine in the movie negotiated first and then left, and they negotiated many times before breaking up.

Wang Mingqi pushed the bicycle, asked Zhu Mingying to sit in the back seat, and slowly walked towards the street office with her. The staff at the office looked at their divorce petition and looked at them in amazement. Because they are not as noisy on the spot as some divorced couples.

The last day of 1981 was also the last day of the couple's marital relationship. They walked out of the office, got the divorce papers, and really went their separate ways. Both were calm and serene.

Zhu Mingying walked a few steps, couldn't help but look back, and took one last look at her husband when they broke up. And at this moment, Wang Mingqi also looked back. Zhu Mingying's nose was sore, and she ran back to her empty home crying all the way.

Their married life is over, but aren't they going to die and curse each other for the rest of their lives? What kind of pattern should be the most beneficial to his 12-year-old son Huanhuan?

The era of civilization requires civilized marriage, and also requires civilized divorce.

In the first days of the divorce, rumors spread far and wide: Zhu Mingying is famous, she doesn't want a husband or children!

In fact, who can know the sadness in Zhu Mingying's heart! Every day when she came home, she pushed open the door, couldn't tell why, hugged the quilt and cried until she fell asleep in kimono. This is the emotional "aftershock" of the breakdown of the marriage.

Zhu Mingying is already middle-aged, she and Wang Mingqi have been in love for 8 years, husband and wife for 12 years, youth is dying, and they are only separated now, do you regret it? She once said to people: "When I got married, I was too young, and there was a lot of blindness, chance and adventure in love. Whoever intrudes into his feelings first, he will talk to whomever he wants. But the opposite sex who breaks into feelings for the first time is not necessarily the most suitable partner. ”

The French biographer Moroa once said: "A couple always lives according to the standards of the more mediocre of the two." Now that the art of singing has become the support point of Zhu Mingying's life, she can no longer live a mediocre and inactive life. It was precisely this divorce that tested Zhu Mingying, made her realize herself, and found herself on the road of life. She thinks that since the relationship between the two has broken down, why stick together awkwardly and have different dreams in the same bed! Not every couple has to grow old together, and every woman doesn't have to start from the beginning.

For the person who broke up, she wished him a happy life and would never curse him for being unlucky.

Soon, Wang Mingqi had a girlfriend, but he didn't dare to tell Zhu Mingying. After others relayed this information, Zhu Mingying took the initiative to call her ex-husband: "I congratulate you!" This kind of open-mindedness and generosity deeply touched Wang Mingqi's girlfriend. So she and her, Wang Mingqi's fiancée and Zhu Mingying, also contacted from time to time and became friends.

Zhu Mingying's ex-mother-in-law was always reluctant to let her leave the house, and wiped her tears when she mentioned her, and the old man hoped that she would remarry her son. Later, her ex-mother-in-law suffered from rectal cancer, and Zhu Mingying went to the doctor everywhere to try to get her admitted to the best hospital, often visiting her with a large bag and a small bag of food. The doctor asked Zhu Mingying, "Who is she?" Zhu Mingying's answer was very simple: "It's my mother." ”

said that Zhu Mingying didn't want a son, which was even more wrongful. She once said to people: "I hate to say that I don't want children, who parent in the world doesn't love children?" I don't love the meat that falls off my body! ”

After the divorce, who is Zhu Mingying's closest person? Her son, Huanhuan, of course. Every Saturday, my son goes to accompany his mother as soon as he gets out of school. And Zhu Mingying also exchanged her great maternal love for her son's true affection.

One Saturday afternoon, when my son came home from school, he looked at her with straight eyes, and asked with a desire to say but a fear of talking, "Mom, do you know?" Daddy is getting married. ”

Zhu Mingying nodded, not surprised at all. Huan Huan Zhuang boldly suggested: "Mom, you should also get married!" Why don't you get married? ”

Zhu Mingying said: "If the person who married me is good to me, not good to you, my mother can't stand it." ”

Huanhuan pulled her mother over and persuaded: "People are marrying you, not me, just be good to you!" ”

The son has grown up, is sensible, and knows that he loves his mother. Zhu Mingying felt infinitely gratified. However, she often has a sense of debt to Huanhuan. I always feel sorry for my child. She said: "Huanhuan, the panda in the zoo, has so many people who care about it, but my son Huanhuan receives very little care. ”

Once, Zhu Mingying brought Huanhuan to the theater to watch the performance, and the applause sent Zhu Mingyinghuan backstage, and she saw her son Huanhuan's big eyes flashing with excitement. The mother hugged her son and said, "Half of the applause from the audience is for you." ”

The son asked incomprehensibly, "Why mine?" ”

Mom thanks you, and the audience thanks you. You were in kindergarten, and then you went to elementary school, and your mother barely picked you up, because your mother had to practice and perform. Huanhuan, you didn't complain, you didn't hate your mother. Without your support, would Mom be where she is today? ”

