When we go to the grave of our ancestors, there is generally no specific number of fruits, but we usually choose some numbers with better meanings, such as three, five or seven. These numbers have special meanings in Chinese culture, such as three represents Sanyang Kaitai, five represents five blessings, and seven represents seven stars and so on. In addition, when choosing fruits, there are also some precautions, such as avoiding choosing some fruits with bad meanings, such as pears, because the homonym of pear is "leave", which means separation.
In addition to the quantity and meaning of the fruit, there are some other rituals and customs to be aware of when going to the grave. First of all, it is necessary to choose a suitable time to go to the cemetery and avoid going to the cemetery on the day of death or special holidays to show respect and respect for the deceased. Secondly, when going to the grave, you should pay attention to your appearance, keep it neat and clean, and not too gorgeous or exposed, so as to show respect and remembrance of the deceased.
In addition to these basic etiquette and customs, there are some local customs and traditions to be aware of. For example, in the southern region, some places will bring tea, wine, paper money and other items when going to the grave to show remembrance and respect for the deceased. In the northern region, some places choose to plant trees and fly kites around the cemetery to show nostalgia and remembrance of the deceased.
In conclusion, there are many etiquettes and customs that need to be paid attention to when going to the grave, and each place has its own traditions and customs. We should respect and observe these customs as a sign of respect and remembrance for the deceased. At the same time, we should also inherit and carry forward the excellent traditional Chinese culture through these traditional ceremonies and activities, and enhance cultural self-confidence and national pride.
In addition, there are other ways to remember the deceased, such as writing memoirs or memorial essays to record the life, deeds and feelings of the deceased. These words can become important materials for family inheritance, and can also allow more people to understand and remember the contribution and value of the deceased. At the same time, we can also pass on the will and spirit of the deceased through some public welfare activities or volunteer services, contribute to the society, and let the life of the deceased be more widely continued and inherited.
In the process of remembering the deceased, we should also maintain a positive attitude and attitude. Although life is limited, the spirit can live forever. We should cherish life, face the challenges and difficulties in life positively, and strive to realize our dreams and values. At the same time, we must also learn to be grateful and reciprocate, thank the deceased for their love and support to us during their lifetime, pass on their love to more people, and make the world a better and warmer place.
In closing, I would like to say that everyone is a passerby in life, and we should not forget those who have been with us for some time, whether it is a loved one, a friend or a colleague. We must remember them with our hearts, remember them with our actions, and let their lives be continued and passed on to us. Only in this way can we truly cherish life, be grateful for life, and realize the meaning and value of life.