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Some women complain bitterly after getting married, and later go to the end of divorce, and some women are like fish in water and enjoy the beauty of marriage.
The two different endings are never deliberately arranged by fate, but the result of human choice.
Holistic consideration before marriage can help people avoid making mistakes, and hard work after marriage can also make the marriage stronger, always maintain the right posture in the in-law's family, and make it less troublesome in the future.
There are those who get the first two right and lose the latter. They thought that after getting married, they would receive preferential treatment from their in-laws, and as long as they were a family with each other, the rest of the life would be peaceful.
But countless facts have proved that the more women with such thoughts, the more difficult it is for their in-laws. After all, in such a complex relationship as the in-laws, there are not many actual feelings, and it all depends on the wisdom of women.
is often such a woman, who will never be angry in her in-law's house, and I hope you are too.
01: A woman with her own financial ability can be looked down upon by her in-laws
Love is realistic, everyone wants to find a better partner, marriage is snobbish enough, we are all weighing each other's conditions in every way, even the in-laws' family is no exception.
In real life, many women are bullied by their in-laws, not because she did anything wrong, but because she has no financial ability and is looked down upon.
It is never easy for a woman to marry into another family, leave her homeland, and have children.
But as an outsider, they can't empathize with you, they will only see more tangible benefits.
If you have money, you will contribute to this family, and if you have no money, it will be useless. As for your hard work in the family, worrying about hard work, outsiders only take it for granted, and few people can truly be grateful to Dade.
This is also the reason why many full-time housewives were later excluded by their in-laws, they couldn't see the grievances that women suffered in the family, the fatigue they endured, and they only thought about money.
Women should always remember that marriage is not a safe haven of stability, and no one really loves you unconditionally all your life like your parents do. If you want to gain a firm foothold in marriage and be looked down upon by your in-laws, you must first have your own financial ability.
Whether you go out to work after marriage or not, at least you have the ability to make money, not that you have nothing to do and are destined to rely on your in-laws to support you.
Being financially capable not only means being able to compete with the other party, but also symbolizes your freedom. You don't have to cling to your in-laws, you have the right to leave at any time, so they don't dare to snub you casually.
Financial ability is very important for marriage, and it is an insurance for yourself, as long as you have money, life will be more and more open.
02: A woman whose mother's family is strong enough to gain a firm foothold in her mother-in-law's family
Economic ability is the basis for your in-laws to look up to you, and your mother-in-law's family is the reason why your in-laws don't make mistakes.
The mother's family is always a woman's most solid support, it gives a woman the confidence after marriage, and can also protect a woman from injury.
Some women break with their in-laws after marriage and favor their in-laws, which is actually the most stupid decision. When you don't have a backer, anyone will look down on you.
Of course, this is not to say that women should move out of their parents' homes after marriage, but they should never give up on their parents' back, they can stand up when you are bullied, and they can also protect you in time when your marriage goes wrong.
Occasionally mentioning how much your mother's family cherishes you and how powerful your mother's family is can deter your mother-in-law's family.
Don't forget, no matter who you marry, your mother's family may be the one who feels most sorry for you.
03: A measured woman can be treated well by her in-laws
When a woman has her own abilities and a back path like her mother's family, she has largely established a sufficient status in her in-law's family, but this is far from enough.
Whether it is a marriage or a relationship between the in-laws, it is extremely complex and requires long-term management, and the most important thing is proportion.
Don't take care of the affairs of your in-laws, don't meddle with what you shouldn't do, and don't meddle with what you shouldn't meddle in, so as not to cause frequent contradictions.
Don't be too close to each other, as long as you do your duty once in a while, maintaining a decent relationship is already the best state.
You can endure inconsequential little things, and things involving principles and bottom lines must not be allowed to be separated, and when you establish your own majesty, others will automatically follow the rules.
Maintaining the proper proportions, so that each other returns to their place, can also make the marriage free of wind and waves.
Unless it is those unreasonable in-laws, you will still have to inch in after you keep a good sense of proportion, at this time you had better think about whether such a family should continue.
A woman who has her own financial ability, a way out of her mother's family, and enough measure, lives independently, strongly, and wisely, and will not be bullied no matter who she marries.
I hope you are also such a woman, treated well by your in-laws, nourished by marriage, loved by yourself and loved at the same time, and happy all your life.
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