On holidays and spare time, Zhu Mingying is rarely at home. After a divorce, the same is true. Huanhuan, a boy, has become more sensible in this environment, he is not playing around like other boys, but is close to his mother, as if he is not close enough. Sometimes, Huanhuan will say: "Mom, don't go today, let's stay together and talk." ”

Once, Zhu Mingying was resting and had just picked up her son, and the troupe notified her that there was an urgent performance task, so she had to send it immediately. Before going out, Zhu Mingying said to her son: "Huanhuan, you play at home alone, and your mother will come back at noon to cook for you." But because she was busy with work, Zhu Mingying didn't come back at noon, and she dragged her tired body home in the evening.

Huanhuan, have you eaten? ”

I drank some water. Mom, you teach me to cook, and the next time you go out, I'll do it myself. ”

Uncontrollable tears welled up from Zhu Mingying's eyes. She hugged Huanhuan's head and kissed him, crying silently.

After getting paid for her singing performances, Zhu Mingying brought home a bag of money from time to time, which was a lot of money. Every time my son saw it, he exclaimed, "Mom, so much money!" "In the eyes of a child, the money to buy five popsicles is not a decimal.

Zhu Mingying once thought like this, she couldn't live with her son before, and wanted to leave more money for her son in the future, so that he could be more generous, richer, and more comfortable. But now her mindset has changed, she said: "I don't want to leave a lot of money to my son, spiritual wealth is the most important thing." ”

On June 14, 1990, 100 days before the opening of the 11th Asian Games, the Organizing Committee of the Asian Games and the capital's news unit jointly organized a 100-day large-scale charity performance "Beijing Summer" to welcome the Asian Games.

On the night of the 14th, it can accommodate 1The 80,000 spectators at the Capital Indoor Stadium were packed. When the host announced that the singer of the next show was Zhu Mingying, the audience stood up and cheered, and the audience applauded.

At this time, Zhu Mingying, dressed in red and black national costumes and wearing a big red flower, appeared on the stage**. She said, "I'm home!" The first song I sang for everyone was "Back to My Mother's Home". She used this song to express her feelings about returning to her homeland.

Five years ago, Zhu Mingying quietly boarded a flight to the United States during her popularity, leaving a trace of melancholy for domestic fans.

How popular was Zhu Mingying before going to the United States? At that time, she could sing the national songs of various countries in 26 Chinese dialects, and she could dance the passionate African dance, which was simply fascinating. Joy ensued when she smeared black oil paint, dressed up as an African girl, and walked out of the curtain with brisk dance steps. People are immersed in exotic customs, listening to beautiful songs, applause, but she is leaving this ancient land, why?

In May 1989, Zhu Mingying, who had disappeared for a long time, suddenly appeared on the domestic stage. In Shanghai, her old acquaintance, the famous Zairean female singer Abeti, performed on the same stage, reproducing the style of Zhu Mingying, who is known as the "Chinese Abeti" in Africa, and was warmly welcomed.

In October, she received the first Golden Record Award of New China issued by the China Record Corporation in Beijing, and together with more than 80 performing artists who have made outstanding contributions to the record publishing industry of New China, she accepted the first recognition and award for their artistic achievements in the history of New China Records. This reward from the motherland is even more precious in Zhu Mingying's mind. When she heard the news in the United States, she was overjoyed, and immediately crossed the ocean to return to China to receive the award, and insured the glittering gold record she had won as a sign of her appreciation.

The long-lost star was interviewed by reporters, and as soon as the conversation box opened, it seemed that he couldn't hold it anymore. Zhu Mingying recalled her past with emotion, and talked about her hard work in the United States and her future. For the first time, people realized that what has sustained her life over the years has always been the never-ending dream of art, which has never changed.

In 1985, Zhu Mingying decided to go to the United States, and almost no one around her agreed with her choice. She was sober in the face of the flood of applause from the audience, and she felt that she was going downhill. Applause is not eternal, she does not want to be drowned out in applause, and if she wants to go to the next level artistically, she must enrich herself again and pay the price. So, although her living conditions had improved, she was just given three rooms; Despite the opposition of friends; Although there is still a young son in Beijing who touches her heart......She still gritted her teeth and embarked on a journey to study in the United States alone.

When I first arrived in the United States, I felt like a little fool who didn't understand anything, and couldn't even remember the long names of foreigners. Zhu Mingying said.

When she first entered the United States, Zhu Mingying was under a lot of mental pressure, and she had to break out of a space to survive alone. She started out learning English while working part-time, working as a receptionist in a restaurant and as a cleaner. Later, she started a dance class and had a stable income.

She then went to study at the famous Berkeley College on the West Coast of the United States, and she felt that it was this knowledge that she lacked the most.

