Meet a better version of yourself
The ancients said: "The art of taking people from the husband is also, observing his words and observing his deeds." "In life, some people talk about it on weekdays, but when they encounter something, they are in chaos; On the contrary, some people never boast about themselves, but they can be calm and calm in the face of difficulties. It can be seen that to understand a person is not only to listen to what he has to say, but also to observe how he handles things. Big things see ability, small things see attitude, trivial things see pattern. 
Big things see abilityIn the face of different things, how to deal with them, people's abilities, attitudes, and personalities will be revealed. In dealing with small things, we can see a person's emotional intelligence and attitude. But in the face of the big test, you must have the real ability to do it. Ability is the foundation of a person's life. Ability is not a simple skill or knowledge, it is a comprehensive quality. One action is better than a hundred thoughts, and people with strong ability are good at implementing plans by action, and are good at summarizing and constantly improving. People who are calm and capable in the face of major events are often more able to control their emotions and handle things calmly. Responsibility for the mountains, capable people deserve it. Strive to see the world, grow talents, learn real skills, and practice real kung fu. 
The little things see the attitudePeople often say: those who achieve great things are not informal. But in daily life, if a person can't complete the small things carefully and seriously, it is difficult for us to trust the big things to him. Big things hide a person's ability, and small things can glimpse a person's attitude. Difficult things in the world must be done easily; The big things in the world must be done in detail. All difficult things start with simple things, and all big things start from small things. Small things are unreliable, big things are unreliable. For small things, we must be serious. In life, how many people always don't care about the details, but in the end they lose to the details. A small thing is attitude; Bit by bit practice is reliable. Only by doing things seriously and treating people sincerely can we continue to accumulate wealth in our life bank. Only by doing one small thing after another can we slowly pave a broad road and slowly build up thousands of high-rise buildings.
See the pattern for triviaSee the sea in a drop of water. In some trivial matters, we can often see a person's mind and pattern. Walking in the world, whether it is smooth or not, often lies in the mind of tolerance and the pattern of doing things. Keeping a higher mindset than life will make you happier and happier. When one stands tall enough, one is not bound by the trivial things in front of them. Only by filtering out the irrelevant things around you can you focus on the more important things. Whether it's a big thing, a small thing, or a trivial matter, it's a grind. For the rest of our lives, I hope that we can all deal with big things calmly, have a good attitude when we see small things, and not be impatient when we meet trivial things. So as to meet a better future and meet a better self. A person's way of life hides his future. The best way to live is: read when you are confused, exercise when you are anxious, and accumulate energy when you are free. Read a book when you're confused
Mai Jia said: "Reading is not a sharp tool for the outside, but a way home." When a person has an affinity for words, his heart embarks on the journey home. ”Reading is the best way for a person to understand themselves and achieve transformation. From the end of 2019 to 2023, for more than 3 years, we spent more than 3 years wearing masks and daily disinfection. During this period, for our small family, there are also a few bright colors of life.
One of the biggest bright colors is the birth of a baby pig in October 2019 and the birth of a baby calf in 2021. Their arrival stirred up our family system.
I am deeply influenced by Ms. Li Meijin's parenting philosophy, and I agree with what she said:
The best caregiver for a child until the age of 3 is the mother. Before the age of 12 is a critical period for children's development, and before the age of 6 is the most critical. ”
I began to retire from the workplace and devote myself to raising my two babies. Grandparents also have their own jobs, which are far away; My grandfather was in his 90s at home and couldn't come over.
In June 2021, I started a life of one and two people. Bringing two small babies alone can be a little busy, but also very content.
But when I was in the circle of friends and saw that my friends had made great achievements in the workplace, I couldn't help but feel anxious because of the interruption of my career path.
For a while, nerves were quite sensitive. As soon as I heard the cry at night, I reflexively got up, quickly comforted, and turned around to see that the two treasures were sleeping soundly. When he was lying down, he didn't feel sleepy, but tears flowed silently.
