Of course, there are also mothers in the comment area who share their feelings and lament that it is not easy to have children.
It is said that women are weak by nature, but mothers are strong.
Ten months pregnant, I went through too many tribulations.
There used to be a very hot topic on Weibo: "Do you regret it after giving birth?" ”
There is a mother's message in the comment area that has received high likes:
I never regret it, but I also know very well that life has not left me any free time of my own. ”
After becoming a mother, of course, there are many happy moments, but at the same time, it also means the beginning of a new "battlefield".
Cai Shaofen once talked about the hardships of raising three children on the show.
She admits that she hasn't slept in nearly a decade since she had a baby.
Her youngest son often wakes up around 4 a.m. crying for milk. Even if she goes to bed later, she still has to endure her sleepiness and get up to feed the child.
At five o'clock in the morning, I started to make breakfast and braid my daughters.
After the two daughters went to school, it was the turn of the younger son to go to school.
Cai Shaofen not only has to cook and eat for him, but also goes out to play with him.
From day to night, from night to day, there is never a moment of leisure.
Giving birth to a child is easy to say, but there is a lot of sadness and grievances behind it.
I once read a set of interviews in which several moms talked about their experiences with postpartum depression.
Listening to the wives, the gentlemen were expressionless.
In their eyes, they are all trivial things that are not worth mentioning, and the wife is just making a big fuss.
But for women, postpartum depression isn't about being vulnerable or pretentious, it's more like asking for help.
I was sick, and my family didn't know I was sick, but I was very sick......”
It's very sad and even more helpless.
Alyssa Jia gave birth to her daughter at an advanced age in her second marriage, and her postpartum mood was very unstable. Luckily, her husband, Xiu Jiekai, has always been by her side.
Every time she broke down and cried, Xiu Jiekai would comfort her: "Don't be afraid, I'm here." ”
When the child was born, Xiu Jiekai's career was on the rise.
I still remember that Alyssa Jia was alone with her two children in a hurry and tired. After Xiu Jiekai went home in the evening, he silently washed the dishes and chopsticks and did housework as soon as possible.
Alyssa heard the voice and came out of the bedroom. Xiu Jiekai didn't say anything and gave her a big hug.
He understands his wife's hard work, so he always goes out of his way to help her.
One detail is enough to show that in their family, when the child has something to do, he not only goes to his mother, but also often goes to his father.
In the process of raising children, he never made Alyssa feel lonely.
That's what a responsible husband should look like.
When Xie Na was pregnant, her husband Zhang Jie gave up almost all his work and stayed by Xie Na's side wholeheartedly, giving her a sense of security.
Not only did he cook for himself, but he also accompanied Xie Na out to breathe fresh air when she had insomnia in the middle of the night.
When Zhang Xinyi was under pressure to breastfeed and return to work, her husband Yuan Hong gave her the strongest support.
He sees life in his eyes, shares the pressure of parenting, and firmly supports her to do what she wants.
In life, many people often talk about "being a strong mother", asking mothers to be strong, patient, and omnipotent.
But many people forget that the first half of this sentence is "women are weak".
Mothers are also ordinary people of flesh and blood. They can also feel tired, miserable, sad, and anxious.
The more vulnerable they are, the more they need their husband's support.
With her husband by her side, the wife has plenty of room to release stress and grievances.
Having a baby is never easy, and each step takes a lot of time, energy, and even health costs.
So, it depends on the joint efforts of two people.
Only in this way will they have the strength to persevere and feel the joy of a new life.
There is still a long way to go.
I hope that every woman can be respected, understood, and treated gently on the way to becoming a mother.