What is love?
There are thousands of people in the world, and there are different kinds of love.
As Li Jian sang the song: ".Who knows what love is, but the short encounter is unforgettable, and it takes a lifetime to learn that it will not be forgotten.
A few simple lyrics, every sentence is heart-wrenching, making people feel that love is a break in the heart.
Indeed, the love tragedy of people who love each other can't stay together makes people feel regretful.
French Nobel Prize winner in literature André. Gide's masterpiece "The Narrow Gate" tells such a tragic story of falling in love but dying without a problem.
The male and female protagonists Jerome and Alyssa are a pair of childhood sweethearts, cousins and brothers, who are bound by religious beliefs and choose a narrow door that can only accommodate one person in order to pursue "perfect and sacred" love, and love is a matter of two people, and what Jerome wants is to spend his life with Alyssa. So, is their love perfect? Or is it a pity? How do you define happy love?
Only through the narrow door of love can you move towards happiness
Twelve-year-old Jerome went on vacation to his uncle's house with his mother, who was dependent on him for his life, after his father's death.
His uncle's family had three children, his cousin Alyssa, who was two years older than him, his cousin Juliette, and his cousin Robert. Alyssa, who loves to read, is very beautiful, she has a melancholy and quiet temperament. Juliette inherited her aunt Lucille's beauty and liveliness, and she was bright and moving.
One afternoon when Jerome was fourteen years old, he met Alyssa with tears on her face in her cousin Alyssa's room, and Alyssa's pain made him feel sorry for him and aroused his desire to protect, and he couldn't help but kiss Alyssa.
From then on, he was determined to take Alyssa as his wife, and regarded Alyssa as the priceless pearl of the Gospels. In order to make himself worthy of Alyssa, Jerome is strict with himself and strives to make himself better.
When he listened to the pastor's sermon in the church, he became even more convinced that he could be happy with Alyssa.
The pastor said, ".Strive to enter in at the narrow gate, for the wide gate and the wide way lead to destruction, and many enter it. But the narrow gate and the narrow passage lead to eternal life, which only a few can find.
In Jerome's view, the end of the "narrow gate" represents the end of "asceticism" and the end of "sorrow", and through the "narrow gate", you can get the happiness that your heart has longed for for a long time. Therefore, before he and Alyssa can truly move towards happiness, Jerome must learn to "restraint" and "restraint".
Although Jerome longs for love as the unity of soul and body, he believes that "restraint" and "restraint" are the efforts they must make on the road to happiness.
Especially when he knows that his cousin Juliet can't help but fall in love with him, and Alyssa also "sacrifices" herself to quit to fulfill his and Juliet's happiness.
Jerome's love for Alyssa is still like a rock, and it can't be turned.
In order to prove his determination to Alyssa, Jerome mustered up the courage to propose an engagement to Alyssa before leaving. However, Alyssa did not agree to Jerome.
This upsets Jerome, who asks Alyssa why she is rejecting herself.
Alyssa had no choice but to agree to write to Jerome to explain why.
Before he was truly happy, Jerome could only choose to respect Alyssa and leave alone.
After Jerome returned, he received a letter from Alyssa, who explained that she also loved him, but she was worried that she was older than Jerome, and that Jerome would change his mind and let Jerome grow up and talk about marriage.
Jerome thought that in the future, he would have to go through the hardships in front of him if he and Alyssa would be in pairs and walk together in all seasons.
He feltLove through the narrow gate will make their love more perfect, more sacred, and more eternal.
Perfect love bound by cross shackles
Alyssa's love for Jerome is also very complicated.
Even though she knew Jerome loved her, she loved Jerome dearly, and she was the leader of their love.
It's just that after witnessing her mother's infidelity in her marriage since she was a child, Alyssa longed for eternal and holy love with Jerome before God.
So, believing in the doctrine of purity, she tried to guide the love between the two under the light of religious belief. She thinks the way she loves Jerome the most is to push Jerome from her side to God.
She felt"Worldly love will defile faith and will deteriorate in triviality, and only by practicing piety and asceticism and staying away from worldly love can we lead to the "narrow door" of heaven and have happiness in the true sense. ”
Alyssa positions love very high, for fear that it will be contaminated with the dust of the world and will deteriorate in trivial life. She fears that the expression of her feelings will become a shackle to the other person's growth, and she fears that her imperfection will become an obstacle between Jerome and God.
She believed that the "narrow door" to happiness was based on the renunciation of one's own desires and worldly loves; And eternal happiness from God is far more important than staying together in ordinary life until old age.
And her and Jerome's love flows through letters. This method of correspondence is just enough for Alyssa to escape from the so-called "real world" and avoid the panic and nervousness of meeting Jerome.
So much so that when Jerome came to visit her in the middle of school and expressed his feelings to her, she refused; After Jerome's mother died, he went to live with Alyssa, and when he left, he confessed again that he wanted to be engaged to Alyssa, but she refused again. In the end, Jerome left gloomily.
