Dear Tracy: Sandalwood
Looking at your letter, I paused several times to quietly experience it, and felt a burst of warmth rise from my heart.
On the occasion of the New Year, you brought us a recipe for happiness, and learning these methods will not only help us get through the difficulties, but also allow people who are going through all kinds of hardships to return to the source of happiness.
In your letter, you paint a beautiful picture of human nature: we are not related by blood, but we can love and help each other, which is really great compassion and love.
You must have created a lot of blessings, so you will gain so many friendships, give you a big hug, but also give your friends a big hug, you embody the great goodness of human nature, get friends like this, what more can you ask for?
At this special time at the end of 2023, I am writing this letter not only for you, but also for all of you who are troubled.
In the midst of hardships and illnesses, we know how to achieve happiness.
The only path to happiness is to make yourself happy. The only way to find good friends and slander friends is to make ourselves worthy of them. I didn't say it, it was Munger who said it.
This seems to be the right nonsense, in fact, there are a lot of troubles that we bring on ourselves.
For example, it is easy for us to ignore the ordinary happiness in our daily life, and deliberately remember the people and things that make us unhappy. We value our own pain and ignore that everyone has unsatisfactory feelings. When we are healthy and energetic, what we value is fame and power; When it comes to having the right to a name, it is important to pay attention to the ...... of physical health
This life is a process of competing with oneself, and if no major changes occur, most of them will spend their lives in troubles.
Thanks to a big trouble, a big illness, finally let us open our eyes.
What you are saying in your letter is exactly what I want to say.
First, don't regret the past, don't worry about the future, and just enjoy the present.
We never know which comes first, accidents or diseases, but we do know that there is always an end waiting for everyone.
The birth of mammals, the birth of humans, all by chance, carbon-based life may be manipulated by higher life, and quantum physics tells us that there may be another world.
So what, every day is still exciting.
To make the ultimate nihilistic life meaningful, you can only treat every day as the end, and enjoy the beauty of the characters along the way, and you are no longer in the world at the moment.
Don't regret passion and greenery, don't regret hard work and hard work, accept everything. Our lives are under siege, and our hearts are always outside the siege.
Instead of asking why I am sick and why I am suffering, it is better to calmly accept the reality: get off the boat and don't talk about the ship, and get on the boat and don't love the people on the shore.
Those fading loves can only show that we are still in debt, and those love that came unexpectedly in time are a huge gift from God, a wonderful smallpox handed over from nothingness.
Tracy, myself, all my friends, just enjoy
Second, enjoy the kindness of others.
Live calmly, face love calmly, and face illness calmly.
You said that you are a person who is used to giving, and it is only after you get sick that you learn to open your arms to care, help, support and love. You said, when I have the ability, I should warm the people around me with more love and care.
That's nice. Life is the process by which you owe me, I owe you, you care about me, I care about you.
I'm also a person who is used to giving and is not good at expressing feelings. When we were children, we were taught to be kind to others and help others, and we were used to expressing all our feelings implicitly.
What to do? When I was in the hospital bed, I had a question, what should I do if I only have three months left to be sick?
At that moment, I let go of my heavy baggage.
At that moment, praise for every sincerity, smile for true love, and have no energy to waste their precious lives on hypocritical interactions.
Caring for others, or even trying to control them, means being strong mentally and physically, and having a prominent social status.
Let go of them, the control is gone, and the mind is completely liberated.
Be happy to be a giant baby and return to innocence.
Any little baby will enjoy and even ask for the love of others, that is because the sincere nature has not been extinguished. An accident awakens our nature.
Interestingly, during our illness, our daily routine was moving closer to the baby, eating and skincare, everything was moving closer to the baby.
I believe that if we are in good health, we will give back to the society more. The world is a better place because it is good.
Third, let yourself go and don't treat yourself with economic logic.
There are many patients who are frustrated and blamed for not being able to work, and are worried about their inability to manage household chores.
Indeed, from the perspective of economic efficiency, people should create value while they are alive, and it is better to disappear automatically when they retire or get sick and consume social wealth. People are the durable means of production on the huge economic organism, and the depreciation period is thirty or forty years.
This theory is nothing more than a fig leaf for low productivity, and the truth is that the society at that time was very poor, just like the animal world in East Africa, which could not feed the elderly and the sick, and could not raise children.
In the past, human beings had to use this set of efficiency logic to fend for the old man, and the movie "Narayama Festival Exam" shocked me greatly.
There are still people who use this logic to treat the sick and the elderly, not because they are not wealthy, but because they are close enough to the animal world.
There is only one thing in this world that is eternal, and that is compassion.
In any era, we need to rest our hearts, and Schweitzer and Mother Teresa move us, just like Master Wise and Master Hongyi.
To be tolerant of others, but also to be tolerant of oneself.
If you can't work, you can't work, so you don't work for a while; If you like to work and can work, you will work again; It's good to find your own sense of worth. A thought in our hearts is the motivation for everything we do.
And you have found it, you say, human life in self-realization to obtain happiness, there is something to do, someone is lovely, there is something to look forward to, this is the perfect definition of a happy life. I'm very happy at this moment.
At any time, you can be happy and self-fulfilling.
Illness and unhappiness tell us this in advance.
Fourth, be thankful for every moment of life's miracles.
What is Nyorai? It seems to come, it seems to go; Where nowhere has it been, and nowhere it has gone; Everywhere and nowhere.
The disease seems to come and it doesn't, we seem to be sick and we are not sick people.
Forget who you are as a patient and embrace all the beauty in the world. Always remember, always be grateful, and always be in awe.
How unfortunate we are to be seriously ill, and how fortunate we are to be born in an era of scientific prosperity, to enjoy the blessings of modern technology, to be surrounded by love and beauty everywhere from Shanghai to Boston.
The realm of rebirth is that the sky is exceptionally blue, the food is exceptionally delicious, the people are exceptionally cute, and the birdsong is exceptionally crisp.
Live every day and witness every moment of miracles, 2 years, 5 years, 10 years ......
Let's welcome the new year together.