Internet Literature Awards "If you don't reply to your message, you don't have to bother": the true interpretation of a bowl of poisonous chicken soup In this era of information, we seem to be used to communicating with others through words on the screen. However, when the messages sent are like a stone and go unanswered, the sense of loss and confusion seems to become a new type of emotional distress.
Hence the saying, "If you don't reply to your message, don't bother." At first glance, this sentence seems to be full of wisdom and determination, but if you taste it carefully, it is not difficult to find the hidden toxicity and misdirection.
First of all, the toxicity of this phrase lies in the fact that it makes an oversimplified and rigid judgment about relationships. In real life, people may not be able to respond to messages in a timely manner for various reasons, such as busyness, forgetfulness, or even deliberate avoidance. But that doesn't mean they don't value the relationship, or that it's not worth continuing to associate with. Equating non-reply to messages with not valuing relationships is undoubtedly an overly arbitrary and one-sided view.
Second, the misleading nature of this quote lies in the fact that it encourages people to choose to escape when faced with communication barriers rather than actively seeking solutions to their problems. When we encounter communication barriers, we should try more communication methods, such as direct dialogue, ** communication, etc., to understand the other person's true thoughts and feelings. Instead of giving up on the relationship easily just because the other person didn't respond to the message.
In addition, this phrase can trigger a negative mindset that sees oneself as passive in one's dealings with others and has no control over the direction of the relationship. This mindset not only affects our self-esteem and self-confidence, but it can also make us more anxious and upset when faced with similar situations.
Therefore, we should re-examine this bowl of poisonous chicken soup and face all kinds of problems in interpersonal communication with a more rational and mature attitude. When we find that the other person is not responding to the message, we can try to remain calm and patient, analyze the possible reasons, and not blindly make judgments.
At the same time, we should also learn to express our true feelings and needs in communication in order to better understand and be understood.
In short, the phrase "if you don't reply to your message, you don't have to bother" sounds dashing, but it hides a lot of toxicity and misdirection. When faced with interpersonal challenges, we should remain open and inclusive, and strive to find solutions to problems, rather than giving up or running away easily.