How to discipline children without punishment and pampering is a difficult problem faced by many parents. Many parents tend to take a punitive or pampered approach when confronted with their children's behavioural problems, but there are significant drawbacks to both approaches. Punishment may lead to fear and rebellion, while pampering may cause the child to fail to learn self-control and respect for others. So, is there a way to discipline a child that is neither punitive nor pampered?
When I finished reading the book Positive Discipline, I found the answer. The core idea of the book is that disciplining children, who is neither punitive nor pampered, is the best way to develop good character and lifelong growth. The book details many practical methods and techniques to help parents be more calm, rational and effective when dealing with their children's problems.
Among them, I was impressed by the "positive pause" approach. When children are emotional, parents can guide them to a quiet place to calm down and wait for the mood to stabilize before solving the problem. Doing so will not only ease tension but also allow your child to learn to control their emotions.
In addition, Positive Discipline emphasizes the importance of communication and understanding with children. Parents should listen to their children's thoughts and feelings, respect their opinions and choices, and make children feel understood and respected. In this way, a closer parent-child relationship can be established, and children will be more willing to accept the guidance and advice of parents.
In short, the book "Positive Discipline" made me realize that disciplining children is not a simple thing and requires careful thinking and practice. It is only through positive methods and techniques that we can truly help children grow into people of character and ability.