In Mo Yan's book "Fatigue of Life and Death", he wrote such a passage:
There is a type of person who is particularly cunning, the more you treat him, the more he hurts you, you feed the dog for three days, it can remember you for three years, you treat people well for three years, he can forget about it in three days. ”
Although these words seem ironic on paper, they are deeply reflective of the behavior patterns and psychological states of some people.
Human interactions are really varied and complex.
Sometimes, we don't get the kindness and kindness we deserve for our kindness and kindness to some people, and we even get hurt.
This can leave us feeling frustrated and confused, wondering if our kindness to others is being wasted.
Everyone has their own life story and their own life experience, and in this world, there will always be some people who make us deeply feel the fatigue and frustration in life.
They can be our relatives, friends or colleagues, and their presence always brings us a lot of unnecessary troubles and inconveniences.
Because in our daily life, it is inevitable to meet such people.
They like to take their negative emotions out on the people around them, and they will treat you the same way, whether you are good or bad for them.
They don't seem to care about other people's feelings and contributions, just to get some short-term pleasure for themselves.
We can't help but ask ourselves:
Do such people really exist?
First of all, it needs to be clear that we cannot change others.
No matter what they do, we can't control or change their thoughts and attitudes.
However, we can change the way we react.
When dealing with these people, we can try to be more calm and rational about their words and actions.
Don't let your emotions and actions dictate your emotions, as this will only make you more tired and depressed.
Second, we need to have the right mindset to look at these people.
As the British writer Oscar Wilde said:
You can be disgusted by a person's behavior, but you can't deny that he or she exists. ”
Such words remind us that we can be critical of the actions of others, but we also need to respect their existence.
Everyone has their own life and experience, and we should not blame or judge others excessively, but should be as tolerant and understanding as possible.
The reality is disappointing, but we must not let that lead us away from faith in kindness and friendliness.
Kindness and friendship towards others are our unique human qualities and the cornerstone of the harmonious development of society.
Let's respond to these complex relationships with tolerance and understanding, and hopefully find those who are truly willing to grow with us in our dealings with others.
Know that kindness is a precious and eternal virtue.
Although some may seem ungrateful to us, we should not let that stop us from being kind and forgiving.
I believe that one day, our sincerity and kindness will always be seen and understood by others.
As the famous American actress Marilyn Monroe said:
In this world, only the truly strong can remain kind. ”
In life, we have to accept all kinds of people and things.
Many times, we can't change others, but we can change our own thoughts and attitudes.
We are to choose wisely who we treat.
Although not all of us will cherish our kindness, there are those who genuinely treat us and grow with us.
We should learn to discern and build deep relationships with those who truly know how to be grateful and give back.
Don't let other people's cunning hurt your kindness, but don't let your kindness become a tool for others to hurt you. Oscar Wilde.
Remember these quotes to help yourself face the tribulations of life more calmly and make yourself a truly strong person.