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Excuse me, how long has it been since you left your relatives? The last time I had a party with relatives, was it at someone else's wedding banquet, or at the wine table during last year's Spring Festival?
In this hectic and breathless era, it seems that there is less and less movement between relatives. Sometimes, we even feel like we are living in two parallel worlds with our relatives, and we are getting farther and farther away from each other.
So, what exactly causes the estrangement of relatives?
1. The lack of common topics is like a chicken talking to a duck
Have you ever tried to chat with your relatives at a family gathering and it felt like you were fighting a war without gunpowder? They don't interest in what you say, and you can't talk about what they're talking about.
This awkward atmosphere is like a wall that separates you from each other. In fact, this is all due to the lack of common topics.
If you want to warm up the relationship between relatives, you have to find something that everyone is interested in talking about. For example, you can talk about a recent hit TV series, a new gourmet restaurant, or reminisce about a childhood incident. This way, you'll be able to find a common language and chat will be much more enjoyable.
Second, the rhythm of life is different, like a car running on two lanes
The pace of life is overwhelming, and everyone has their own circle of work, study and life.
It's the same with relatives, who may have a completely different pace of life than you. It's like two cars running on different roads, and it's hard to meet.
Faced with this situation, we need to learn to understand and adapt. Don't force your relatives to keep pace with you, but respect their choices.
At the same time, try to make time out of your busy life to get together with relatives, even if it's just a simple meal or chat. In this way, you will feel the care and warmth of each other.
3. The geographical distance is far away, like a mountain
With the advancement of urbanization, more and more people are leaving their hometowns to study and work in other places.
As a result, the geographical distance between relatives is becoming more and more distant, and they have to cross thousands of mountains and rivers to see each other. This sense of distance is like an insurmountable mountain that separates you from each other.
To shorten this sense of distance, we can use the power of modern technology. Through **, chat, etc., we can keep in touch with relatives anytime and anywhere.
You can't meet face-to-face, but at least you can hear their voices and see their smiles. In this way, your hearts will be brought closer.
Fourth, there is a big difference in values, like Mars hitting the earth
Everyone has their own values and philosophy of life, which we gradually formed as we grew up.
However, when the values of relatives are too different, it is easy to cause contradictions and conflicts. The difference is as drastic as Mars hitting Earth, and it's overwhelming.
In the face of differences in values, we need to learn to be tolerant and understanding. Don't try to impose your views on your relatives, but respect their choices and ideas.
At the same time, we must also learn to empathize and understand problems from their point of view. In this way, you will be able to avoid a lot of unnecessary disputes and conflicts.
Fifth, the lack of effective communication is like a veil
Communication is an important link to maintain interpersonal relationships, but many times we lack effective communication with our relatives.
This communication barrier is like a thin veil that separates you from each other. It may seem insignificant, but it's enough to affect your relationship.
To break through this veil, we need to learn to communicate proactively. When there is a problem or misunderstanding with a relative, do not choose to run away or fight coldly, but stand up bravely to solve the problem.
You can find a suitable time and place to sit down and have a good conversation, and talk about each other's thoughts and feelings. In this way, you will be able to clear up misunderstandings, increase understanding, and get the relationship back on track.
Conclusion:
The estrangement of relatives does not happen overnight, but is the result of a combination of factors.
But as long as we manage and maintain this family relationship with our hearts, we will be able to make it glow with warmth again.
Remember: family affection is priceless and cherished! Let's try to be a good person who is good at maintaining family relationships from now on!