Children's emotional intelligence refers to their ability to express emotions, cognition of emotions, and interpersonal communication. Some children show super high emotional intelligence, are well-behaved and sensible, and observe words and feelings, which makes people think that they are very generous and smart. However, these so-called "high emotional intelligence" manifestations actually imply a child's inner insecurity, and the child is turning to his parents for help in this way. As parents, we should recognize these signs and give our children more love and warmth.
In the child'sKindergartenstage, they often show extremely domineering behavior and are reluctant to share what they like with othersToysor food. However, this does not mean that children are selfish, but rather reflects how much they value what they have. The child puts the belovedToysOr give food to others because they want to please their elders and family, and they want to be recognized and loved. This is actually a sign of a child's insecurity and they want to get more attention and love by pleasing others.
As children learn to verbalize, they will begin to express their needs. However, some children never take the initiative to ask their parents, even if they have many needs in their hearts, they are afraid to express them. It's not because they don't have needs, but because they lack love and security in their hearts and are afraid of being rejected or ignored. Such children are easily targeted by bullying at school because they are unable to effectively express their wishes and needs. This is a sign that we as parents need to give more love and support to our children.
In general, children will show clinginess when they are with their parents and loved ones, and they like to stick to their parents. However, for children who are insecure, they can be particularly well-behaved and quiet at family gatherings or with strangers. They want more attention and love from their parents, and they want to be the most important person to their parents. When children see their parents engrossed in talking to others, they feel abandoned and therefore try to get their parents to pay attention to them, which is the quiet and well-behaved behavior they exhibit. However, this behavior is actually a signal for children to ask their parents for help, and they want their parents to pay more attention and love to them, so that they can express their needs truthfully and not blindly pretend to be well-behaved.
Some children are very good at observing the behavior of others, and in some cases will actively adjust their preferences or interests to meet the needs of others. For example, they obviously don't like basketball, but when they see their friends playing basketball, they will say that they also like basketball; Or maybe I prefer to play the piano insteadDraw, but you will see that other children are thereDrawHe said he liked it tooDraw。Such children are actually sacrificing their own interests and needs in order to please others. This kind of observant behavior actually hints at the child's inner insecurity, their desire to be loved and accepted, and their desire to gain more attention and recognition by pleasing others.
Children's emotional intelligence is their ability to express emotions, cognition, and interpersonal communication. The so-called "high emotional intelligence" that some children exhibit is actually the result of their inner insecurity. These children turn to their parents in a variety of ways to get more attention and love. As parents, we should recognize these signs and give our children more care and warmth so that they can feel supported and loved. At the same time, we should encourage children to express their needs and feelings authentically, helping them build a healthier and more stable emotional foundation.