In the long voyage of life, marriage is like a giant ship carrying two hearts, breaking the waves in the ocean of life.
Sometimes the wind and waves are calm, the two stand side by side, enjoy the bright moonlight together, and feel the tranquility and beauty of love; Sometimes the wind rises, the waves are monstrous, and the contradictions and disputes are like reefs, making the voyage of marriage twists and turns.
It is often said that marriage ends love, kills romance, and leaves only chicken feathers in the end.
In fact, many conflicts in marriages do not stem from the disappearance of the emotions of both parties, but from the seemingly insignificant, but enough to shake the boat of marriage.
The "Thai Pregnant Woman" incident is a shocking and thought-provoking case. In this case, money seems to be the catalyst that induces the evil side of human nature.
When wealth accumulates to a certain extent, some people may be driven by greed and selfishness to take extreme actions in pursuit of more benefits.
Such greedy and selfish behavior not only hurts the feelings and interests of others, but also destroys trust and loyalty in the marital relationship.
Under the ** of money, some people may become unscrupulous and even go down to their loved ones.
This extreme behavior is an extreme case, but it also warns us that when there is too much money, if it is not restrained by the right sense of morality and values, it can indeed trigger the dark side of human nature.
In real life, it is rare to find cases of murdering the other party for money, but cases of mutual beware and even calculating each other because of money can be seen everywhere.
Under the ** of money, they show their humanity to the fullest, and the relationship between husband and wife seems to them to be worthless.
There is a good saying: "Money is not everything, but no money is everything." ”
The economic base determines the superstructure, and marriage is no exception.
Money plays an important role in marriage, and when money is tight, this pressure can often become a point of conflict between couples.
In life, food, clothing, housing, firewood, rice, oil and salt are the most basic expenses, and when these basic needs are not met, couples may have frequent disputes over these trivial things.
For example, when the family is not doing well, couples may disagree over consumption issues such as shopping, dining, or children's education.
One party may want to save money, while the other party may want to guarantee quality of life.
This difference is more likely to be magnified in situations of money constraints, which can trigger conflicts between couples.
In addition, the lack of money can also affect the trust between couples.
When one partner is working hard to maintain household expenses, the other partner may feel that the other party does not care enough about the family or neglects their own needs. This distrust can further exacerbate tensions between couples.
There are two high-profile characters in the recently hit TV series "South to North" - Dali and Yao.
Many viewers feel that they are in love with Yao vigorously, and this kind of love is moving, so they should be together.
In fact, there is a plot that makes it clear that they are not suitable.
Yao likes to spend her money on dressing up, as long as she has beautiful clothes to wear, she is happy even if she doesn't eat.
And Dali is a pragmatic person, he has no objection to Yao buying clothes, but he also hopes that she can be a little more restrained and try to spend her money on the blade.
Fortunately, they are not married, if they really step into the palace of marriage, they will inevitably live a chicken feather life in the future.
In married life, differences and conflicts in the concept of money are often unavoidable problems between husband and wife.
Everyone's perception of money is influenced by a variety of factors such as family background, education, personal experience, etc., so there are often great differences in attitudes, ways of using and managing money.
When couples don't have the same concept of money, it's easy to have friction and conflict in daily life.
For example, one party may be more focused on saving and investing, hoping to build a strong foundation for the future; The other party may be more inclined to enjoy the moment and think that it should be done in time.
This discrepancy can lead to disagreements over household budgets, spending habits, investment choices, and more.
In addition to this, conflicts over the concept of money may also involve the perception of family responsibilities on both sides.
One partner may believe that the breadwinner of the family should take on more responsibility, while the other party may want both parties to share equally in the family's finances.
This difference in perception may lead to conflicts and dissatisfaction between the two parties in the family's financial planning and decision-making.
How to resolve marital conflicts caused by money?
Money is not only the foundation of marriage, but also the initiator of marital conflicts.
So, how to resolve these contradictions?
First, maintain communication and establish shared family values
Couples need to be honest about their thoughts and needs, listen to each other's perspectives, and work together to find solutions that meet both parties' needs.
When it comes to money, both parties can hold regular family meetings to discuss family budgets, savings plans, investment plans, etc., so that money can be a tool to enhance the relationship between both parties, rather than a blade that destroys the marriage.
Husbands and wives need to clarify the core values of the family, such as valuing family harmony, paying attention to children's education, and paying attention to quality of life.
Guided by these values, it is easier for both parties to agree and work together for the happiness of the family.
Second, make a reasonable family financial plan
Husband and wife working together to create a family budget is not only a financial necessity, but also a process of enhancing mutual understanding and trust.
Together, they analyze the family's income and expenses to ensure that their daily living expenses are properly protected, and at the same time plan for the family's future.
In budgeting, couples set savings goals together, which may be to buy a home of their choice, provide a quality education for their children, or save money for retirement.
With a common goal, money is no longer just a stress in life, but a source of motivation for them to work together to achieve their family dreams.
Third, keep a calm mind
Money is undoubtedly an indispensable part of modern life, but it is by no means the only pursuit of life.
On the stage of marriage, both husband and wife must learn to let go of excessive attachment to money and let their hearts be liberated.
Money gains and losses should not be a stumbling block to their emotions.
When both people can look at each other's ideas and choices about money with tolerance and understanding, the friction and contradictions between them will be greatly reduced.
A good attitude not only helps to resolve the conflicts caused by money, but also promotes the harmony between husband and wife, so that the marriage ship can sail more smoothly in the ocean of life.