The American professor was a little puzzled by the Chinese star in his 30s: "You have already achieved something, what else do you need to learn?" ”

Zhu Mingying said, "I'm going to start with your first note. ”

You must know that before this, this domestic star has never been in contact with modern **. Nowadays, it is not easy to use other people's language to learn other people's **. During class, the teacher told a joke about a certain modern ** grandmaster, and everyone laughed, but Zhu Mingying didn't know anything, she desperately flipped through the dictionary, so anxious that she burst into tears.

What makes foreigners even more incomprehensible is that the only Chinese mainland student among the eight hundred foreign students at Berkeley ** College seems to be a little self-conscious, and he chose the most difficult course as soon as he came up, which was simply deliberately unable to get along with himself.

What these foreigners don't know is that this stranger from a barren land has a lot more experience of hard fighting than others, and in addition to tears, it is her determination and perseverance. Long before she became a pillar actor in the Oriental Song and Dance Troupe, she had already learned how to fight hard, and now this difficulty will make her retreat?

Zhu Mingying does not miss every minute of learning opportunities. She was the first to come to the classroom in the morning with a hamburger, and the last to leave the library in the evening. She studied silently, memorized desperately in class, and translated it without sleeping when she returned to her residence. She said, "I feel like I'm dying of exhaustion!" ”

It all paid off. At the end of the semester, she got "A+" in her first class, looking at this symbol full of appreciation, Zhu Mingying couldn't help herself, and cried in the hall of the college, making everyone puzzled one by one, staring at this extraordinary visitor from a foreign land in amazement.

In this way, Zhu Mingying did not rest for three consecutive summers, and she completed the four-year course in two and a half years. She graduated magna laude from Berkeley** College with a Master of Arts in Performing Arts. Zhu Mingying said proudly: "At that time, I felt that it was a little hard, but I was very happy to see it later." What I'm most proud of in the U.S. is my grades. ”

Before graduating, Zhu Mingying worked at All Asia Entertainment Company in the United States, and became a member of the company after graduation - the head of international relations.

On November 20, 1989, Zhu Mingying entered the age of not being confused, looking back on the past, she sighed: "I don't appreciate myself, but I appreciate my struggle." She had envied those who had nothing to do, but she couldn't stand it if she was like this. The process of struggle is very hard, but also very interesting, Zhu Mingying said: "I like the process of struggle, I am willing to pursue, there is always a goal in front of me." ”

Some American newspapers and periodicals commented: "Zhu Mingying is a bold Chinese artist, in this strange country, sitting in a group of students much younger than her, learning modern ** from scratch, and finally entering this field that has never been set foot before, which is worthy of admiration." Of course, what they admire most is that she can sing national songs in 26 Chinese dialects.

At the beginning of the new year in 1990, Zhu Mingying began to plan her farewell concert entitled "The Dream of an Artist". With the support of All Asia Entertainment Company in the United States, she will kick off the most exciting scene in her 30 years of art, and present a song and dance party for the long-lost domestic audience.

Among the 36 programs, there are Asian, African and Latin American song and dance programs that belong to her, and there are authentic Chinese national arts: Peking Opera "Picking Jade Bracelets", Henan Opera "Mulan", Cantonese Opera "Selling Lychees" and so on. In addition, she will also show off her achievements in studying in the United States, performing American jazz dance, rock music and country**. She was joined on stage by old like-minded old friends and a Boston rock band from across the ocean.

Zhu Mingying will donate all the proceeds from more than 20 tours across the country to the 11th Asian Games.

The "Artist's Dream" farewell concert is the last stop of Zhu Mingying's artistic career, and she plans to take this concert to perform all over the world.

At that time, Zhu Mingying had already received a green card and settled in the United States. When it comes to returning to China to perform, she looks excited: "Every time I get on a flight with the Civil Aviation of China and hear the familiar local sound, I will be as happy as a child celebrating a holiday." ”

Zhu Mingying still cares about the motherland in the United States, and when a catastrophic fire broke out in Daxinganling, she once raised funds for the charity performance of the fathers and villagers in Daxinganling in the United States, expressing her concern for the motherland. This time, she raised funds for the Asian Games charity performance, in addition to donating all the income from her solo concert, she also participated in many large-scale charity performances.

The song "Back to My Mother's Home" attracted long-lasting applause and cheers. Zhu Mingying hurriedly left the stage, changed into a white dress and appeared on the stage again, her second song was "Applause".

Applause accompanied by singing, echoing through the stadium. In the clear and bright interlude, Zhu Mingying said affectionately into the microphone: "It's been a long time, my fathers, fellow villagers, brothers and sisters. I can't express my excitement, I can only express my love with my singing. The audience responded with applause and cheers.

At the end of the song, Zhu Mingying took a curtain call in the applause of 10,000 audiences, but until she disappeared from the stage, the applause and cheers continued ......

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