Last night, I swiped a ** on Xiaohongshu, in which the first date of the two people was condensed in the ups and downs of a hot pot. The boy's sweat and the girl's dodge, the spicy pot seemed to be cooking their hearts.
This makes me think that in the world of emotional communication, we often follow some invisible rules, and we are cautious in the process of finding love, afraid that one wrong step will lose everything.
At every step of the relationship, we are deciphering the unspoken rules in our own way, and sometimes these rules can feel "dirty" because they make the relationship complicated and unreal.
But it has to be said that these unspoken rules do exist in every subtle interaction, affecting our words and deeds. Here are the 4 unspoken rules I've summarized, which are really dirty.
1.On a first date, avoid opting for a stimulating spicy hot pot.
Imagine that you have just been matched with someone who looks good, and the two of you decide to meet, and you have already thought about how to make a good impression on each other when you meet for the first time.
Then, the two of you choose to go for hot pot – it sounds warm, but it's actually a pretty risky choice. The hot pot is so spicy that I sweat, the embarrassment of turning the pot, and the ...... choking after eating too quicklyThe little things that these hot pots bring to people are quite a test for the first time for two people to get along.
On Xiaohongshu, you can always see people sharing dating tips, such as not choosing foods that are too spicy or easy to eat when meeting for the first time. This actually makes a lot of sense, after all, you don't want to make the atmosphere awkward when you try to break into the other person's heart, only to have your mouth rise and fall like a roller coaster.
2.When they met for the first time, the girl had very little food, which was a manifestation of deep affection in her heart.
Besides, watching those dating dramas, the heroine always eats elegantly at the table, as if every action is telling "I'm a cultured girl".
In the circle of friends, there are always people who say that if a girl eats very little in front of you, it may be because she cares about your opinion and doesn't want to lose her temper in front of you.
But is this really what is really going on in the heart? Or is it just to cater to some kind of "ladylike image" societal expectations?
3.Boys should try to avoid girls who have a lot of girlfriends.
Okay, let's talk about the boys. You know, the kind of girl who is often surrounded by a group of girlfriends looks quite lively, but as her possible other half, you may feel a little uneasy in your heart.
yes, you don't want to be the boyfriend who gets a lot of criticism from your girl friends. Relationship bloggers on Xiaohongshu often remind boys: stay away from girls who are always surrounded by a large group of girlfriends, because you may never win her circle of friends.
4.Girls should also stay away from boys who always have opinions.
Finally, girls have to be careful! Boys who seem to be quite insightful and like to lean to you may feel that they are very responsible at first, but over time, you will find that you are slowly losing the right to make decisions.
They are always so self-righteous, as if everything has to be done according to him. Therefore, sisters often say: stay away from those boys who always want to control you, freedom and individuality are the most important spices in love!
Don't forget, everyone has their own little quirks and their own little imperfections. In the ocean of the Internet, what we see are the fragments of life carefully planned by others, but real life does not need filters.
So, the next time you're anxious about where to eat on your first date and what to wear, take a deep breath and tell yourself: the real me is the most glamorous!
Finally, remember, no matter what the occasion, you have to be your most authentic self, because you never know that your little shortcomings may be the cutest in the eyes of the other party! Come, smile, stride forward, and meet the beauty of the unknown, and the one who knows how to appreciate the real you.