When you encounter a man's betrayal, have you ever had such an illusion, feeling that the man and the woman outside are difficult to deal with, and feeling that the two of them are united in dealing with you, in fact, there will be such a situation, and the appearance of this situation is generally that you repeatedly want him to break off, let him go home, and when you mess with him, he is annoyed, so he runs directly to the woman to complain and complain, and naturally the woman will give him advice.
Some wives will even have the opportunity to see the chat content of the conspiracy between the man and the woman outside, the betrayal itself has made you painful enough, seeing them working hard in one place, the chat content of one heart, the wife who is firm in her heart will collapse, you don't understand, why so many years of marriage can't match them for a few short days.
Being tormented by a man's betrayal to the final ending is nothing more than two kinds, either it is pain all day long, internal friction, always wanting to stare at a man, or there is no heart to get by, there are not many wives who can really make up their minds to leave, and more wives choose to support because they are unwilling, reluctant, unwilling to have children wronged, and unwilling to break up the family.
If you are in this state now, today's content will let you understand the 2 cognitions that you must have after the betrayal, with these 2 cognitions, you will know how to correctly deal with a man's betrayal, whether you can get out of the pain and internal friction, so that the man will not dare to bully you anymore, it depends on whether you can see it with your heart and then collect it and watch it again and again a few times!
1.Men are never afraid of you making trouble, so you choose to do it.
The last thing a man is afraid of after betrayal is that you make trouble, because they think very clearly before choosing to betray, they ** that you will make trouble, so in fact, the moment you find out that he betrayed, he wants you to make trouble, why? Because the more you make trouble, the more reason he has to choose to betray, and the farther away from you, the more fierce you make trouble, the happier they are.
Because their ** has been confirmed in you, and he will start to be confident, feeling that he has completely mastered you, and he even considered what he planned to do if you continued to make trouble, you don't think that a man's betrayal is a momentary succession.
How can there be so many moments, it is nothing more than making all kinds of preparations in advance, waiting for you to jump in according to the trap he set step by step, what is the man most afraid of? What I'm most afraid of is that he set up a trap for you and didn't drill any of it, and even he found that he didn't understand it at all, if you can do this, you will win the game with men in the first stage.
And what you have to do is to break his expectations step by step, try to keep your emotions stable after discovering the man's betrayal, and avoid startling the snake, probably most wives can't do it, if you have already scared the snake, or even questioned the man, we can still remedy it. The first questionNo matter how men treat you, they will have one thing in common, which is to continue to treat you in the first way for the rest of your life.
Whether it is refusing to admit it or dumping the pot on you, or having a cold war with you, the purpose of the man at this time is to continue to expand the conflict with you, so that he can continue to betray, then what you need to do is to plan it, since he thinks you want to make trouble, then you can choose the man to stay silent after going home, not to have too many ups and downs emotionally, and keep it for a while.
The man may feel that you are continuing to be angry at first, so he ignores him, until after a while, he finds that you have not done anything, and when he relaxes his vigilance, you can give him a king bomb, let down your vigilance, and you can have the opportunity to put some equipment in the corner where he can't see, whether it is at home or in the car, place the equipment, help yourself find evidence, and have an unexpected negotiation with him.
Then, according to the negotiation skills I said before, hit the man by surprise, and your chances of turning over will be greatly increased. Remember that even if you didn't do it well before, we have the old opportunity to remedy it, don't give up on yourself, if you don't know how to do it, you can talk to me.
2.A man's ruthlessness is what you are used to, and you have to be more ruthless than him.
Every wife who is afraid of divorce has a strong man behind her, and the strength of a man is actually what you are used to, think about it, the usual communication, is it that as long as a man loses his temper, you are afraid and dare not say anything? Men are not born strong, and if you show the low side in your marriage, he will naturally stand on the high side and look down on you.
So even if a man betrays, you will be very afraid that the man will leave you like this, afraid that the conflict with the man will deepen, if you are in such a state, ask yourself a question, then you are in such a weak state, will you not be in pain? While being afraid of the man leaving, he watched the man being chic and happy with the woman outside.
You have to remember a truth, people will have weaknesses, there will be things to be afraid of, many wives find me the most is: "Teacher, he has no weaknesses, he doesn't care about anything, he is even willing to leave the house, just to divorce me, marital property agreement is also willing to sign with me, I really can't help it!" ”
I believe that those who are watching my content now must have such a wife, who feels that a man is not afraid of anything, in fact, he is not afraid, he has been playing with you, he is sure that you dare not divorce, dare not be cruel to him, so he dares to say anything when he is angry, since he dares to say this, then you have to be more ruthless than him, he wants to get out of the house, right? You have to find out if he has transferred his property first, if not, you let him sign the agreement, see if he signs it, if he is fake, he will ignore you, and most men actually won't sign it, and all the assets that he has worked hard for most of his life have been given to you? He's not a fool.
So don't be frightened by a man's willingness to go out of the house, think that he has made up his mind, every decision he makes is a temptation, then you have to be more ruthless than him, if he doesn't sign, then talk to him, so to speak:
Want to get out of the house? That's great, I'll fulfill you, sign this agreement, give the compensation in place, you hurry up and be happy, I want to see what kind of life you want to live in the future, you don't just say nothing, if you regret it, you want to go home if you figure it out, it's not impossible, I'll give you the steps, but you have to show your sincerity, when I break it in person, make it clear, the agreement is written, I will definitely not ask again, we will also sit down and sort out the problems in our marriage, and negotiate and solve them together, if you don't want to choose anything, It's just like this, you don't want me to feel better, then I'm sorry, I can only retaliate with a tooth for a tooth, go and promote your business everywhere, you think about it, give you 3 days! ”
Many times in the face of men's betrayal, the wife just doesn't have enough cognition, can't see what the man wants to do, so always put himself in a passive situation, being manipulated by men at will, their own happiness and rights must be bravely fought for, psychological game is not only better than the psychological quality, but also skills, aura and words, if you don't master well, you can talk to me, I hope you can harvest happiness in the new year!