The bell of the Spring Festival has not yet sounded, but the overture of the blind date has quietly sounded in every corner. For many young people who have not yet found their other half, the Spring Festival not only means reunion and festivity, but also represents the arrival of the "blind date season". Among them, there are laughter, tears, and many untold stories.
It is often said that blind date is like a deep-sea pearl, fate and strength are indispensable. Sometimes, two people are like a fateful entanglement in their previous lives, falling in love at first sight and holding hands to spend the rest of their lives together.
But more often, blind dates are more like a contest of strength, appearance, figure, economic strength, and even emotional intelligence and communication skills have become the key in this "war".
Ah Fang, a 28-year-old girl from Weifang, Shandong Province, is one of the members of this blind date war. In the village, she is already considered an "older leftover girl", and most girls of the same age have found their home, but Ah Fang is still looking for the person who can make her heart move.
This year's blind date is particularly eye-catching, he is not only 1.87 meters tall and handsome, but also has opened two hotels in the city, and he is a real "rich and handsome". Ah Fang fell in love with him at first sight, and the two talked happily when they first met.
However, as the exchange deepened, Ah Fang found that the boy seemed to be a little shy and reserved. This made Ah Fang mutter: Does he have feelings for himself?
In order to test the boy's mind, Ah Fang came up with a bold idea: invite him to climb the barren mountain behind the village. In her opinion, this not only creates an opportunity to be alone, but also allows the boy to show his true side in a difficult environment.
When the boy heard the offer, he was silent for a while, but finally agreed. The next day, the two came to the foot of the mountain as promised and began this unique blind date journey.
Along the way, Ah Fang moved closer to the boy intentionally or unintentionally, but the boy always subconsciously avoided it. Ah Fang was not discouraged, she quickened her pace and walked in front of the boy, showing off her figure and vitality.
The road on the barren mountain was not easy to walk, and the two of them sometimes pushed aside the dry grass and bricks that blocked the way, and sometimes climbed the steep hillside. During this process, the boy remained silent, just silently following behind Ah Fang. When Ah Fang looked back at him, he always lowered his head shyly.
Finally, the two came to the top of the mountain after a lot of hardship. When standing on a high place overlooking the surrounding scenery, Ah Fang felt an inexplicable emotion. She turned her head to look at the boy and expected him to say something, but the boy just looked around pretending to be calm.
Ah Fang felt a sense of loss in her heart, but she still decided to take the initiative: "It's so windy up there, I'm so cold." She hoped that the boy would give her a warm hug or at least a thoughtful word.
However, the boy's answer surprised her: "Then let's go down!" ”
Ah Fang was stunned, she couldn't believe that this was the words that came from the mouth of the boy she liked. She didn't know how to respond, so she could only say perfunciously: "Then go down." ”
This unexpected blind date trip ended hastily. After returning home, Ah Fang posted his experience on the Internet, which caused heated discussions among netizens.
Some netizens ridiculed: "This boy, alas, gave him so many opportunities, but unfortunately he just couldn't take advantage of it!" Some netizens said: "This boy has no emotional intelligence at all." Some netizens accused Ah Fang and said: "Girls should be a little reserved, and they shouldn't take too much initiative to take boys who have just met to that kind of occasion." ”
For these comments, Ah Fang just smiled indifferently. She knows that she didn't lose to anyone in this blind date battle, but just met someone she wouldn't cherish. And she believes that one day she will find the person who can make her heart flutter and give her warmth.
Author's point of view:
Emotional intelligence is undoubtedly an indispensable key in the wonderful journey of love, especially for boys. Emotional intelligence is not a single skill, but a diverse set of competencies: the art of communication, deep understanding, genuine empathy, and the wisdom to resolve conflict.
Imagine that when a girl confides in a boy, the boy is able to listen intently, not only hearing the words, but also feeling the emotional fluctuations behind the words. He was able to put himself in her shoes and experience her joys and sorrows, and this understanding would be as warm as a ray of sunshine, illuminating the distance between the two hearts.
And effective communication is the bridge between the hearts and minds of both parties. Boys are no longer silent listeners, but brave enough to express their thoughts and feelings, using words to outline a common future. This kind of communication will make the relationship richer and deeper.
Empathy is the magical power to deepen emotions. When a boy can understand the girl's difficulties, share her sorrows, and share her joy, the emotional bond between them will become closer, and love will continue to sublimate in daily life.
In addition, boys should also learn to capture the delicate emotions of girls. A gentle look, a casual touch, and a thoughtful greeting can make her feel cherished happiness. In a love atmosphere of mutual understanding and support, the flower of love will bloom more brilliantly.
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