In fact, she rejected Jerome's marriage proposal again and again, because she was afraid that once love returned to marriage, it would be tainted by the world and disappear.
Indeed, the yearning for beautiful love is the purest feeling in everyone's heart, and it is also the most tender and secret part of the heart.
But when she escapes from reality like this, wishful thinking fulfills Jerome for love, can suppressing herself really make Jerome go to the narrow door to eternal life?
Do you not plant because you are afraid of the flowers falling?
Alyssa's way of dealing with love is to love the imaginary virtual counterpart, longing for each other but afraid to meet, wandering between anticipation and fear.
As she said in her letter to Jerome, ".The farther away from you, the more I love you
Love is a game for the brave, and the reserved and suppressed feelings are actually against human nature.
Undoubtedly, the "immortal" love she chose in the narrow door was actually falling in love with a perfect fantasy.
The separation of faith and reality, spirit and flesh, not only gives love a mysterious color, but also a heavy shackle.
Alyssa finally wrote in her diary: ".Lord, the path you have shown us is a narrow one, too narrow for two people to walk side by side. ”
There is no doubt that Alyssa has chosen to go the path of pure spiritual sadomasochism with Jerome.
The surface is breezy and calm, but the actual pain is very painful.
In the end, Alyssa couldn't let go of her love for Jerome, allowing herself to constantly tear and struggle between faith and love, so that her heart was always deeply bound by this "holy" love, and finally died of grief in a sanatorium.
Reject perfect love and have the warmth of fireworks in the world
Toltex once said".If you strive for perfection, you will never be satisfied
Truly. If you imagine each other too perfect in love, and you don't dare to face the real each other in reality, this is actually blasphemy against love.
Alyssa is afraid that seeing each other's unbearable after marriage will ruin the imaginary "perfect" love. The reason for this is that she is unwilling to face pain, so she constructs a perfect paradise for herself.
The perfect, idealized love in her heart is actually a way for her to defend herself, to escape from her true emotions.
Alyssa left Jerome a diary after her death. She recorded in her diary every time she saw Jerome, longing for him to stay forever.
She saidWhen I was a child, it was for him that I wanted to be beautiful. Now that I think about it, the pursuit of 'perfection' is all for him, but this 'perfection' can only be obtained in his absence. God, this is one of your teachings, and it afflicts me the most.
Throughout her life, Alyssa has always been fascinated by the process of infinite approach to happiness, and escaped the arrival of happiness.
It is precisely because she refuses to accept the contamination of the world that their love loses the courage to be down-to-earth and the opportunity to achieve happiness. "Perfect" love turns out to be an eternal regret.
Because she gives so much meaning to love, she even hopes that through love can lead to eternal happiness.
However, too much love is destined to be unhappy.
True happiness can only be achieved if she accepts the flaws and imperfections in love.
In fact, the most mundane love in the world is not the most perfect love?
As it is written in "One Day of Zen": ".The fireworks in the world are the most soothing to the hearts of mortals
I once saw two rural elderly people on the Internet**, the 99-year-old grandfather's silver beard and white hair are particularly conspicuous, and the 97-year-old woman is also full of silver hair, deep wrinkles, and there is little left of her mouthful of teeth.
The two of them live in a very old house, they often sit at a small table in the courtyard, a bowl of rice porridge, two light wines, a small plate of snacks, drinking and chatting, and turning the coarse tea and light rice into the sweetness of fireworks in the world.
What is particularly warm is that the old man had difficulty getting up after sitting on a small stool, but the old woman stood behind him, holding the old man's buttocks with both hands, helping him get up and stand firmly, and then the two of them hobbled back to the house.
* Aroused heated discussions among netizens, thinking that the current life of the two old people is the interpretation of the most perfect love.
The two old men have been together for a lifetime without seeking wealth and nobility, and their love is the companionship of each other.
Standing dusk with you in your spare time, smiling in front of the stove and asking for porridge and warmth
These trivial details of life are to wait with love and feel with your heart, so that the days can be steamy, and this kind of love is the most perfect.
And Alyssa's touching self-sacrifice, the impeccable love that is pure to "perfection", makes people fall into an endless abyss, confined themselves to their own world, unable to see the outside world, invisible to all beings, and unable to see the most simple kind of happiness that belongs to the fireworks of the world.
In short, life is too short to demand the perfection of love life, only to do your best to love, to pursue happiness, and live without regrets is true.
Write at the end
There is a line in the movie "Big Fish and Begonia"."In a short life, we will eventually lose, we might as well be bold, love someone, climb a mountain, and chase a dream." ”
On the road of love, there is a narrow door, and on the road of life, there is also a narrow door. If you want to "widen the narrow road", appreciate the threeThe meal is warm, the four seasons are safe, and we will grow old hand in hand's love life is not a kind of "perfect" love road.
I hope that we can all see our hearts clearly in the face of the complexity of the outside world, find the right way to get along with love, choose the right narrow door for ourselves, and harvest a sweet love life.
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