[Bride price and love: a collision of ancient customs and modern values].
The bride price, an ancient Chinese custom, is now becoming a major point of controversy among young people today. The story of Xiao Zhang and Xiao Wu is just one of the many couples who have conflicts due to the bride price. In this collision between tradition and modernity, we can't help but ask: what is the meaning of the bride price?
The bride price, as a traditional marriage custom, was originally intended to express good wishes to the newlyweds. However, with the change of times, the true meaning of the bride price was gradually replaced by money and material things. For the sake of face and to satisfy vanity, many families continue to raise the amount of the bride price, making the original good wishes become a heavy burden.
In the story of Xiao Zhang and Xiao Wu, the man's family has done everything to buy a house, and then taking out a high bride price is undoubtedly a huge challenge to the man's family's economic situation. The woman's family hopes to prove the sincerity and attitude of the man's family through the bride price. The conflict between the two families actually reflects the collision of modern young people's different concepts and values on marriage and bride price.
For some women, the bride price is a guarantee of married life and a commitment to the man's family. For some men, the bride price is a constraint and pressure, fearing that the high bride price will deprive them of their freedom and dignity. In addition, some people believe that the bride price is a screening and test for the woman's family to the man's family, which also makes the issue of bride price more complicated.
In fact, the issue of bride price is not simply right or wrong, but involves multiple factors such as cultural, social, family and personal values. When solving the bride price issue, we need to think rationally and communicate, and respect each other's opinions and choices. At the same time, we also need to re-examine the true meaning and value of bride price in modern marriage.
In traditional customs, bride price is seen as a blessing and gift, but in modern society, we should see it as a responsibility and commitment. The bride price paid by the man's family and the dowry paid by the woman's family were all so that the newlyweds could better start a new life. Therefore, we should not let the bride price become a burden and a constraint on marriage, but should let it play its due role on the basis of respecting each other and promoting family harmony.
In order for young people to better understand the true meaning and value of the bride price, we should start from the following aspects: first, strengthen education and publicity, so that young people can understand the historical and cultural background of the bride price, and understand its true meaning and value; Secondly, guide young people to establish correct concepts and values of marriage, so that they can understand that marriage is not a material exchange, but a spiritual fit; Finally, promote the improvement of relevant laws and regulations, standardize the behavior of bride price, and protect the freedom and equality of marriage.
In short, the issue of bride price is not only a collision of traditional and modern values, but also a test of young people's concept of marriage. We should look at the issue of bride price rationally, respect each other's choices and opinions, and let the bride price play its due role on the basis of respecting the family and promoting harmony. Only in this way can we truly return marriage to the harmony of the soul and the beauty of human nature.