At the time, I considered myself lucky. The son-in-law seems to be honest and is also very good to my daughter. My daughter likes him, and I also feel that he is a person who can be trusted for life. So, when they both decided to get married, I didn't have any objections.
However, after getting married, I slowly discovered some problems. The son-in-law seems to be honest, but I am very dissatisfied with the way he does some things. For example, he never took the initiative to help with our family's affairs, and every time my daughter urged him to do so, he would move. Also, he doesn't have a very good attitude towards my daughter, and often loses his temper because of small things.
I began to doubt my choice at the time, and I didn't understand why a seemingly honest person would behave like this. Later, through chatting with my daughter, I learned that my son-in-law's original family had a great influence on him.
The son-in-law's parents have been very strict with him since he was a child, and everything must be done according to their ideas, otherwise he will be punished. Growing up in such an environment, he naturally developed a passive, lazy, and selfish character. My daughter told me that my son-in-law doesn't do anything at home, she is all alone. Moreover, the son-in-law's parents did not have a very good attitude towards her, always finding fault with her shortcomings and demanding of her.
Hearing this, I feel very sorry for my daughter. She was a very independent, responsible child, and I always thought she would be able to find a partner to rely on, but I didn't expect her to marry such a man.
I began to reflect on my own approach to education. I always thought that as long as my daughter was happy, it would be fine, but I didn't take into account the influence of her partner's family of origin on him. I learned that a person's character and behavior are not only determined by his own choices, but are also influenced by his family of origin.
I worry about my daughter every day now. I wanted her to be able to live happily ever after, but her partner put a lot of pressure on her. I wanted to help her, but I didn't know how to do it.
I knew that I needed more understanding and communication to be able to understand my son-in-law's behavior and help my daughter solve the problem. I also hope that through my efforts, my son-in-law can understand that a happy family requires everyone to work together, rather than relying on one person's efforts.
This is a mother's worries and thoughts, and I hope that through my efforts, I can let my daughter live a happy life. I know, it's a long process, but I'm going to keep it going because I love my daughter and I want her to be happy.