In this era when the story of romantic love is constantly amplified by ** and social networks, and it seems that everyone is pursuing the kind of "domineering president falls in love with me" romance that can only be found in TV dramas, there is suddenly such a question: Do men crave longing for long-term love more than women?
First of all, we want to clarify one thing – when we talk about "men" and "women", we are actually talking about society's generalized assumptions about gender. The reality is far more complicated than this, and everyone's desire for love is different. However, for the sake of the article's interest, let's delve into this framework for the time being and embark on an intellectual adventure.
Click to add a description (up to 60 words) Edit 1. "Manly": a tree that needs to be rooted.
As the saying goes, "if there is an old man in the family, there is a treasure", but for many men, it is more likely to resonate with the phrase "a stable family seems to have a foundation". Traditionally, men are often seen as the breadwinners of the family. But behind this, deep down in men's hearts, they actually yearn for stability and longevity. They may not crave tearful romantic love as much as the heroines in the TV series, but they need a soil that can take root firmly and let their spiritual home be nourished for a long time.
2. When the "protector" meets the "sense of security".
Interestingly, men often play the role of "protectors" in love. It is not difficult to see that in the process of protecting others, they are actually looking for their own "sense of security". Part of the reason for their desire for longevity is that it gives them the most fundamental sense of security – in a fast-changing, uncertain world, the concept of "home" is their only sure safe haven.
Click Add Description (up to 60 words) Edit 3. "Men's Romance".
If you think that men don't know how to be romantic, then you are very wrong. Men's romance may not be a candlelit dinner or French champagne, but they will care about things that seem small but can last—like reading a book or drinking tea with a loved one on a quiet afternoon, or preparing a warm breakfast for a loved one on a winter morning. These ordinary but warm moments are precisely the best proof of men's longing for a long time.
Fourth, the misunderstanding of "long-lasting".
When we say that men want to be long-lasting, we are not saying that they need a relationship that is not passionate, but only dull. Instead, what they need is a relationship that grows with the person they love, a relationship in which they can still find freshness and fulfillment in the daily trivialities. Their desire for stability and continuity is not simply a fear of change or a refusal to take risks.
Click Add Description (up to 60 words) Edit So, back to our question: Do men crave more longevity than women? Perhaps, we can say that in this fast-paced and uncertain society, everyone has a small self living in their hearts, and that little self, whether men or women, is longing to be loved, understood, and protected—all looking for the longevity that can be entrusted to a lifetime.
Love is the meeting and blending of two hearts, regardless of age, gender, and will not deliberately distinguish who is more eager to last. In the world of love, let us remove all the labels and feel the sincerity and enthusiasm of each other with our hearts, perhaps, that long-term will quietly fall between you and me.