I realized that I was not in the right state, and then I started reading at night when I couldn't sleep.
My husband and children were asleep, and I quietly walked to the living room and closed the bedroom door. Slowly move the chair in front of the living room desk, turn on my little lamp, and pick up a book from the desk and start reading.
The world is quiet, I read quietly, quietly turn the pages, quietly make reading notes on the book. Don't be confused because you can't sleep, and don't be ashamed because you can't make money.
Read more when you are confused, experience what I have not experienced in books, and experience what I am experiencing in books.
There is a saying that reading can solve more than 80% of confusion.
Even if a book doesn't give you an answer right away, it can carry your emotions and enrich your soul. When you're deep in the mud, it gives you an inner strength. When you are deeply confused, you don't know which sentence you have seen before, it suddenly appears in your mind and takes you out of the confusion.
That's where the magic of reading comes in.
Exercise when you're anxiousBai Yansong wrote in the book "White Talk": "The more tired I get, the first thing I think of is running. ”It turned out that due to long-term overwork, his body once turned on a red light, and high blood pressure, insomnia, and anxiety all came to the door.
Later, he used running as a way to relieve himself, and not only did he recover from his illness, but he also became an ambassador for the movement.
In 2010, during a physical examination at the school, the school doctor found that I had a heart murmur. After the parents took them to a major hospital, they found that they had a ventricular septal defect. The doctor said that it is okay to do it, but if you don't do it, there will be certain risks.
Later, my parents decided: "Leave no hidden dangers and risks, let's do repair surgery now, the body will recover quickly at a young age, otherwise I will always be scared." ”
One year after the surgery, the doctor said, "It's okay, you can exercise more." ”
I told myself that since God had prevented me from the disease, I had to protect my body. The best way to protect your body is to exercise more and improve your immunity.
I like long-distance running, and when I run around the third lap on the school playground, my body is so tired that I can't stand it, I feel that my legs and feet are weak, and my heart is pounding.
But hold on a little longer, hold on a little longer, and it starts to be lighthearted. The more you run, the happier you get. My body is getting better and better, and my mental outlook is very different.
Nie Cong, a doctor of medical psychology, once said: "Regular exercise can not only improve a person's mental outlook, but also expel anxiety and improve people's mood, especially in the release of sweat, harvesting a full sense of happiness and control over life." ”
Exercise is a person's best enrichment.
Charge up at your leisureIn your leisure time, hide what your future will look like.The people ** said: "Every moment of life is valuable. Whether you can make good use of your leisure time is often where the gap between people is widened. ”
College is a more relaxed time in life, it does not have to face the pressure of college entrance exams, and it does not have to deal with daily homework. Many students suddenly came from the nervous state of high school to the free life of university, and slackness and confusion also followed.
Students who would keep up with the class schedule in their freshman year began to skip class in their sophomore year, either hiding in the dormitory to watch dramas, or going out to play crazy outside the school.
There was a girl in our class who was tall and had a good image. Many girls like her, who have good external conditions, will go to work part-time as models, and they can earn enough for a month's food after an event.
But she didn't, and every morning when we were busy washing, she took a book early in the dormitory to read English and memorize words. I never skip class and listen carefully to every class.
According to what is written in the inspirational book, she should have gone to the playground early to study, where the air is good and there are few people, why is it in a dormitory area with many people?
Later, I realized that she was not only studying hard, but also integrating into the group. I have a good relationship with my roommates.,Never left the small group of the dormitory.。 She is not an arrogant student, but a natural and down-to-earth effort.
As soon as there was a part-time event at the convention and exhibition center, she went to participate. But instead of modeling, she sells. Once we went to work part-time together, and we were all amazed to see her fluently selling products to foreigners.
At the time of graduation, when we were still worried about finding a job, she had already received an olive branch from a large company.
Time is the fairest, and it never favors everyone.
In the same leisure time, there are people who have nothing to do, enjoy themselves, and spend their time. And powerful people have long paved the way for their future in their spare time.
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