The old man died at home for 2 years and only learned in his old age that there is a prerequisite fo

The old man died at home for 2 years and only learned in his old age that there is a prerequisite for the filial piety of his children

A few days ago, I saw a true story with a lot of emotion:

During the maintenance of an old residential building in Shanghai, the maintenance master found that there was a problem with the water flow of a house, which had seeped out.

Then I went to knock on the door, but no one answered, and after communicating with the neighbors, I thought that the house was uninhabited, so I had to enter the house to check, but I didn't expect to see an extremely cruel scene in the room.

The owner of the house died quietly on the sofa at some point, and when he was found, he had turned into white bones.

After identification, this white bone is the old man Aunt Hu, who lived alone here before, and has been dead for two years.

According to the memories of neighbors, Aunt Hu had two marriages and a son and a daughter, but as the marriage came to an end, the connection between her and her children gradually decreased.

In the twilight of her life, Aunt Hu's physical condition began to feel unwell, and since then she rarely goes out, and no one takes care of her when she is sick, let alone her children.

In the end, she did not get timely treatment because of the onset of the disease, and she came to the end of her life alone.

In the two years after Aunt Hu's death, her children never greeted her, and it was not until the house was repaired that they learned of their mother's death.

The tragedy is poignant, and it is also a wake-up call for many people:

When people reach their old age, the most cruel truth is not that they have no house or car, but that they are indifferent to blood and family, and no one cares about them day after day.

The child is ignorant of the current situation of his parents, and the parents are left with a lonely wait for the rest of their lives.

The saddest thing in old age is:There is a prerequisite for children's filial piety

Where has the time gone", there is a familiar word that expresses the voice of being a parent:

"After giving birth to children and raising daughters for a lifetime, my mind was full of children crying and laughing. ”

"After half a lifetime of firewood, rice, oil and salt, only wrinkles are left on his face in a blink of an eye. ”

I heard a netizen tell about one of his experiences:

In the emergency room of the hospital, she once met an elderly man who was hiding his face and crying, and was helplessly telling the doctor about his condition.

The old man is over 90 years old, unwell but can only find a way to go to the hospital by herself, she has five children, but none of these five children are with her.

Seeing that she is getting older and older, and the day she is not far away from leaving, she hopes that she can age decently and does not want to leave with illness.

She worked hard for half her life and raised five children, but in the end, none of them were like strangers on the side of the road, and none of them were willing to take care of her.

At the age when other old people are enjoying their old age, she has to endure the torture of illness while accepting the reality of her children's unfilial piety.

When I was young, I always thought that raising children to prevent old age, but in my later years, I realized that the saddest thing in this world is that there is a prerequisite for children's filial piety.

Although it is cruel, I have to admit that in the eyes of some children, the word "filial piety" is often based on interests.

Maybe it's the demand for money, or maybe it's the shackles of life, but without these, it's usually difficult to get a glimpse of the manifestation of filial piety.

I can't help but think of a piece of news that swiped the screen some time ago:

Fu, a 72-year-old man in Chongqing, was hospitalized alone during his illness, and his three sons and one daughter did not come to visit the hospital.

The old man once told the people around her about the sadness in her heart, and in the face of the unchangeable situation and the spiritual pain that she could not let go, she gradually had the idea of suicide.

Some people were worried that the old man would not be able to think about it, and they also informed her child, but the child did not take it seriously and did not visit her.

After a few days in the hospital, the old man walked to the window at the end of the corridor, jumped down, and ended his life.

Upon hearing the news of the old man's death, her children finally arrived, but all they sought was compensation.

As the old saying goes: In the end, feelings depend on conscience.

If you think about it carefully, the blood relationship between parents and children, in the end, is actually all based on conscience.

If filial piety is only regarded as a bargaining chip for the exchange of interests, how can we talk about the existence of "family affection" and how can we see the goodness of "human nature".

In the process of growing up, what a person is most afraid of is losing his conscience.

On the way forward, the saddest thing is that he thinks he has gone far enough and stood high enough, so he never wants to look back and escort his parents all the way.

No matter what age you are, don't forget where your roots are, and don't let the person who raised you feel cold.

In life, everything has cause and effect, and what you give, you will get.

The love and warmth you give to your family will be full of energy from home to wrap you and move forward.

The filial piety and kindness you bring to your parents will come back to you bit by bit after decades.

Parents are oldThe most feared thing is to become a "drag" to children

The host Jin Xing made a very profound point:

At the moment, there are three attributes in some people who are about to be lost.

The first attribute is consanguinity, which means that the relationship between children and parents is getting farther and farther apart.

The second attribute is geography, which basically means that many elderly people go to the city where their children are located for their children or to help bring their grandchildren, far away from the environment where they have lived for decades, and the geography is gradually disappearing.

The third attribute is social relationship, after some people retire, social interaction slowly decreases, and social relationship slowly disappears.

When these three attributes that accompany a person's life are all gone, the person's heart will be filled with loneliness until the end of life.

