In rural areas, many families take advantage of the winter farming season to hold weddings, and the most relevant topic before and after the wedding is: "How much bride price was given?" How much bride price did you receive? "It seems that the wedding and the bride price are equal.
From the man's point of view, he sneered and complained about the bride price, but in the end he was helpless. From the woman's point of view, the bride price is a matter of course, and the bride price is a prerequisite for marriage and face, otherwise marriage is not negotiable.
What a thousand purples, a thousand reds, a green, what 1990,000、What 3 9.90,000, it really makes the man cry and laugh. Of course, the bride price is only a prerequisite, and the others include whether there is an only child (minus), whether there are brothers (minus), whether there are sisters (plus), whether the parents have a pension (plus), whether the parents are young (plus), whether they have a property in the core area of the county and no loan (plus), whether they have a car (plus), and so on.
So is the high bride price really a bad habit as experts say? Not necessarily, the formation of a high bride price has its specific reasons, freezing three feet is not a day's cold, and it can even be said to be a manifestation of national conditions.
Stage. 1. In traditional customs, marrying a man and marrying a man, dressing and eating. In other words, before getting married, the man needs to prepare all the necessities of the husband and wife's life, which is also the man's obligation. This is also the most basic stage, just solve the problem of food and housing. At this stage, there is basically no concept of divorce.
Stage. 2. A small amount of bride price, and some kind of marriage when married. At this stage, the woman has taken the man's family as a condition, and married her daughter from the mountains to the town, from the town to the county, and from the county to the city. At this stage, parents are trying their best to get their daughters out of poverty, and they are no longer poor. At this stage, there are more divorces.
Stage. 3. In the 21st century, after the problem of poverty in China has been initially solved, most families have entered a well-off life, and the divorce rate in rural areas has risen rapidly at this time, and the number of divorce registrations in rural areas in China in the first half of 2023 will be 13380,000 pairs, an increase of 92%。At this time, the woman's parents are more seeking a guarantee for their daughter, what kind of security is used, of course, money, and the high bride price is naturally pushed to the stage.
For the time being, rural women are still in a vulnerable position, and once they get divorced, they will become the most pitiful group of people without a fixed residence or income. Do you still think that a high bride price is the original sin and a bad habit? It can only be said that the woman's parents are impatient to choose in response to social changes, and which parents in the world are born to be evildoers?
When experts are suggesting and leading, they want to solve the root cause, and don't open their mouths and send a document casually. The cold and warm people know themselves!