Life is like a dance party, and everyone dances on the dance floor that suits them best.
Xiao Wang is an ordinary employee of a state-owned enterprise, and there will be a certain amount of year-end bonus at the end of each year. On the day when the year-end bonus was issued, Xiao Wang still had some expectations in his heart. However, when he saw the inconspicuous number in his account, he couldn't help but feel a little lost. Colleague Aaron received twice as much as him, and the head of the department even paid five times as much. Xiao Wang felt that his hard work for a year had not been sufficiently rewarded and recognized, and he couldn't help but feel a little depressed.
In fact, this situation is not only happening to Xiao Wang. In today's social life, whether at work or in life, we all have more or less the same feelings and experiences as Xiao Wang. When the gains and rewards of others are significantly higher than our own, we most likely have a feeling of being ignored and misunderstood.
Behind this emotion, it is often due to a biased perception of our self-worth. We often unconsciously judge ourselves by the gains and losses of others, but ignore that everyone has a different starting point and different resources on the stage of life. As the famous saying goes, "We are all born different." We have different gifts, different talents, and we stand on different starting lines. Xiao Wang mistakenly uses the year-end bonuses of colleagues and supervisors to measure his own value and contributions, which is itself a cognitive deficiency.
If this cognitive defect persists, it will not only make Xiao Wang feel lost and depressed in reality, but also form an obstacle to his growth and development. First of all, it will discourage Xiao Wang's enthusiasm and enthusiasm for work. When you feel that your efforts are not being duly rewarded, you will inevitably become lazy and gradually lose your dedication to your work. Second, it can also damage Xiao Wang's relationship with team members and supervisors. Xiao Wang's inner loss can easily be transformed into resentment, believing that other people's gains are his own losses. Over time, it will be difficult for Xiao Wang to integrate into the team, and there will be barriers to working with others. Finally, this cognitive deficit will also hinder Xiao Wang from positioning himself correctly and making a reasonable career plan. When you have a problem with your inner frame of reference, it is difficult to understand yourself clearly, and you will not be able to move in the direction that is most appropriate.
In view of Xiao Wang's situation, we might as well look at this problem from a different angle. First of all, we need to realize that everyone's growth environment and resources are different. Xiao Wang's current position is clearly different from that of his colleagues and department heads. Department heads need to have stronger leadership and work harder, while also being accountable for the performance of the whole team, which naturally requires more effort and relatively higher rewards. Colleagues may join the company earlier, have more seniority, or have played an important role in key projects, which can also affect their performance appraisals. Unless we put ourselves in the other person's position, it is difficult to judge whether the other person's gains and losses are "reasonable".
Second, we must establish a holistic outlook and a development outlook. The business environment of enterprises is changing, and companies are facing various challenges and pressures. It's not easy to stay up and running in this environment and pay out bonuses on time. Companies need to balance the needs of each employee within a limited set of resources, which is bound to make a difference. As employees, we should not judge whether this difference is fair based on personal emotions alone. Instead, take a positive and supportive attitude from the perspective of the company and the team.
Finally, we must also maintain the correct value orientation in life. Even if we feel that there is an imbalance between the gain and the input in reality, this should not affect our attitude towards life. Because without the specific work and environment, there are still very broad areas of life that are worth exploring. Instead of complaining about the status quo, it is better to maintain a positive heart and strive to cultivate one's professional ability and comprehensive quality. I believe that as long as we continue to work hard, we will eventually find the most suitable position for ourselves on the stage of life.
Life is like a dance party, and everyone dances on the dance floor that suits them best. We shouldn't always compare ourselves to others, but be the best version of ourselves. Because the stage of life is vast, as long as you are aggressive, you will definitely find your own opportunities. When encountering difficulties and bottlenecks, we must maintain a broad vision and an inclusive mentality. I believe that the days are still long, the dance music continues, and we live with hope and enthusiasm, and we will be able to dance to our heart's content at the dance party of life.