However, even so, there are many elderly people who are worried about being a burden to their children and choose to bear the great changes in their lives and bodies alone.

Just like the father who learned that he was sick, he was afraid of dragging down his children and spending money, so he didn't want to be hospitalized anymore and was ready to leave secretly.

After the daughter saw her father's intentions, she chased her all the way to her father, knelt down and kowtowed to beg her father to accept it well.

The daughter cried out one after another, "I'm left with you, Dad, I'll kowtow to you, I beg you." "Countless people cried.

Duration00:13When parents are old, they often have all kinds of concerns, and they gradually become more and more cautious in front of their children.

They will endure physical pain, fear of spending too much money, and fear of delaying their children's time.

They worry that they can't keep up with the current developments, and they clumsily want to learn more new things, but they are worried about being rejected by their children.

They will endure their thoughts again and again, just afraid of disturbing their children's work and disrupting the rhythm of their children's lives.

In the program "Journey", several elderly people in nursing homes were interviewed.

The Chinese New Year is getting closer and closer, and the old people are bluntly saying that they are about to spend the Spring Festival in nursing homes.

The reporter was puzzled: "Won't your son take you back?" ”

62-year-old Uncle Bao said: "Just a Chinese New Year's Eve meal, you can eat the same anywhere, the first dumpling and the first two noodles, this can also be eaten." ”

Teacher Yu, a 90-year-old retired teacher, said frankly: "In the past eight years, I have been home twice, and everyone has to rest during the holidays, and I can't wake up my children every day to cook for myself." Later, I thought about not going. ”

In that interview, there was a sentence that struck the hearts of many people:

I took the car home before, but I sent it back a few days later, don't look at this pull away and send it back, people's mood has turned several times. ”

In their opinion, if they can solve it in the nursing home, they can solve it themselves, and it is useless not to bother their children with everything.

Transparent Man" reads:

"The more independent the children, the more lonely the parents, even so, the parents still learn to be sensible, always telling you: I'm fine, I'm fine, you are busy. ”

People always say that filial piety comes first.

In fact, the first thing that children should learn is filial piety: understand the difficulties of their parents, empathize with the misery of their old age, and don't let their parents go to old age with anxiety.

Take care of your parents and be a little more attentive, just like when you were a kid and they took care of you.

Be with your parents and be a little more patient, just like they did so many years ago, when they raised you.

Never let the debt of family affection become the biggest regret in this life.

Don't let the person who loves you the most in the world live alone at the age of gray hair.

Parents and children, there is no afterlife in this life, while it is time, while people are still there, often go home to see, don't wait.

Life comes to an endThe most reliable thing is to hold your hole cards tightly

Bai Yansong said a very cruel, but very realistic sentence:

We are destined to be the last generation to be filial to our parents, the first generation to be abandoned by our children.

While your legs and feet can still move now, and you can still make your own decisions, hurry up to prepare for the future and reserve a dignity for your old age in advance. ”

If you have something to rely on in your later years, the family relationship is harmonious, and the children and grandchildren are full and snuggle up, it is naturally gratifying and heartwarming.

But inevitably, there is usually not only one answer to the world's questions.

If you blindly pin your hopes on your children and expect others to shelter you from the storm, then your later life will eventually be full of too many uncertainties.

Only by learning to take precautions and make arrangements for each stage in advance, can we not rush to deal with it at the critical moment.

At the end of life, don't forget to hold up an umbrella for yourself, hold the 3 hole cards in your hand, and save the capital for retirement.

(1) Invest in yourself and enrich your body and mind

Don't be sedentary anymore, insist on exercising every day, find an exercise method that suits you, climbing, walking, running, Baduanjin, etc., you can try, in the process of exercising, strengthen your body and reduce the chance of getting sick.

When you have nothing to do, read more books, record more, enrich your mind in the time of reading, know new things in the field you have never touched, and love life with sufficient vitality.

(2) Know how to save money and leave a good way out:

Save more when you have more money, and save less when you have less money, but you can't save nothing.

Understand the principle of "be prepared", how much you have in savings, how many ways out.

Be more vigilant about the ** for middle-aged and elderly people on the Internet, and when you encounter money-related uncertain problems, you can ask for help from people around you.

(3) Emotional stability and optimism:

As the old saying goes, anger hurts the liver, sadness hurts the lungs, thoughts hurt the spleen, and fear hurts the kidneys.

For the rest of your life, don't overthink about trivial things, and don't worry about unworthy people, stabilize your emotions, which is conducive to physical and mental health.

Maintaining a positive and optimistic attitude, being your own backer, and being calm in everything is the best.

I like the part sung in the theme song of "The World":

"I wish you to step through the waves and stay by your lover's side. When my mother was old, I listened to her talk about her childhood.

I also wish you not to forget your youth, and you are not afraid of the gray hair.

If the years will eventually be forgotten, remember you and me.

Love like fire, the world is worth it. ”